I've gone out with this guy since march. and i love him to death. well lately he's been ignoring me and it hurts but he said it was for the best. he's in the army and he told me he's going away he told me to not to forget about him. and well now he's telling me to forget all about him...so that's confusing enough. his cuz got on his computer and told me he cheated on me so i broke up with him. which after i broke up with him i knew it was a bad idea. after that i've been crying to sleep...yea i know its a bad thing. but he's leaving tomorrow at 2am for Germany and i wont talk to him for a few years. he told me today when he gets back maybe we could go back out. and my friends tell me to forget about him and not to go back out with him. i don't wanna forget about him and i wanna go back out with him. Im totally and completely a mess. Help me please!!
2006-07-20 11:49:46 · 10 answers · asked by broken_hearts07 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Say your goodbyes now. If he wasn't faithful to you that is a bad sign. He's not the only guy in the world for you. Date a few guys and pick the best one--don't just put all your hopes into someone with whom you broke up for a legitamate reason. Plus, do you want to be an army wife and travel all over with him and be away from your family and friends?
2006-07-20 11:52:42 · answer #1 · answered by Tony T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey once a cheater always a cheater!!!! You will get through this, you need time to heal and forget about him.I think that since he is leaving you can still be his friend, but more than that is just crazy!!!! He will not be thinking about you when he leaves, and he might meet someone else. He is not even willing to wait for you, he said when he gets back!!!! He is not the one for you honey!!!! Someone else is out there, keep looking or better yet let love find you!!!!
2006-07-20 18:54:49 · answer #2 · answered by Chelly Belly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to change your focus.
You need to focus on *YOU* and not *HIM* now.
You sound like you need some time alone, to figure out exactly what you want from relationships and where you want to go with it.
You should take some time to heal. Go out and do things that you want to do and get your mind on new things. Leave him be. You both are on separate paths now, and that is a good thing.
You have to stop and think. You broke it off for a reason, and now that he is not there fr you, you want him. Trust in yourself. You walked away fro the right reasons. Now start your own path and walk tall!
Good luck.
2006-07-20 18:55:52 · answer #3 · answered by Khalen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hun... I know this is not what you are going to want to hear, but the best thing to do is just move on. I've been in a pretty similar situation to you, and I just had to end it and move on, even though it was hard. I think your ex was more trying to protect you and your heart, rather than pushing you away, because he would want to give you time to get over him just in case anything bad happens... rather than you having to deal with it after having been dating him for a while.
I wish you all the best of luck though, and please feel free to email me anytime if you wanna talk about it, because I know how you feel.
2006-07-20 18:53:37 · answer #4 · answered by Green-eyed Nikki 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all if he cheated on you I wouldn't be a rush to get back with him. What I would do is say goodbye to him as friends. This of course if for you to have closure in case something happens. Then I would move on. Regarding his behavior it sounds like he doesn't want to put you through worrying about him being over there. He probably doesn't think its being fair to you to put your through all that. And its probably tough for him to say goodbye. Some people just can't say goodbye because its too hard for them. . But what is really important here is you. But i would keep him and his family in your prayers being that he is in the military.
2006-07-20 18:58:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie,
I know you don't want to hear this but it's his job to worry about whether or not you see or talk to him. Had he wanted to keep things going but wasn't ready to be married, he could have written and called you and even arranged for you to visit. Instead he conducted himself quite poorly. That's a reflection on him, not you.
Don't second guess yourself as far as the break-up goes. Your instincts were right on. Your friends are right, forget him. Someone used to say to me, "It is what it is." I never understood that until recently but maybe you're smarter than I. Anyway, once you do get it it helps you to accept those things that feel unacceptable.
Listen to me, it's summer time. You are young; you are full of life; you have friends who care about you. Don't waste it! You owe it to yourself and to those of us who are routing for you, and aren't so young anymore and don't bounce back so quickly, to go out there and shine on!
2006-07-20 19:28:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Four years is a long time. You need to live your life. People change alot in four years, you probably won't even know why you liked him in the first place. I think you need to move on with your life
2006-07-20 18:52:57 · answer #7 · answered by mightymight 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't listen to your friends.. a friend that tells you what to do is not a friend.. they should give advice and it's your choice whether or not to take it.. hon if you love him and he seems to still have feelings for you then stay together.. i mean keep in touch.. write each other letters or whatever.. i talk to guys who are fightining in different regions.. listen to your heart.. it will make you happy.. not your friends.. girl if you can see him before he leaves.. do it.. go to him.. tell him how you feel and give him something to remember you by.. give him something extra to hold on to and to come back for.. best of luck
2006-07-20 18:59:19 · answer #8 · answered by Ninja CK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would find someone else as my mother once said once a cheater always a cheater you deserve better
2006-07-20 18:55:32 · answer #9 · answered by precious_52804 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't worry..he is probably just sad that he is going to leave you.
2006-07-20 18:51:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋