Would you ever date a single mum and how would you feel about the father being on the scene?

Question

I've recently become a single mum,and am so not even looking to date anyone at the moment as have way to much emotional stuff going on but I've always thought before my partner left that dating as a single mum is so much harder?Am I right?

Answer 1

No get the father babysit while you go get laid.

Answer 2

Sure it is harder, you will have to see to a babysitter. To the question of dating you as a single mom and father on the scene well I have done just that years ago. To be honest at first it was weird then as we got along more it became okay. It was awkward when he used to drop of the child support but l finally decided what the heck and invited him up for a drink then we all got along great. Would l to it again? Most certainly if the right woman showed up and believe me you are yourself and respect that so even if he is in the picture be honest and start "YOUR" new life!!!

Answer 3

Yeah, I'd date a single mother-I'm recently divorced, and my ex wife had two boys from a previous relationship...so I've got kind of a unique perspective. As for the father being in the scene-he has every right to be since you have a child with him, but he shouldn't try to wedge himself into any relationship you have with your next acquaintance, since that's your business. Dating is hard no matter how you look at it, and then you throw the whole 'little one' factor in the mix, it makes it that much harder. You have to find someone interested in a partially-made family already, and then there's the issues of what role the next person in your life is going to play in your child's life. What I did, since the father of the children was around, was not try to be their father, but at the same time let them know that they couldn't walk all over me-which wasn't easy either. Also, you have to kind've get approval from your child on who you date, since they're going to be affected by any decision you make if it ends up being long term

Answer 4

I married a woman with 3 kids at when I was 30. We lasted 4 years and being a step dad was probably the hardest thing I've ever tried to do in my life. I'm still single at age 38 and have no children of my own. I would date a woman with children again but I would recognize whether or not it was a good fit for everyone much sooner. Don't worry, there are still good men out there who want an instant family and they won't hold your situation against you.

Answer 5

Is different. Whomever comes knocking on your door, must deal with the fact that you have a significant other (s) living with you. You will have to make arrangements for time alone (what about the kid (s)? You will be looking at someone who can be there for you, but he has to be there for your child too, is he ready, willing and able to do that?

If the father will be around. How mature is he, to accept that his offspring is going to spent more time with a strange man, than him. How will he handle that. Your children will have a step father. The word implies negative responses are you ready for that?

Dating will be completely different, but it can be quite rewarding too. I did date a single mum, married here and even though we divorced 7 years ago I am still fond of her children (one of them lives with me).

Do not give up. You are still alive and the sun is shining your way. Good luck.

Answer 6

Myself personally, yes i would, its not the mother or the childs fault the previous relationship didnt work, as the sayin goes **** happens. However as long as ur upfront about being a mum when u meet a new guy and tell him whats going on there shouldn't be any problems, Good luck

Answer 7

First of all and most important of all, take time out to really know yourself and your babies! Your children will always be your babies even when they have babies of their own!! Second and just as important, your children at no point asked to be born it was your decision and that of your ex partner, therfore what ever decision you make about your dating and relationships now and in the future always think of the bigger picture with regards to your children. You can go out with or date as many potential partners as you deem fit, until you find Mr. Right , but your babies are part of you forever!!!!They will always love you and need you no matter what and won't care if you look like Pamela Anderson!!! From experience I have always took my time with both my kids and dating guys, and always asked any questions as honestly and approriately as possible Good Luck!

Answer 8

I'm a single Mum - and I found that when my little boy was very young, men tended to be wary (todders aren't that much fun to be around). Now that he's a little bit older (9 nearly 10) it's much less of a problem.

Good luck!!

Answer 9

People are different, some men will be scared by the fact you have baggage, excuse the term.

Others will not care and will only be thinking about their attraction to you, your child wil be secondary, and your ex even further down the road asmost of us have ex'sof one sort or another.

I had a relationship with a single mum and did not care about the fact she had a child and an ex.

Answer 10

apart from the baby sitting side of things i dont think that dating should be harder as a single mum.
if the man loves you he should be prepared to accept your child as well,your a joint package as such.
personally i would find it difficult to be able to deal with the father on the scene but thats a selfish point of view,id be jealous and try not to show it but obviously he should have contact with his child.
mike

Answer 11

single mums need love 2 and yes as long as the father is not a prat