I am a single dad and any time I go on a date my kids do not like it .
Not that I date often but I want to try and be happy and make my kids happy as well. It is mostly my daughter she is 8 that does not like it, What should I do my kids are my world.
Thanks.
2006-07-20 11:40:57 · 13 answers · asked by bowlingdoc 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
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2006-07-20 11:44:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you are just dating once in a while and not seeing a different woman every night of the week, you should sit down and have a talk with your daughter and make sure she understands that you and her mom arent getting back together and you would like to have someone in your life to make not only you happy but her as well, maybe you could try some kid friendly dates at first, i.e. zoo or something. Also you might want to find a nice woman that likes kids.
2006-07-20 11:48:32 · answer #2 · answered by julie_cano2003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a single mom and my kids are the same way.I will only go out with some who loves kids and make my first couple dates to include my kids , then they need to understand its "my" time and i can also see how my date and my kids get along to know if there could ever be a future between them.
2006-07-20 11:48:24 · answer #3 · answered by honestanswer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your kids probably don't like the idea of dad going out with someone because it takes away your time with them. If you want to start dating why not include the kiddos on it? Have her come over and all of you can eat and maybe watch a movie. At least try that for the first date and after your kids see that she's not so bad then maybe they won't mind you going out with her by yourselves.
2006-07-20 11:45:19 · answer #4 · answered by BeeFree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down with your daughter and explain that having a date with a woman doesn't mean you are trying to replace her mother or her in your heart... You are dating a woman to find companionship and more love...
Ask your daughter what exactly she doesn't like about you dating and address those issues..
Ask your daughter to help you choose a few women she would like you to date.. Ask her what traits she would like in a woman you date... Make her a part of the finding new love experience and she will fell less threatened by it...
When you speak with your daughter use age appropriate language but remember concepts of love, fear and need are universal... No matter how young or old we all have those feelings...
2006-07-20 11:50:11 · answer #5 · answered by Diane (PFLAG) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to them that you are an adult and need to date. Let them know that you love them. Also Let them know that you are not trying to replace mom!!! That is the big thing. Most children around 6-10 think that mom and dad will get back together. I would be willing to bet that that is the problem.
Let them know that you love them and they always come 1st but that you need a life with grown ups in it.
I wish you the best.
2006-07-20 11:46:29 · answer #6 · answered by aprillillie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them you need time for yourself but just say that there is always time for them. Do little things to let them know they are more important than your date. I remember being the same age and my mother was dating and I would flip out. I eventually grew out of it and didn't care that she dated.
2006-07-20 11:59:49 · answer #7 · answered by ? ? ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to spend time together, u and ur kids with the girl u r dating.ur kids might just jealous because ur attention was being divided.let ur kids feel that u love them equally.join them when u hv date wt ur girl.
2006-07-20 14:09:35 · answer #8 · answered by jen h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them you love them and love spending time with them but that Dad needs grown up friends too.
2006-07-20 12:04:48 · answer #9 · answered by Mollywobbles 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to them about it. Explain that, while they are your world, you do need friends. Be as understanding as possible, but you do need to live your life without ever neglecting them of course. Good luck to you.
2006-07-20 11:51:33 · answer #10 · answered by rhymingron 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋