My girlfriend calls me names like stupid and retard all the time and sometimes even says "i hate you"randomly. i know she is joking but still, that isnt cool. and she always seems to criticize me. am i being too oversenstaive or am i ok with being upset at this? i mean she is my gf after all. i dont know.
2006-07-20 11:31:10 · 21 answers · asked by Diego 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Everyone jokes around, but if she does this constantly and you don't like it she needs to slow it down. Have you tried joking back with her?...possibly she likes giving you trouble to get a rise out of you or she does this with everyone. Hopefully, she will outgrow some of this as she sounds like a young-minded person. You should state that someone mature wouldn't talk this way to someone they care about or anyone for that fact. I can only picture a young child talking this way and she needs to catch up or she will find herself alone.
2006-07-20 11:37:39 · answer #1 · answered by Geez Louise 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Diego,
Now that you have listened to all the others say their piece. Let me just share with you - mine. My relationship started out much like yours....that was 9 years ago. After about six months of hearing the put-downs and all the critical comments....joking or not....I began to break down inside. It turned what he was saying into my own self-destruction.
To make this long story short. I have held on all this time...hoping and praying that one day he would see what good things I do and stop being so critical. We are currently making plans to talk to my own children about the future because he does it so much now that he doesn't even realize it and I have taken it for so long...that I cannot do it anymore.
Diego- You both need to sit down and communicate about this one. I made that mistake a long time ago when I felt bad about what he was saying but, never spoke up.
Good Luck to you and your girl ~ I wish you both the best.
Laurie
2006-07-20 11:54:37 · answer #2 · answered by mystery46122003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is just rude... she should not down grade you like that and y ou are in all your right to be upset... sometimes it hahaha but there is a point that it gets frustrating and i think that you should let her know because if you do not tell her that it upsets you when she calls you stupid and retarded even if she is joking it could ruin your realtionship...
she might be your gf but i bet that if you called her half the things she tell you she would be "oversensative" no you are not being oversensative you have feelings and her being your gf should know better than to hurt them
2006-07-20 11:38:47 · answer #3 · answered by nikkig813 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bin her, toss her out like yesterdays garbage. She is not treating you right. No one needs her kind of ****. She is just mean. Leave her. let her be someone elses worry. You will respect yourself more when she is gone.
You will also leave yourself open for someone else to love you. She doesn't. Don't kid yourself. If she says she hates you, she hates you. a love would not joke like that. Ever.
Even without the I hate you, you still have the stupid and the retard. The only stupid and retarded thing I see is you putting up with her.
Respect must be earned, and you are proving yourself to be unworthy by not standing up for yourself. I don't know why she needs to break you down, but it doesn't build anyone up.
Love yourself, aqnd let someone selse love you for real, bin the *****.
2006-07-20 11:38:27 · answer #4 · answered by nik named mom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MAN even if shes kidding, thats till hurts!
she doesn't need to be with you if she does this!
retard and stupid are some powerfull words there mister! You really need to tell her how tyou feel about this!
and if that she doesn't stop all this hitt then your going to breake up!
No your being so not oversensitive! your just fine, and also hun you have all thrights you want! about being pissed with her!
Please dont lett her win!
she needs to stop acting like this!
She actin like a complete child!
I mean I know what you mean I got called a c u n t by Simeon and a ***** by malachi even though theywere messin around it still hurts!
I know what you mean dontle herwin!
2006-07-20 11:43:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I don't think you are over sensitive at all. Whether she is joking or not what she is doing has a name...it is called verbal abuse. It is not a cool thing at all. I would sit her down and tell her how it makes you feel at least that way it is all out on the table and she will be aware. If it continues than I would drop her like a bad habit. No one deserves to be disrespected like that and if she can't get that through her brain than she doesn't deserve you!!!!
2006-07-20 11:35:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your girlfriend will only do what you allow her to do. If you except her calling you names and such, she will continue. I suggest that you tell her that you are not comfortable with this and tell her that she needs to stop. If she refuses to stop then you are better off without her as this is a sign of things to come. When she gets bored with calling you names, she'll start hitting you.
Calling you anything that you find offensive is a form of abuse. Stand your ground, say what you mean and mean what you say. Don't allow your girlfriend to continue to bully you.
2006-07-20 11:38:12 · answer #7 · answered by gmommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love and respect go hand in hand. If there is love, there needs to be respect. If you have already let her know that it hurts your feelings to hear such language from her then however much it may hurt you, it is time for you to move on. Nothing in this world is worth losing a single day of your life feeling dejected about yourself.
2006-07-20 11:36:44 · answer #8 · answered by Maya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
personally I think that you are in a very abusive relationship, maybe not physically but emotionally.. you should talk to her and tell her that it hurts your feelings, even though she is kidding.. so yes you do have a right to be mad. I hope things work out, if you really care for her then try hard, other wise you should maybe look for someone nicer..
2006-07-20 11:42:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her how you feel , in a polite way be like "hunny i really dont like when you say that even just joking around because it really does make me feel like you dont" im sure she'll understand
2006-07-20 11:35:53 · answer #10 · answered by Crystal S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋