Im so mad just found out he was on Myspace and had pictures of hisself and not naming me at all what would you do say to him? I no for sure its over.
2006-07-20 11:22:01 · 14 answers · asked by California<3 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I hear ya. My girlfriend of 3 years did that to me, too. She even kicked me off her friends list. It's a contentious point between both of us and I feel really hurt. There are pictures of her up on my page and it's clearly evident that I'm in love with her. On her page, it's all about her with only an indicrect mention of me. Well, not even of me but the fact that she likes to be in a relationship. I used to be able to read her blogs, but then she turned them private, "Friends Only" status. I went berzerk and was really pissed/hurt because I felt like she was hiding things from me. It was okay for all of our mutual friends to know what was going on, but somehow it had to be a secret specifically kept from me? Yeah, not good. Not good at all.
However, her take on it - as well as it might be for your boyfriend - is that she just wants to feel single to some degree. Not dating single, just like she has her own life. Like, there's a level of independance that your boyfriend wants to achieve by chatting up old friends without having to edit himself around you. When two people live together, it is hard to give up every last bit of who you are and expose that to the other person. I guess I can understand it to some degree, but I still can't get over my gf kicking me out of it all. It hurts and we've talked about it. I understand her side of it and it's still an on going issue we're trying to work out. To give you a little insight, I'm also a bit clingy and over-protective of the relationship, which probably skews my viewpoint significantly. I'm still entitled to my feelings, like she's entitled to hers.
I would talk to your boyfriend and tell him how you feel. But do so in a way that shows understanding and compassion. Let him know that your feelings are hurt and that its hard for you to trust him when it feels like he's going behind your back. Also, let him know that it's okay to have his independance and do what he wants to, but since you two live together it's different than casual dating. You've invested in him and this relationship, as he has invested in you, too. Whataver he does affects you, and whatever you do affects him. Reassure him that you're not trying to micromanage his freedom, but that you just want to be kept in the loop. I don't know how long you have been together, but communication is key to making things all work out. I've been together with my gf for 3 years and we've had our ups and downs and are still trying to learn how to deal with our emotions. We also know that we're each not perfect people. So, it's not over for you guys. Take it as an opportunity to grow with him, not apart. Best of luck!
2006-07-20 11:24:58 · answer #1 · answered by rattwagon 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you shouldn't. i know people in relationships that do that and their partners don't care. It doesn't matter. Get over it. What is myspace but a website. If he actually cares about you.. he doesn't cheat. Saying he's single on myspace isn't the same as cheating. Not mentioning you... it's a guy thing.
2006-07-20 11:26:54 · answer #2 · answered by Suarz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first I would look to see when he posted this information on the website. It could have been posted before you were together and he just has not fixed it yet. If it is after you were together, then question him about it and see what the deal is. It just might be an oversight on his part. Make sure before you take action though.
2006-07-20 11:28:40 · answer #3 · answered by Just Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Approach him calmly about it - you're liable to get more honest answers out of him if you approach it in a calm fashion rather than to just start yelling at the guy. Are you sure it's a current my space page?
good luck
2006-07-20 11:27:00 · answer #4 · answered by Angelina 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmm how old is his posting? Before you met? If he FORGOT to update it, give him benefit of the doubt. Otherwise, if he is currently using that profile. Not much of a BF, so dump him.
2006-07-20 11:26:26 · answer #5 · answered by Guam nut 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say anything...move out while he's at work then post your good bye on his MySpace page..and also his pic on cheaters.com!
2006-07-20 12:12:06 · answer #6 · answered by Sharlala 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you end it forever, ask him if he meant single as in not married, or single as in not dating anyone. You can take it anyway you want from there.
2006-07-20 11:26:45 · answer #7 · answered by daisyk 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on whose name is on the lease...someone needs to find a new place to live.
2006-07-20 11:26:08 · answer #8 · answered by Kaia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FIND OUT and what he is up to on his my space... FIND OUT .. dont be an outsider..... be on alert to find what is his agenda that he stated himself SINGLE... or is he using you for his pleasure and never consider you as his glf???? protect ur heart!
2006-07-20 11:36:37 · answer #9 · answered by sunnya4life 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't get it. Is what it says on one website so important if it isn't a dating website?
2006-07-20 11:25:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋