do guys still ask the father for his daughters hand in marrage??

Answer 1

I think it is one of those traditions that disrespects the couples privacy and right to be in love without having to explain themselves. In the past marriage was so fixed and women were not privelaged the way we are now. Men chose their brides or they were selected for them. Now there is so much more emphasis put on the love of the couple. I would be EXTREMELY offended if a guy asked my dad before asking me to marry him. And this has NOTHING to do with being feminist....I actually can't stand most feminists. I just believe if I've found the guy I love, I won't let my parents say "no" because he has a bad hair cut or a low paying job.

I actually asked my boyfriend to marry me a couple of months ago because again, it's about us and not what tradition says.

I think people need to get over being followers and do what feels right for their relationship.

Answer 2

I have been engaged once before and currently engaged to my long term partner. I think it all depends on the couple themselves and their prospective parents. If the both of you personally feel its appropriate to ask the father, then do so. All too often people have no respect for their elders, families wishes or traditions, or worst of all themselves! After all that, if still in doubt, just ask the father! Would he think it important to be asked formally, and did the father do this when he proposed? Good luck I hope all goes well!

Answer 3

i know its old fashion but i think that the best way for a man to ask the father for his daughter hand in marrage i know it out of date but i am old fashion cant be help

Answer 4

Actually this would depend on a couple things.

First, is the daughter still living at home? If so, then yes, by all means they should ask the father.

Second, Has she been married before? If so, then no, the father has already given her away, and tradition states that he has no stake in it.

Answer 5

I have 3 older sisters who are all married now and I never asked them if their husbands asked our dad for his permission...well I'm engaged now and my fiancee told me that he asked my father for his permission and he said my dad about cried (and he is not the type, one of those manly men) I guess the first thing my dad said was "oh my baby" and then my fiancee said my dad looked him square in the eye and thanked him...he said he was the first to ask his permission and thought no one did it anymore and said it was the most respectful thing anyone had done in years...I swear my dad looks at my fiancee with a new sense of pride now....even if you feel a little awkward I bet you anything your future father in law would be touched that you came to him especially now a days...and your new fiancee will probably be very happy too, I know I was and I made sure to show my fiancee how much :)

Answer 6

My fiancee did - we're getting married next month! I'm an old-fashioned, romantic type of girl, and I think that that the prospective son-in-law should ask for her hand in marriage. On the other hand, I can see some of the more feminist girls out there finding it offensive because their fathers don't own them!!

Answer 7

that can go either way, i think a guy should ask your father for there daughters hand in marriage, it shows he respects your father and to me it means hes in it for the long run, any guy that can get in front of a girls father and ask that question must love the girl..lol but it goes either way, my friend Lucy her boyfriend of 3 years asked her father if he could marry lucy and then My friend Kay's boyfriend, didnt ask her father he was too afraid, so really some guys do and some guys dont.

id want my guy to ask my father.

Answer 8

Absolutely! At least I think so... my fiance asked my Dad on Father's Day no less. I really think it made his special day all the more special. According to my fiance, my Dad seemed a little surprised that people still did that and it made my Dad feel proud. I'm sure it went a long way for their relationship and mine as well.

I encourage any man to ask. Everybody wins!!

Answer 9

My dad and I've actually discussed this... yes, I'm traditional for the most part, but I guy asks me to marry him not my father. A guy may ask for my father's blessing but I'm the one whose hand is being asked for...anything else is like an 'arranged marriage'

Answer 10

It's a really nice gesture and paves the way for you getting on with her family too. It'll show her father that you are a gentleman and serious about looking after 'his little girl'. My dad's an iron fortress but if someone did that I'm sure they'd be great mates!