He is the one that keeps bring it up. i tell him that i will have one when he wants one, but i told him i dont want to be an old mum.
2006-07-20 11:11:53 · 18 answers · asked by Claire B 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
i did the same thing for 10 yrs.......then oops she had twins......guess when they are finally born you accept fate and grow up.
2006-07-20 11:14:15 · answer #1 · answered by The Whopper 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your husband that no matter how long you are married, it will never be the right time to have children. He sounds like he kind of scared. Let him know that you are scared too and children don't come with a rule books. If you have family or friends who have infants or small children, ask them if you could babysit for them for a few hours or over night. Just make sure your husband is there to help you.
2006-07-20 11:20:11 · answer #2 · answered by pmz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then he isn't ready because he's still too scared at the prospect. Talk to him, if he feels that his life will end and be soley about the baby, reassure him that he can still live his life only he'll have to dedicate some time to the baby. It isn't a case that you can never go out etc but it does limit you A LOT. He may never be ready for kids but he needs to realise this and take the plunge if deep down that's what he wants.
2006-07-20 11:15:24 · answer #3 · answered by Emma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having children is too serious a commitment to be wishy-washy about it. Tell your husband that you'll have children when he is eager for them for an extended period of time.... for a year or more. It's normal to be a little nervous about having kids, but he either wants them or not. Don't have them till you feel he is really ready.
2006-07-20 11:15:54 · answer #4 · answered by Regularguy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like he is under pressure to have kids! You need to chill out and give it time, if you keep pushing it will ruin everything.
I don't know how long you have been together but it sounds like he is not entirely sure about bringing up a family. You should be thankful that he has the decency to do that many men would not give a damn.
Concentrate on your relationship with each other, you need to build that up first.
2006-07-20 11:49:53 · answer #5 · answered by christine c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably knows that he wants children, but thinks maybe the two of you are not ready yet. this could be many reasons... the number one reason is usually money. But if you wait till everything is perfect you may never have children because no one is every totally prepared. I say go off the birthcontrol and let whatever happens happen. You both want kids so just go for it!
2006-07-20 11:15:34 · answer #6 · answered by wantme_comegetme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do what i did i let my man know we weren't using protection we carried on as normal and didn't stress about getting pregnant then when it did happen a year or so later we were both pleasantly surprised. if you want kids there may never be a perfect time, and by the sounds of it whenever it does happen your bloke isn't about to leave you, and shouldn't feel trapped as you have let him know.
my partner now regards our 3 month old boy as the best thing thats ever happened to him so just relax :) my partner was still in a state of shock when we did the test DUH! it was gonna happen eventually lol
2006-07-20 16:41:50 · answer #7 · answered by Kirsty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just don't bother him about it. He seems to be having fun changing his mind. Tell not to bring it up until he is ready. Showing some strength will make him make up his mind and stop toying with you
2006-07-20 11:14:38 · answer #8 · answered by nastaany1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to the Husband: go ahead now. If you delay it is possible that one of you may develop a medical condition which means you can't have kids. Have the confidence to start a family (she will still have time for you!)
2006-07-20 11:18:23 · answer #9 · answered by XT rider 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as if the idea of children is appealing to him, though the reality of it is way too scary with too much responsibility. Just be careful, I was in a similar situation, my boyfriend suggested to me that he was ready . . . . I became preganant . .. he then urged me to have an abortion!
Keep it real x
2006-07-20 11:18:36 · answer #10 · answered by Paula 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is just trying to make you think he does but deep down he is not sure and that is why he keeps changing the date.
2006-07-20 11:18:15 · answer #11 · answered by Jo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋