What should I advise my child to do when another child hits him? My son is four and probably as big as a 6 y/o

Question

I've noticed that the neighbor kid who is 7 hits him in the head or stomach and my child doesn't seem to care he only wants to play. It has only happened two or three times and the parents yell at their child if they catch him. Also today at the pediatrician's office my son started playing with a large clock that another child was also playing with at the same time before I even got two words from my mouth to tell my son that the other boy was playing with it first the other little boy smacked him so hard it left a welt. The little boy's mother scolded him, but I wanted to choke him. My child just stood there and did nothing. Should I tell him to hit back? I don't want him to hurt anyone or teach him violence, but I think if he would just once coldcock the neighbor, it would put an end to it. He has a very loving nature. What should I do?

It's funny that everyone suggests karate class. That is what the seven yr.old does and that is when he started hitting. That little boy is scared to death of me because I can give that look. But what am I gonna do scream at him? I have a trucker mouth.

Answer 1

NO wander you're confused on the appropriate action your child should take! One school of thought is telling your child to defend himself, and hit back! Yet, you worry if that is the appropriate course of action! Definitely a tough question! With a even more tough solution! I can only speak for myself. When I witness this with my child and another child, and their parent isn't present. I correct the child by bringing it to their attention, and demanding that they apologize and why they are apologizing. (I"m sorry I hit/slapped you, I didn't mean to hurt you. ) then tell the parent when I see them. I advise my preteen child to tell a responsible adult, be it a teacher/another parent/etc. Also to use her own judgement! If their is 4 kids hitting on you, then run like hell! But, if it's one,try talking it out first, if all else fails... smack them back as twice as hard! My child has been in a few little disputes, often at someone else's provoking. I also find that if my child was hit first, and she retaliated, and she got in trouble and not the other kid...ALWAYS DEFEND YOUR CHILD AND SUPPORT YOUR CHILD, YES, WHAT YOUR CHILD DID WAS NOT (EXACTLY) RIGHT, BUT, SHE DEFENDED AND RESPECTED HERSELF ENOUGH TO STEP UP TO PROTECT HERSELF! No one has the right to take that away from her! I have zero tolerance when this scenario happens... Good luck to you! I'd like to know how you made out!

Answer 2

Tell him to just walk away and go find an adult. I think if your neighbor hits your son then you should go yell at the kid. I think your neighbor would be very afraid and probably go tell his parents you yelled at him, which is what you want him to do because then his parents will probably yell at you and then you can state your case and tell that kid's parents to teach their kid some respect for other people.

Answer 3

Honestly....THAT BOY NEEDS A KARATE LESSON BECAUSE IF I LET A LITTLE PUNK HIT MY CHILD LIKE THAT I WOULD HAVE TO BE IN THERAPY. I do condone fighting but not in this case, just talk to the boys parents about their son hitting your son, and taking him to karate lessons so he could learn self defense...i don't know if 4 year olds can take self defense classes but if i were you i would check up on it. No one should hit on your son, that 7 year old needs to keep his hands to himself.

Answer 4

Honestly, you should talk to his school counselor for advice. On here, you'll get alot of "take him to boxing school" and "knock the other **** out". This may not be the best advice.

Frankly, while no child should be a victim of a ill-behaved child, I'd rather have him taking the punches than dolling them out - you know? It much easier to have a pacifist child than to have a child with anger issues.

Answer 5

Therapists won't agree with me on this, but I say to teach your child to fight back. He's going to need to learn to stand up for himself eventually, or people will just run him over every time. There is nothing wrong with a child defending himself. Think about this. Best of luck to you............

Answer 6

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Answer 7

tell him to always hit back when struck but also impress him that he should not hit first unless protecting family.

Answer 8

tell him he needs to tell an adult thats around when it happeneds