Ive been working in the Department as a secretary/admin for a year and I find this lecturer (whos very hot at 40 with kids) very attractive. There is definitely sexual chemistry between us. How should I approach him, that I just want sex from him? I know he finds me attractive by the way he gazes at me. Hes also quite a shy guy and very intelligent and articulate.
I am a University graduate with a degree so Im not dumb and am fully aware of the repucussions. I cannot help nature - this attraction is really intense. I want this man so much (just one passionate night of sex). I would just like to know how to go about asking him....By the way - Im a Scorpio ;)
2006-07-20 10:51:26 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I hope he isn't married, dear.
2006-07-20 10:56:19 · answer #1 · answered by westgaliberty 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
So being a Scorpio makes it alright???? This man is married..with children..a colleague of yours...so he didnt even choose to meet you...Just put yourself in his wife's position. Would you really want someone like you turning up. I'm not saying you actually have a chance, but I've always said "It's nice to be nice". Do you have a husband and children? If not, why not? Do you have respect for others? Do you really want to hurt his family? You say you've got a degree so you're not dumb? I disagree. This isn't an insult. Its fact. Not the answer you wanted, but its the answer you need to hear.
2006-07-20 18:01:22 · answer #2 · answered by Jackie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you are a mature level headed girl, and you fancy him. He may also fancy you. You need to decide if you want a one night stand with him or if you want to compete with him against his wife.
If you want a one night stand, and anticipate a passionate night, then go for it, he will be happy to oblige I am sure if you believe he fancys you. The simple way is to say you have two tickets for an event, and your friend can't go, would he like to accompany you. The rest is a matter between you and your chemistry.
However if you want to compete with the wife, you need to do a lot more research into their relationship, and you are generally on a slippy slope, because whilst guys will be happy with a one off sexual encounter, leaving the wife is a more difficult matter.
2006-07-20 18:03:48 · answer #3 · answered by Pearse A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GO AHEAD AND ASK HIM
If you want to look like a sl*u*t
If you want the people you work with to have no respect for you
If you want to ruin his wife & childrens lives
If you are so selfish that you would count a possible future orgasm as more important than a family's hurt and pain
If you have no respect for yourself
You may be an university graduate but that only means you went to uni it obviously did not help you to learn morals, values, common decency, the way to treat other people nor did it teach you to think of others.
Give me someone with a moral code and values rather than a woman who only considers herself and is so selfish she would hurt an innocent woman and children for the sake of an hours pleasure
2006-07-20 17:59:39 · answer #4 · answered by madamspud169 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you, or did you not, just say he is married??? what is wrong with you, leave that alone. He is married, and I hope happily, go find someone else. Shame on you for being so selfish, you don't try to come between a married man and his wife, and yes even 1 night of sex will do that. If you do approach him I hope this man has enough dignity and respect for his marriage to turn you down.
2006-07-20 17:56:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your a University graduate so be smart enough to find an available man. Your Naivete borders on psychotic, a man with children can't want anything or give anything believe me he left it at home. You don't know the repercussion, your horny and it has taken away your reasoning powers. Your a female dog in heat. you just want something forbidden and your playing. So go get your **** on and thin return to normal Ms. educated with degree.
2006-07-20 18:53:56 · answer #6 · answered by Gingerbread Man 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK - for a moment lets forget the repercussions with his wife and children and think about this
what if he is only flirting as a bit of fun? if you proposition him it will make work very embarassing for you
or what if he just wants a one nighter - how will that make work for you ? what if he wants more and you dont - what if he leaves his wife for you?
all these things could make work a misery
is it really worth it - there are many single guys out there - complications are always much less
but on the other hand dont let anyone judge you - its your sexuality you enjoy it --- just think throuhg the multitude of consequences
2006-07-20 17:57:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever degree you do or dont have, this is a MARRIED MAN- he belongs to somebody else, and asking him for sex makes you into a cheap, nasty, easy slag. You say youre not dumb????You are as thick as two short planks if you think this sort of thing has no repercussions. Grow up and buy yourself a Rabbit, and stop trying to bust up other peoples relationships.
2006-07-20 18:47:02 · answer #8 · answered by k0005kat@btinternet.com 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, if you want it. I was 40 and my wife 19 when we married. we have started a family together and are very happy. Age is only a number. Before I married my wife I dated women 10 to 20 years younger alot. And surprisingly they approached me about relationships. Many many women find older men sexy and attractive. So you arent alone. Have fun and enjoy!
2006-07-20 17:58:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because your a university qraduate doesn't mean your not dumb. You clearly (like many other people who say there clever) have a lack of common sense! I mean you want to destroy his family just for one night of passionate sex!!!!! Grow up! Realise how much damage you could cause and Get over him!
2006-07-20 17:58:05 · answer #10 · answered by *JOSHIEY* 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WITH KID - are you not a kid yourself - Stop think how would you feel if that was your husband - a child of you age should be able to get sex in your own age group he has a family how would you feel if that was you DAD what Scorpio got to do with it except you have a sting in your tail - no go and play with your own age group
2006-07-20 18:35:39 · answer #11 · answered by Maggie C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋