He wants to do it with me and another girl...he said it's a fantasy he had for a long time but I don't want to share him and I don't think it's a good idea. I think he should have thought about that when he was a "player", "pimp", or whatever. What should I do? I love him to death but I'm not going to do something I'm not comfortable with. What do you think?
2006-07-20 10:45:38 · 53 answers · asked by ♥Ms. Heart♥ 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Pardon a mere male! Tell him to fcuk off and get TWO girlfriends and preferably ones know each other and who like threesomes
2006-07-20 10:51:21 · answer #1 · answered by knoWall 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stick to your guns. No couple benefits from a 3-some unless they are both equally as excited about the idea. If you do this for him, you'll resent him and all your insecurities will come out. I can't see how bringing a stranger into bed with you two would improve things between you. Want more proof? Watch the Sex & the City episode where Charlotte considers having a 3-some with the man she's seeing (I believe it's at the end of the first season, or the beginning of the 2nd season). Good luck.
2006-07-20 10:48:42 · answer #2 · answered by SuperJenn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is the truth...You are not made for each other. He will want to have a threesome all his life, and eventually he will. I am not even going to blame the guy. You need a guy that isn't into that. Let me assure you, EVERY guy is into that, but some more than others. I wouldn't do a 3 way with 2 dudes...And quite frankly, I would do a three way with 2 chicks if I didn't care about them...But, If I was really into one of the chicks, I don't know if I would want to do a three-way. Just my personal thoughts..Also, as free advice, if he has requested butt, and you have not served it up, he is shopping around for a new girl as we speak....Furthermore, If you do not swallow, he is shopping around for a new girl as we speak...
2006-07-20 10:53:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make me laugh again. Who's in control, you or your boyfriend? If you don't want a 3-some, you just tell him whether he likes it or not. If he doesn't agree with it, so what. What's this with his fantasy, wanting to have sex with two girls at the same time, when he already has a girlfriend? How stupid. He's a player for sure. If he wants to do that, both of you stay out of the relationship, and find yourself a good boyfriend, let him do what he wants on his own, when he wants it.
2006-07-20 10:50:18 · answer #4 · answered by Mstislav 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your not Comfortable then don't, he SHOULD understand. trust me on this you can not have a threesome with someone you have feelings for. When you see him playing with another girl your going to freak and that image will never leave your head and plus your going to be thinking all the time if he liked her better then you. the only time you can have a 3some is if its with someone you don't know or friends with. If he doesn't agree then tell him to go fly. O and one more thing don't let him tell you he just wants to watch b/c it don't happen that way.....trust me!
2006-07-20 11:38:50 · answer #5 · answered by Jenncapa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your boyfriend really loved you then he would respect your feelings about not wanting to share him with another girl and all he would want would be you. tell him you have a fantasy about having a threesome with 2 guys and see what he thinks about that.
2006-07-20 10:53:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never let anyone pressure you into doing something you do not want to do. Be a strong sister. If he cannot respect your position on this subject, leave and find someone who loves and respect you for who you are. Some things that some men consider to be exciting and a fantasy can be so upsetting.
2006-07-20 10:51:33 · answer #7 · answered by joebaby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think U should tell him NO and that U want himm all to ur self and tell him ur scared that U might loose him if he gets atracted to another girl or watever and if U dnt agree wit wat I jus said then jus tell him wat U said/typed: "but I don't want to share him and I don't think it's a good idea, I love him to death but I'm not going to do something I'm not comfortable with" ya jus say that and if he still wants to do it then really think, iz he thu right guy for me, the one who respects my feeling??? do I feel the way I really feel or are my thoughts, beliefs & etc. covering the tru feeling I have for him???
2006-07-20 10:57:18 · answer #8 · answered by valerie m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look sometrimes we are face some bad thing in life. An this is one where you will have too go with heart. Not with love. Do what you feel that is best for in your life. It may not be the best for what you think that would make your relationship work. But what make you happy. Know matter what you do life. Make it your on!
2006-07-20 10:51:46 · answer #9 · answered by sugarbear3499 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your right if you don't want to than dont coz if you do you'll never live it down and it opens up a door that is hard to close. Or if you want a threesome with him and another man first then you might concerder what he wants. I sure wouldn't
2006-07-20 10:51:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋