how should i behave myself with my husband who is not understanding my character and my feelings for him?

Question

i have been married for 6 months.arranged marraige,but soon when we got to know about each other we started loving.we fought several times.he has even physically abused me 3 times.i still love him inspite of all my problems and his hits to me.when ever there is a fight he leaves me and goes to his parents which is really hurting me alot.several misunderstandings,but at times he behaves with me well,were i wonder if it were my husband?i have been placed in a good job,and he has not been yet.we do quarrrel about job and money lots of time.even if i speakout nor keep quiet our quarrel peaks up.i am really stressed out of this problem.when he is angry i try myself to be quiet,but he speaks in a extreme were i am put in a situation to quarrel.now too we are in a quarrel,he is'nt with me,with his relatives.i talk to him what ever i think about in my life and our problems, but he does nt share his thoughts with me.so,i knew not what is going on with himself of this communication block.THANK U

Answer 1

Oh this is going to get ugly....

Well, everyone is going to come up with their idea of what you should do based on their cultural belief against arranged marriage. They are from different cultures and while they will speak for diversity most of the time - it is only diversity if you are doing the same things as them slightly different.

You are six months into this marriage. You are both still getting used to each other. Plus, your husband has not gotten a job yet; this is very hard for a man - especially when his wife is bringing in the money. His anger though, is not good. If at all possible, you need to get his mother to the house. She will see how you act around him and if you do not complain (I am making some assumptions here about what your nationality is - different cultures handle things differently) I think she will intervene on your behalf. Good luck with this.

Answer 2

first off i truly understand ur situation, ive been married for 12 yrs and we do have a communication issue, but we are working at it. first off the hitting needs to stop, he wont stop hitting you trust me and second if hes not communicating with you he's communicating with others, possibly another women and or his mother and friends who are probally giving him bad advice. give him options and if he doesnt agree to any then leave! period you do not need to be in a abusive relationship, weither its physically, mentally, or verbally.....

Answer 3

DIVORCE