Why do women complain about children they have and then make excuse??

Question

I am tired of hearing women complaining about things when it comes to their children, their jobs, their LACK of social life,.. i usually tell them, THAT is what you get for spreading those legs, you got'em deal with them.

I am not a mother but i grew up with women and i'm sorry to say that about 75% of you live on gossip. I'm not saying that just becuz, well what is the problem if you can't let daddies see their kids but you gotta ***** about not gettin time apart, **** let him see them at least you get some life to yourself. I am very fortunate to not have kids right now, I love children but not these parents who cant get off their asses to provide needs and ****....Some women are fine with their children and I admire that but there are **** loads of them out there that moan ,groan and complain..

Answer 1

You are right! I mean, there are kids out there (as well as adults) who should've never had a child (or children) because they ***** and complain all the time.
They are usually the ones who dress their kids half a$$ to go to school, could not care less about the way their kids are treated or the way they treat other people.
I know it is a lot of hard work to take care of a child....but, that is the price (and the reward) of being a parent! No one said that being one was easy. Some of these people are real pains because they think they are entitled to get away easy with being a parent.
'I can't do this, or I can't do that, or 'Such and such did this and that and I do not know what to do and I wish this and that....
Look. You wanted the kid. If you didn't, you should've either never opened your legs in the first place, learn what protection was (for God sake's you can get that for free at some clinics) or got an abortion and learn from your mistakes. But, no. You did not. So don't ***** and complain to everyone like everyone out there gives a sh!t!

Answer 2

First of all, women are raised with a fantasy about the perfect relationship they will have, culminating in a dream baby.

Second, society has become very disjointed. We don't even use the phone anymore, or put pen to paper. We dash off an email, if that. Traditionally women have raised their children TOGETHER with others in their village. We don't have villages anymore. We have big houses with no sidewalks, and nowhere to walk to. You have to go to a city or an older community to find a neighborhood park and library within walking distance. You know the phrase "It takes a village to raise a child?" It's true.

As a society, if our culture scorns parents and turns its back to issues of parenting, education, healthcare, nutrition etc., then parenting becomes a very lonely occupation. (Look at how society is today - people fatter, poor getting poorer, education deteriorating. This is a result of everyone in society looking out for themselves and not the whole.)

If the women you hear only crab about their kids, it could be because they don't have the chance to do anything accept observe their kids and worry about them. True, for whatever reason their coping skills are not what they need to be, but then you don;t know what you're getting into when you have a baby. Having one is an act of faith. So they got a child that challenges them and they don't handle it well.

Maybe you could offer a hand. Try changing topics. But until you've walked a mile in her shoes, you have no idea what her life is. Parenting is a mom's number 1 job. Do you ever complain about YOUR job? The next time you complain about something in YOUR sphere of experience (job, boyfriend, whatever), remember people may talk about you the same way you talk about her.

Answer 3

I have no I idea. I am a teenager and when my mom does that that really gets on my nerves. I wonder what was she thinking. Did she think past or times of being a baby. She should a have been aware of the trials that were to come during the long 18 plus years of hour childhood. I really don't know why women complain. Maby there minds have changed and they have had a transition of desires in their life. I know that sometimes women may become tired of the family life and want some freedom and time to their selves. As I think I can clearly put myself in their shoes and have a good perception of how they could. feel. I now realize that sometimes women get tired of serving everyone and never have anyone to serve them. What I would if I were them is do is take a vacation.

Answer 4

Just because women sometimes complain about their children doesn't mean that they don't love them. We are only human! The fact is that raising children is not easy... it's stressful! Sometimes women just need to vent a little bit to let off some steam...They just need a FRIEND to talk to. I'm sure you sometimes complain about some of the challenges in your life.... That doesn't mean that just because mothers sometimes complain that they would change a thing. I sometimes do, but I wouldn't trade ONE of my kids for anything... I LOVE my children very much and I do my best to be a good Mom..They are ALL worth it! It's obvious you don't have kids, because you can't relate... I have found that most people who haven't experienced being a parent just don't really understand a lot of what we parents are dealing with....A VERY challenging journey, but at the same time, a VERY rewarding one.
P.S. I really find your comment about "spreading those legs" pretty offensive.

Answer 5

Not all women do that. I know I don't. I complain about working in a factory to my fiance sometimes. It's something I have to do if I want to be a nurse though. I can also honestly say that I have no social life. I don't complain about it though. I'm a homebody. I would much rather be at home with my fiance and our kids watching movies than going out to party. I do agree with you somewhat. The ones complaining about their lives at the present are the ones not doing anything to fix it. Like I said, working in a factory wasn't my ideal career, but it's what I'm doing until I finish school. As far as my kids, I love them. I love spending time with them, I love taking them to do things. I even think they are very fun to be around. Too bad every mother doesn't have that instinct.

Answer 6

Yes I tend to agree here when you encounter this with some women.. actually too many.. but I would have to say it has been from my experience that if I were to be that miserable.. which I have been at times.. I realize that with my own effort, my power of convictions and yes - believing in my self enough where if in their position ..
instead of b*tching.. I would get a life.. change jobs, ditch the loser..and yes parent my children!

good question -thanx for letting me vent about these women and men that do what your Q said!..lol

Answer 7

some of them complain cuz that's what they've done for years, and that's all they know......... I agree with you when I encounter this with some women.. actually alot, from my experiences. I would have to say that when I watch my wife, I realize that with some effort, and believing in our capacity as parents we can work with everything and hope that others can do the same. They should stop their complaining, get a job and get rid of the shmuck!!! It'll be tough at first, but get over that hump and they should find it to be easier.........

Answer 8

ha you must not have children, or hmmm maybe its that your not a real parent, perhaps a bitter old women that missed out of the joy of creating a life, because a real parent would treat there kid as they are there life, and want them to be the best they can be......if my children went on welfare and lived in a trailor park hell yeah ide complain out of love i would try to push, guide, nudge whatever it takes to get my babies young or old to be in the right direction.

Answer 9

I guess for the same reasons you complain about people that are around you. Why don't you choose not to be around those people? Or just choose not to listen to them? Or choose not to come online to gripe about having to hear other people gripe? Is it because those options are entirely too rational?

Answer 10

I know a few people like that as well....We ALL have our problems.....deal with it.

I think most look for sympathy. Some are sincere and just need someone to talk to and guidance.