Today my mum told me i could lose a few inches and my dad continues to tell me to diet. However I am 5 foot 9 and weigh ten stone, which is not over weight. My parents dont seem to understand what this does to my self esteem. I didnt wanna go out of the house this morning i thought i looked so bad. They are sposed to be there for me and all they do is tell me i look fat. I feel so low.
2006-07-20 10:23:57 · 31 answers · asked by chatterboxrools 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Tell them to BOG OFF!!!
2006-07-20 10:26:53 · answer #1 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there,
I bet you are very nice looking. I also bet your parents don't mean it in the way you feel it. Sounds to me like something I might do to my child without realizing it was hurting her. They must think you are beautiful and want you at your best so you can have the best. I bet they really love you a lot. There is always some kind of clash going on between parents and their children, but I am positive of one thing--I bet they do love you or you'd be telling more cruel things..... Why don't you sit your mom and dad down one evening and tell them this is so serious to you and that you actually feel so bad by the time they are through telling you these things that you don't even want to be seen because you believe them.....Then ask them "Do you try to hurt me or is there another reason for you always telling me I look fat". Do they take good care of you? Teens go through a lot these days and they need ALL the support they can get, esp. from mom and dad. Think of all the good things they do for you...I mean clothes, cleaning, food, and give you a home, hopefully pretty peaceful. Some kids are shoved out the door so please try to remember to tell mom and dad thank you for taking care of me and see if that doesn't get to their heart! It is very hard to keep an open relationship with your mom and dad but it sure could be nice if you guys could talk together and it would be very good for you to be serious one evening and say I want to talk to you mom and dad about something very important. I hope things go well for you. I hurt my kids once in a while and didn't even know it until they were older and we were talking. I can't think of anything better, unless you want to be ugly and say hey if you keep this up, I will eat more and get fat so you will see what you did to me! No, that is not a good answer.
2006-07-21 02:55:06 · answer #2 · answered by dreamcatcher01532 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is ridiculous, you are a healthy weight, in fact you are getting v close to the border of being underweight. Your parents should realise this and support you in your critical teenage years.
Are your parents arguing a lot? They could be having problems and conciously or unconciosly taking it out on you. If so make sure that they know you are not their scapegoat, they should have the maturity to talk to each other and solve thier own problems.
However is your weight distributed evenly? It may be the case that you are a normal woman and have fat stored more in certain parts of your body then others. Most women have a bad fat spot, whether it be their tummy, love handles, thighs, these are all a result of women being designed to store fat for carrying children. If you have a bigger part of your body this may make you appear bigger than you actually are. If this is the case, dress accordingly, bingo wing arms are not flattered by short sleeves for example. Try different clothes and wear things you are comfortable that also make you look great.
Be happy with your body whatever shape or size xx
2006-07-20 17:36:33 · answer #3 · answered by Emma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, variety is the miracle of life and wether you are fat, thin, short or tall, you must cherish your looks. Parents often put pressure on thier children due to worries for thier well being. Try to understand them and remember that today we live in an era when image has become uneccesarily paramount. Be happy with what you have and look to the future. Dwelling upon other peoples opinions will just keep you down. BE HAPPY! There is a lot more to life than how you look. Try saving up and getting a flight to somewhere you have never been. The Louvre is quite spectacular!
2006-07-20 17:55:12 · answer #4 · answered by mick241602 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
10 stone in weight for your height, is just about right, and you are certainly not overweight....ask the opinion of your friends....im sure they will say that you have a wonderful figure. Maybe your mum is jealous and says this to make herself feel better. I am 5 feet 8 inches tall and weigh about 12 stone, and i only look slightly over weight....so i would say that you have no problem......anyway, its whats inside that counts, not what you look like.
Hold your head high sweety and take no notice of them....i wish you all the best.
2006-07-20 18:08:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you stand? Seriously, if you slouch you can add pounds to the way you look, so if you don't already do so, pay some attention to an old-fashioned thing called 'deportment'. It has other benefits as well; if you imagine that you have a piece of string that you have to align from the top of your head to the soles of your feet through your backbone, you will automatically lift your chin, straighten your shoulders, so your stomach will be pulled in a bit, and stand taller. Then you can look them in the eye when you tell them to bog off!
And for our American friends, there are 14lbs to a stone, so 10st = 140lbs. Those who are dealing in new money, 140 lbs is about 65.5 kilos
2006-07-20 17:31:17 · answer #6 · answered by musicalj2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first off, I want you 2 know that ur are beautiful no matter what anybody says. Whether it be your mom, your best friend, or the president of the U.S.A. You shouldn't let NOBODY out you down. I know exactly where ur commin from because people used to say lil stupid stuff about me and it really hurt my feelings to the point it haunted me until High School. Also you should tell your parents how you feel and that it makes you feel. Because if they don' t know then they will continue to do this...yano?
2006-07-20 17:29:23 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs. Depp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't sound like you have a weight problem to me. You could remind your parents that as they provide your food they are responsible for your diet; but it doesn't sound like your weight is the issue.
Your parents shouldn't be acting this way. I suggest you go see your gp for a quick health check. They can't argue with that, plus your gp may know of youth support in your area. If you could get some support from elsewhere, you wouldn't feel so alone.
2006-07-20 17:37:49 · answer #8 · answered by sarah c 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how much is ten stone? WEll I know how you feel, my mom starting witholding food from me, and I am not anywhere close to fat, I am your height and 130. I hate it, I got such a low self esteem after that that I stopped being able to talk to people. Now I am gaining back some of my confidence, little by little
2006-07-20 17:30:22 · answer #9 · answered by Jessica 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who the hell do they think they are? Don't they realise what they are doing to you? I'd confront them! I'd also go onto one of those weighing scaled that work out whether you are over or underweight depending on your height, weight and build. YOU ARE NOT OVERWEIGHT!!! IGNORE THEM!! I am 5'7 at 9 stone and I am a size 8 (uk). Just take what they say as a pinch of salt...they dont seem to understand by the sounds of it...in fact they may just be teasing you...I think I would have it out with them to be honest. Best of luck!
2006-07-20 19:34:18 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents are so weird! My mum tells me I'm 'getting big' all the time. I just go, 'Yeah, look who I take after!' It used to upset me all the time, and I'd spend hours crying about it, but then one day I just went 'oh get stuffed, I don't have a problem being me'
I know where you're coming from, our parents should be there to support us, but they get confused on the way too. Just tell them to be grateful you've not got an eating disorder with the way they treat you.
2006-07-20 17:34:40 · answer #11 · answered by Pink Laydee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋