how do i tell my future mother in law that i dont like her taste for my wedding when she keeps planning and buying things lie plastic champange glasses and tacky things like that
2006-07-20 10:22:23 · 18 answers · asked by j 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Your fiance should handle this. He should tell her to stop buying things for his wedding since it's already under control She had her opportunity for a wedding. This one is his.
2006-07-20 11:20:34 · answer #1 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I definitely wouldn't tell her that you don't like her taste. I would just let her know that this is a very important time for you and you have specific ideas of how you want your wedding to be. Tell her that you really appreciate all of her extra efforts but that if she wants to buy things for you then maybe you should go with her so that you can pick out exactly what you want and get her oppinion.
2006-07-20 17:10:40 · answer #2 · answered by alfirox2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thank her for her help, but tell her that you'd rather this. If she disagrees, then remind her that this is YOUR wedding, not hers. A wedding is a little girl's dream, and it shouldn't be spoiled by anyone. Another thing, have a back up plan to everything, just in case things don't work out. It's a pain in the butt, but then you'll be completely organized for your special day and you won't have to stress about it. Best of luck to you....I hope your marriage is the envy of your friends..........
2006-07-20 10:28:53 · answer #3 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, this is your wedding, but it's also your fiance's wedding. This wedding should reflect his tastes as well as yours.
That said, get a firm hand here. Tell your mother-in-law gently but firmly that you appreciate her help, but that her tastes clash with yours, and you want your wedding to reflect your tastes. Ask her to ask you before she makes purchase for your wedding. Tell her you will hear her suggestions, but the final decision is yours and your fiance's.
If she won't listen, cut her out of the planning, except where mother-of-the-groom issues are concerned. (I'm assuming you're the bride, not the groom.) Ask your fiance to intervene for you here.
2006-07-20 10:28:15 · answer #4 · answered by MNL_1221 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just sit down with her and explain that you want your wedding a different way. That you dont mean to hurt her feelings, but your wedding day (hopefully) only happens once, and you want everything to be perfect and that you hope she understands and will support you in your decision.
Also tell her that you would love to have her assist you with the wedding, this will make her feel involved and important, but the decisions are yours.
2006-07-20 10:28:31 · answer #5 · answered by Paradise Weddings & Travel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her gently how ou feel. It's youre wedding. Tell her you appreciate what she's doing but you'd rather plan it on your own and would love her feedback on it if she could. It's your day not her's so treat it like so but in a nice way.... seems like she loves you already... she may just understand..... or if you'd like for her to help you tell her what you don't agree with and she should undertand and if not try another approach.
2006-07-20 10:27:52 · answer #6 · answered by red head girl 06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you apreciate her help, but you've thought about this for a long time and you have a good idea about how you want everything to be. Give her little tasks so she thinks shes helping, but keep an eye on her so she doesn't put her own spin on things.
2006-07-20 10:27:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her you have already purchased most of the items (even if it is in your mind that you know what you want) and that if she wants to buy things for the wedding she may have to take them back...
you could also give her a list of things you DO want for your wedding and tell her your vision of the perfect wedding... you could ask her for suggestions, but remind her that you care about her opinions but not to get upset if you do it YOUR way
2006-07-20 10:27:28 · answer #8 · answered by Kari 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You tell her nothing. You have your financee tell her that while you're appreciative of all her help, you really want to do the planning and purchasing for your wedding yourself. If you tell her, I guarantee you will totally tick her off, but if her son tells her, she'll be fine. This is how my husband of 18 years and I deal with each family, I deal with mine, he deals with his. Works great! Good luck and Congrats!
2006-07-20 11:33:32 · answer #9 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try not to be harsh but it is your wedding and you want everything to be perfect. If there is something you don't like tell her in a nice way. But be appreciative of everything she is doing for you guys. Good Luck!!!
2006-07-20 10:31:27 · answer #10 · answered by Nikki 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋