I am 21 years old. I dont have too many of my own friends becasue I have a hard time trusting. I have been with my boyfriend for a year now, but I have known him for five. He knew who I was before he was with me. I dont ask too much of him, except for him not to leave me alone. We both work from 8-5 everyday, so me, I like to spend the couple hours of my evening with him. He always wants to hang out with his friends, and even when we are together, he ignores me. Do I sound like I am asking for too much? I mean- I dont mind hanging out with his friends once ina while, but really all I want is to be with him- all of the time! Am I crazy to want this?
2006-07-20 10:11:56 · 31 answers · asked by nat_00420 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Do you have friends?
2006-07-20 10:15:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes and NO. The fact is spending time together is something you both should want. He should be allowed to spend some time with his friends however, by himself. You say you do not have many friends but you do have some hang out with them as well without him. The fact is everyone need some time to be with thier friends. If you 2 are always together it will get old. Sounds to me like it may already be getting on his nerves a little. He I think loves you but he also needs his space. You need to work on your trust issue. If he does love you dont worry he wont do anything to hurt you. Let him have one or 2 evenings a week or a night on the weekend where you 2 can do whatever you want without the other one. It will be OK.
2006-07-20 17:21:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Babe, of course you are not asking too much from him. He is a fool not to realize that you enjoy being with him, yet he choses to be with his friends. Just be patient until you can go no more, don't get pregnant, very important! Otherwise you'll be tied to him for a good while. If at some point in time you cannot take this situation anymore, go for something else, far more men exist with better qualities who know how to appreciate a woman, and cherish the time that we spend with them. All I can think of is that he is a damn fool, do his friends leave their wives at home too? I bet not, yet he does not realize that his so called friends are not his friends indeed, you go ahead find some female friends to hang out with and everytime he goes out, you call them and hang out too. One day He'll realize how much he's changed you and will be sorry for that.
Strength girl. Good luck!
2006-07-20 17:22:54 · answer #3 · answered by adriana 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not crazy, but it's not really healthy to spend every night with the same person -- especially if he wants something different. He will be happier if he gets out more and has time to himself. Guys really need this.
What are you passionate about in life, other than him? Put some of your energies into something besides the relationship. He'll be happier, and he'll probably be proud of you for what you accomplish.
2006-07-20 17:17:50 · answer #4 · answered by Andrew A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, you are not crazy but the thing is that you wanting to spend all your time with him is not a good thing because he also needs his space. he needs to hangout with his friends and you cant go with him. for the simple fact that he might think that you don't trust him or something else ,and you don't need him to think things like that. because you guys are just going to argue about you always going out with him and his friends. everybody needs some alone time once in a while. and if you live with him that's just going to make it worse
2006-07-20 17:20:48 · answer #5 · answered by zadyroar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you're not crazy. But you came into this relationship with some baggage, for sure. You need to deal with your feelings. And find out how to manage being alone at least some of the time. He may be feeling smothered.
Remember, we often create what we fear most. Try to meet him in the middle and be reasonable about this.
2006-07-20 17:16:22 · answer #6 · answered by Myrna B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes and no. You should want to spend time with him and you should also give him time with his friends. I suggest you tell him about this and maybe work on your trust issues and get a few friends that you can hang out with when he is hanging out with his friends.
2006-07-20 17:21:08 · answer #7 · answered by carmelbrown2001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no , i dont believe you are. im 28 and i have been in your situation before. its a proven study that men mature slower than woman. he may be still imature. If that is the case you have 2 options, move on to someone who wants the same things you do, or lay down the law to him, let him know you dont like it, if he gets mad at you he doesnt respect you as a girlfriend. i know its hard to think that way but life is to short for you to wait for others, get what you deserve, and want in life.
2006-07-20 17:21:01 · answer #8 · answered by sherry_hufeld2000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you want the relationship to last then it might be a better choice to give your man space and let him hang out with his friends w/o you sometimes. But, even when you are with him and his friends expecting him to devote all his attention on you makes him feel suffocated and obligated whenever you are around. Besides, things can be more enjoyable on your own sometimes.
2006-07-20 17:16:01 · answer #9 · answered by livelongses 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think your crazy, but I do think its wrong for him to spend all his time with you.....If you guys are around each other during all of your spare time you will get sick of each other...its not healthy for you to have no friends...you say you don't trust people, but you seem to trust your man....he should spend time with his friends and you should make friends to spend time with...you say all you ask is that he doesn't leave you alone...whether you realize it or not but that is way to much to ask of him....you guys NEED time apart.....hope everything works out.
2006-07-20 17:17:45 · answer #10 · answered by 1981 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No its not crazy but it sounds like you really need to make some friends of your own cause every relationship needs a lil time apart
2006-07-20 17:17:13 · answer #11 · answered by SeaSea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋