really need help?

Question

I know there are probably loadsof people who say this.
But i really need help. I am feeling really depressed and dont know what to do! Right now i am angry with myself (for what i dont know) I have had enough of how i look, I have had enough of being bullied, all through school i have been bullied because of the way i look, i left school a month ago and it is still going on, i get hit by my brother regulary and my mum doesnt do anything, i cant phone any helplines because my mum is very 'protctive' of the phone and i have to make calls with her in the same room as me, i have had enough of men in the streets just thinking i am there for them to stare at.........i just dont know what to do anymore im starting to lose it!

I am 15 and from UK

I am NOT religious and i dont plan on turing that way.

i cant get professional help.
My family refusesto help me out, thus why i hate them right now, they just tell me to cope withi it

Answer 1

Keep your head up...it can't rain all the time

Answer 2

You have so many questions about life and so few answers that it is easy to become depressed. That's okay, your life will change a lot over the next few years. You can change your looks if you are not happy with them. You will leave home one day soon and your brother will become a good friend and feel guilty for how he treated you. School aged bullies are dime-a-dozen. by the time you are of age, their numbers will decrease. Perhaps one day you will attend a school reunion and marvel at how the "pretty people" beacame the old goats.
Guys staring at you is a problem you can adress by being prepared to deal with them on their level. Hold your head high and don't give them the satisfaction of publicly annoying you. I would suggest you take some self defense classes. This will help you build your self-esteem and prepare you should you need to fend off some overly-frisky gawker. If you cannot take classes, ther are plenty of books in the library and your recreation and parks department may have free classes.
Chin up, true happiness can only come from within yourself.

Answer 3

I don't know what to say except breath. First of all, who cares how others think you look. If you know you look good then that's all that matters. You don't need to impress anyone. Second, try and talk to your mom and let her know that when your brother hits you it hurts you physically and emotionally. Tell her that it also hurts that she does nothing to stop it. And honey, if you can't use the phone at home, next time you are at a friends house ask them if you can use theirs. A good friend will always be there to help. And with the guys on the street, don't pay them any attention. They are perverts and will get the message if you ignore them. Just like bullies at school, if you show that what they say bothers you, then they know how to get a rise out of you but if you ignore them they will soon realize that they can't touch you and will lose interest. I hope this helps and you start to feel better about yourself. Your only 15 and you have your whole life ahead of you. Have fun and don't worry about what others think of you. Good luck.

Answer 4

You need to talk to someone outside of home and there are lots of places/people that can help. Read the link below - gives some tips on contacting Childline without anyone finding out. Or try Connexions - you can contact them by email. Don't dismiss religion - you may not want to sign up to it for life but churchs are there to help everyone and they know where to point you to for practical help too.

Other than that, what can I say except no-one has the right to hit you or bully you or stare at you and make you feel uncomfortable. You have probably heard this before but only weak insecure people do that...! so THEY are the pathetic ones.
You have already taken a step to ask for help, so ask for more and keep asking till you find a way. Be strong and no more excuses - it's your life and life is WAY too short for unhappiness!

Answer 5

I felt exactly the same hun at your age, school can be a nasty place sometimes, so can home, and anywhere else. You wont feel like this forever, i know that doesnt help when you feel so crappy now, but its the truth. isnt there anyway you can talk to your mum and explain to her how you feel? maybe when everyone else is out? If you cant call any helplines then can you access them on the net? Dont be angry with yourself hun the way you are feeling is not your fault, but the paople closest to you should be more helpful. Is your mum approachable? could you talk to her if you wanted? go to your room hun and chill out for a while and try to plan what you are going to say to your mum. Good luck hunxx

Answer 6

You're young now, only 15 youre going through a lot of changes and so is your brother, by the time youre 20 all this will be forgotten, you could be married with 2 kids by then. I endured a lot at your age, but got through it, I endured even more during my 20's but got through it. Sometimes the situations you find yourself in seem utterly hopeless but then further down the road events are so different and you're happy to be alive. Life is a struggle and the world can be cruel at times, but if you keep on enduring past all these negative bits you'll be a stronger person in the long run.

Answer 7

I've just had a life threatening or saving operation (depends how u look at it), just got divorced after 9 yrs (cant see my daughter), had a major row with my parents and siblings - they all ganged up on me and i am in debt (because of divorce). But i still carry on LIFE IS ONE BIG TEST AND THERE WILL BE UPS AND DOWNS.

You have to try and look 4 the good things u got for example people are blind, deaf, have no legs, totally disabled are poor etc but they carry on the best they can and even through all my troubles i thank god or whoever for lettting me live life and do what i want. As for your brother hitting you - report the prick - sorry mind my language, but abuse is abuse in any form.

Also can i add u are young and should be enjoying music, friends, tv, fashion etc. Later when u are older life will be difficult and testing enough so PLEASE AT LEAST TRY TO ENJOY YOUR YOUTH NOW - because sometimes i do look back and think did i live my life as i wanted. Dont regret it.

Answer 8

I am sure you are a beautiful person! You are so young and still so many good things are coming your way,prom,graduation, someday you will fall in love, and the biggest of all when you move out of your parents house. Do you have any close friends you can email to talk since your mom controls the phone? If you want to Email me just click on single mom because I really know how you feel right now!! Good luck honey and cheer up things will get better I promise!

Answer 9

Call from a public phone. Stop a police officer on the street and ask for help if your brother hitting you is that bad - it will help if you have some sort of evidence.

But foster care can be worse - you never know what sexual or other abuse you might suffer under a stranger. Be careful - you know what you've got right now, do you want to roll the dice, and stick it out until you're legal age?

Answer 10

Change your apperance whatever you eat that you know is not good for you stop eating it. Close the door of you room lock it and do push-ups with you feet on the bed and also do crunches start running and also find people who except you and stay with them. Keep a journal close at hand and wright down something good that happend and how you would like to have that feeling again or something bad happening and find out a way to improve it also, pray to God if you mother can not say anything when you brother hurts you ask you True Father for help

Answer 11

If you are angry with yourself for what you don't know why did you leave school? You really shouldn't let opinions of others bother you so much.

What is wrong with the way you look? Is it the way you dress, feel about yourself or what? Beauty really is only skin deep. you need to love & respect yourself before anyone else will.

If you are 15, you should just now be entering into the best times of your life not losing it. Step back & determine what is really wrong. Is it you or others?

Sounds like you just need to boost your self esteem up. This happens quite frequently with all ages of people.

Good luck, keep searching for the truth & by all means never give up or in.