I do not want to use a lady for just sex, by leading her to believe I am offering more, but every lady I meet says that I am the kind of guy they could easily fall in love with ( because of the way I treat them, it's certainly not my looks or money. lol), but they could never have casual sex with me, even if they would have it with other guys. I would really just like a "friends with benefits kind of thing, but it seems to always be either all or nothing
2006-07-20 09:53:49 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Too funny! Not your situation persay, but just the similarities that I've seen in my own past. The all or nothing comparison you offered was great! I've been there before as I said... Getting out of a serious relationship, really kind of sour on the whole commitment thing, yet I'm a man who has urges just like everyone else does, but yet to find that elusive fwb partner seems so well.... elusive? And so you learn to go without! At the same time, if you give in... you do find yourself in that relationship that you may never have been looking for in the first place! Don't get me wrong though, those relationships can be wonderful also... But they do tend to sneak up on you when you least expect it! Much like you, I'm not one to "use" a woman in that way either... On the other hand, if we're both consenting adults, and casual is ok, with neither of us expecting a commitment - then lets get the FWB contract rolling! Good luck!
2006-07-20 10:00:13 · answer #1 · answered by loving father 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like girls think of you as better long term material rather than just friends or quick sex partner. Think of it this way, friendships with girls go like so:
1)Acquaintance
2)Friends
3)Dating
4)Sex
If you can get a girl to feel the right attraction you can move straight to sex (4). At that point you can take the relationship to any other level you want (whether you want to remain friends or date, etc). Simply put, if you reach the top (which is #4) you can move around anywhere else. I think your next quesiton is how to attract a girl to that level. Good luck man!
2006-07-20 17:06:27 · answer #2 · answered by Jon J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea what is up with that? Sorry ladies, but I think most women love to play games with us. If you show just a small amount of emotions they start talking about relationships. So either your cold and get the job done or you care yourself into a relationship.
2006-07-20 16:58:23 · answer #3 · answered by ambys2k3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its hard to find those kind of friends, unless they are in a commited relationship. Everyone needs a freind with benefits even if they are married.
Or look for someone who is money hungry and just wants the same thing you want.
2006-07-20 16:57:17 · answer #4 · answered by todayillsee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it sounds like you are going for nice quality girls. Usually those kind of girls want to wait and don't sleep around... so they prefer relationships.
If you want friends with benefits, you will have to change your taste.
What is the big fear about a relationship? Why not try one and see if it works. You might just like it. If not, then break up, no biggie. At least you can say you tried. You don't have to marry her you know!
2006-07-20 16:56:49 · answer #5 · answered by Kitty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, what can you do? If you just want a friend with benefits, you'll just have to pick up some whore on the street, cause they'll be more willing whether you're ugly, rich, or not.
2006-07-20 16:59:13 · answer #6 · answered by someone in the world 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL you havent found the lady of your dreams yet. so until then all these girls will be sex. as a woman i use to feel the same way too until i finally got my sweetie.
2006-07-20 16:57:33 · answer #7 · answered by renosgirl2006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are women out there who do want friends with benefits. Believe me, just tell them that thats what you want let them take it from there.
2006-07-20 16:57:33 · answer #8 · answered by Nicole C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what? lol..just go for whatever it is you want nowadays there are women who just want to use men for sex..and whenever you meet a girl let her know that youre not ready for a relationship and you rather be friends "with benifits"..lol.
2006-07-20 16:58:32 · answer #9 · answered by sinful vampyra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same boat. I want just a F*** buddy and not relationship. I don't want or need a relationship right now. I just want some wild crazy sex!!!! Holla at me if you want!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-07-20 16:58:14 · answer #10 · answered by Lady C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋