What is an alternative to "taking a break" from each other. We really love each other, but recently we have been having some problems. I want to try every option before we separate. Does anyone have any ideas?
2006-07-20 09:47:50 · 31 answers · asked by quiet_angel1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Give the guy more space. Just don't call him as much or spend as much time together. If you are good together, this will make him realize how great you really are and want you more. If not, at least you'll have wasted less time when you eventually break up.
Just a bit of friendly advice: guys don't like girls who are clingy. Take it easy. If a guy knows you're there no matter how he acts then he won't bother being nice to you. If he realizes that he is in danger of actually losing you, he may change his ways. But threatening to break up won't achieve this -- you need to actually distance yourself from him and give him space to reflect on what he might be about to lose out on.
All the people who are saying "talk it out" are wrong. If the guy has a problem with you, most likely it's something that he won't talk about. This is not a problem of logically thinking things through -- it's an emotional problem. The guy just needs space to come around. If you keep pressuring him to "talk it out" or "work through the problems" he will just feel like you're hassling him. Try reading "Men are From Mars Women are from Venus" or some book like that and you will get a better idea of how men are wired.
Do NOT let him take you for granted.
2006-07-20 09:54:46 · answer #1 · answered by Andrew A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you try going away together. Sometimes the problems that you are having with each other occur because you don't have enough time for each other and everyday life gets in the way. Also a lot of times people use their boyfriend or girlfriend as a pin cushion and take all of their problems out on them. If you went away it would just be the two of you and all of your other problems in life wouldn't get in the way.
2006-07-20 09:55:34 · answer #2 · answered by meisa777 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not break up, because taking a break hardly ever works, the both of you have to understand that a relationship is not all good, there is also bad times. Right now you are going through a bad time, the best thing to do is weather it. Just think if you were to marry this guy (not that you are) you can't get a divorce everytime a problem arises. most people who tend to run from their problems do this, the two of you have to confront what ever the problem is, and try your best not to get upset.
2006-07-20 09:53:28 · answer #3 · answered by Paktown 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
me and my partener went through this stage once, we were arguing and always getting on each others nerves. One day we sat down (after an argument) and decided we were going to tell each other all the things that really annoy each other and what we dont like etc, but then afterwards we told each other al the things we love about each other so we could work it out. talking is definately the answer no matter how small the problem is tell each other because its the small problems that build up and up. One thing i will say is work hard at it because you dont know what you have got till its gone and once its gone it may be to late!!!
2006-07-20 09:55:40 · answer #4 · answered by Lisa W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only other option that I can think of is couples counseling. But sometimes the best thing that you can do is take a break because that may help to show you two either that you cannot live without one another or that you two are better off friends.
2006-07-20 09:51:29 · answer #5 · answered by Nicole C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u really love each other, then you'll be able to pull it through. seeing a counselor can be helpful but it can also raise more problems. and that is wat u dont want. i think if u say u guys really love each other, taking a break or giving each other space wont be that bad. cuz in the end u both will go back to each other. and if u really dont want that, seriously for ur love. just talk to each other and communicate. cant get anywhere without that.
2006-07-20 09:52:46 · answer #6 · answered by BlAcKhEaRt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to each other a lot of times the relationship problems are bassed on lack of cummnication.
Talk to each other and see what is going on that is bothering him or you. and if whatever it is can't be worked out then if you really love each other... you'll let it go. But I mean if it's really serious then you both will have to come to some sort of conclusion. always remain calm and whatever you don't start yelling or crying.
2006-07-20 09:51:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a couple of days separated to think things through and then talk to each other about it and if you can't come to a mushual agreement try talking to a sister or a priest or concluding
2006-07-20 09:57:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me and my girl went through the same thing we would argue all the time. What you need to do is talk things through. I know you may feel that Your the only ones that are going through this Just think If you really love him would you rather be having problems with somebody else because everyone goes through this and if you move on there WILL be problems regaurdless of who it is its human nature. Just talk things through and you will be delighted you decided to stay . Things only get better
2006-07-20 10:11:58 · answer #9 · answered by johnnyca$H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
like everyone else said- counseling. or you two can address your problems then try to come up with a solution. but if its so bad that you two can barely reason with each other then go see a counselor to mediate. but usually if its gotten to a point where you need counseling- you two already have your minds made up and its hard to change it at this state in the game.
2006-07-20 09:51:16 · answer #10 · answered by NAQ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋