We've been married 4yrs and have one child who is 6mths. My husband comes from a family of 6 an i come from a family of 3. My family is very close and all of my cousins and my sister have 2 or more children. I want more than one child but my husband is not happy with that idea and is actually refusing to go through the motions again.
I know our son is only 6mths and I'm not trying to have babies back to back, but i dont want him to be an only child.
What do i do?
2006-07-20 09:46:36 · 5 answers · asked by bib 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
6 months is still young, and probably your husband is just not ready "right now" to consider having more. You are just comig out of the sleepless nights stage, feeding is still an ordeal, and the baby is just starting to get around and be personable. We have 5 children, and after we had our twins (nos. 2 and 3- they are almost 6 now) my husband said the same thing. Until they were almost 2 he really resisted the idea that we should have more. Once they were a little bigger, easier to handle, had more personality, and started playing more with him, he was more open to the idea. I would suggest that you not push your husband at this point as it may just cement the "no" response into his head. In a year or so, he will probably change his mind. When our twins were 2.5 years old we had another baby, then almost 2 years later we had one more. I think for guys, it is hard to see past the "infant" stage and into the fun part of having little people around. And even though he has siblings, etc., he may not have had experience with babies and could still be uncertain about his own abilities as a new dad. Give it some time and then talk about it again in a few (like 6-9) months. Good luck!
2006-07-20 09:56:58 · answer #1 · answered by mama5 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please wait for some time. What do you mean by "refusing to go through the motions"? Are you not aware of birth control methods?
If he is unwilling then there may be a reason. Try to find out why he is unwilling to have more children. May be he is not ready to take the responsibility or he feels that money may be a constraint. You can explain your views after a couple of years and maybe he will be more receptive. He may be missing you because of the baby. Spend more time with him too.
You should not have children if the father is not ready to take responsibility. Please do not force him. Your son can feel at home with his cousins.
2006-07-20 17:01:45 · answer #2 · answered by StraightDrive 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him sometime and some room to breath, and do not push him. Your child is only 6 months, I would not talk about another one until this one is at least 2 , he might come around, or else be happy raising one child
2006-07-20 16:56:41 · answer #3 · answered by spidermaniii_06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This should've been resolved before marriage, but the other answers make it simple: 1) stop having kids; 2) have kids with someone else......or 3) birth control "oops"
2006-07-20 16:54:57 · answer #4 · answered by Dwight D J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only two choices:
1.) Stop breeding with him.
2.) Breed with someone else.
2006-07-20 16:53:43 · answer #5 · answered by Martin 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋