ok i cheated on my girlfriend i told her i was sorry i even told the girl i cheated with it was a mistake i love my girlfriend.but one week later my girlfriend cheated on me with her ex to get me back but she got preganant now shes 7 weeks preganant she says shes going to get a abortion because that wasnt suspose to happen what should i do should i stand by her and support her or should i go on with my life but both of us were wrong she just got caught up.
2006-07-20 09:18:18 · 21 answers · asked by hot boy 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
u should stand by her if u really love her
2006-07-20 09:21:58 · answer #1 · answered by Nicole 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like youve both learned a hard lesson in life. Abortion is not the answer. That baby is innocent and cannot help the mistakes of adults. If you really love her, then stand by her and be a dad to the baby. If makes no sense to kill a baby just because it was something that happened while making a poor decision. That baby deserves a chance to live. If you two truly love each other, then you can make it work......I hope you will convince her to do the right thing. Death isnt the answer to cover your mistakes. Good luck to you both.
2006-07-20 16:24:08 · answer #2 · answered by AstonishingAries<3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you cheated on your girlfriend, then you don't really love her. If you cheated on her, then she cheated on you to get "even" then neither of you have the maturity or the intellectual ability to raise the child. Tell her to abort it. Normally I'm 100% pro life, but I think in your case, your girlfriend is probably too ignorant to take prenatal vitamins and have a healthy pregnancy and baby. If her ex boyfriend got her pregnant, she obviously didn't use protection. If I were you, I'd make an appointment with your doctor to be tested for STDs. Stop worrying about your girlfriend and start worrying about the massive doses of penicillin you're probably going to need.
2006-07-20 21:48:17 · answer #3 · answered by brevejunkie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She shouldn't have an abortion because it wasn't suppose to happen, obviously it wasn't a mistake. If you love her support her and the "child" if she has one or not. It's not the fetus's fault she did what she did or you did what you did. Think a lot more about what your doing! If you cheated on her there had to have been a reason. She wanted revenge, and she got it which doesn't make anything better. Seriously consider what choices you are making in your life.
2006-07-20 16:37:28 · answer #4 · answered by harborgirl2006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the two of you had sex within a couple weeks of when she had sex with the other guy, it could be yours!!! Its not an exact science when the figure out the conception date, mine was changed three times because all the do is measure the fetus's head circumference and see when that size is closest to average. That is what day you are told you got pregnant. Aside from that, sperm can live inside a woman's body anywhere from 5-7 days, all condoms that leak small amounts of sperm don't bust, along with a longer list of possibilities. You need to get her to understand that could be your baby. Only a paternity test can tell you for sure.
2006-07-20 16:48:48 · answer #5 · answered by x_lil_redangel_x 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first, do you believe in punctuation??? sorry, but that's one heck of a sentence!!!
o.k. all kidding aside.
sounds like she was reacting to your infidelity and probably wouldn't be in this position if you hadn't cheated in the first place. i'm not saying that 2 wrongs make a right, but sometimes 2 wrongs make things even.
if you both still love each other and it sounds like you do, then i would stick by her through the abortion and any aftermath that causes.
even if you decide that maybe she isn't your one and only, you should still stick by her through this ordeal. imagine being her....her boyfriend cheated, the only way to feel better about it was to cheat on him, now she's pregnant with some guy's baby that she doesn't even love anymore and then, think about how devastated she would be if you broke up with her right now.
i'm not trying to guilt trip you, but i think the right thing to do would be stick by her through this, then evaluate your relationship.
i hope you both take care.
2006-07-20 16:29:49 · answer #6 · answered by joey322 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to look deep inside your soul for the answer. Is she getting an abortion to keep you and will regret the decision later?? Both of you need to talk about what has happened and what the future holds for both of you. If you love her you would stand by her..no matter what. Life isn't easy and your choice isn't going to be easy either. I hope everything works out for both of you.
2006-07-20 16:24:47 · answer #7 · answered by Chris 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to talk her out of an abortion. That is just like killing an innocent person. She will never be able to forget it; it will probably haunt her for the rest of her life. If you both love each other, I think you should stand by her even though I don't agree with her trying to get back at you.
~Kaitlin~
2006-07-20 16:24:00 · answer #8 · answered by kaitlin38824 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you both still love each other, then there's no reason to break up. You both made mistakes and if you can agree to never make those mistakes again, you should be fine.
On the other hand... two wrongs don't make a right. It's a tough situation to be in.
Good luck!
2006-07-20 16:22:31 · answer #9 · answered by Ashlee S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I can say is that poor baby.
That wasn't supposed to happen? How does she know who the father is anyway?
Try using protection for one.
Do what's best for you, if you slept with somebody else you don't love her. REally!
Go be single and sleep with whoever you want to.
Nobody can help her but her now. She put herself in that situation...she will deal one way or another.
2006-07-20 16:24:56 · answer #10 · answered by Apple Blossom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Things happen if you love her you will stay by her no matter what. Children are gifts not things that weren't suppose to happen. SO you should be there for her and the baby.Everything happens for a reason.
2006-07-20 16:25:51 · answer #11 · answered by demanda01 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋