i need advice as i don't know what to do about it he keeps giving me mixed messages.one minute he acts like he likes me the next hes a bit cold.we are really close as friends and do almost everythink together and go everywere together.
2006-07-20 09:00:52 · 23 answers · asked by ladyflames 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Friends should be able to talk it over. Try it.
I married my very best friend and we are still best friends. We still talk all the time about everything and we know and accept each other as we are. He's wonderful and I can't imagine being with anyone else.
2006-07-20 09:57:29 · answer #1 · answered by Witchy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, well its not clear from this whether you are male or female, which could obviously create even more complications, but either way you are right to think first about praying.
God has a plan for you , and only he knows whether this guy is right for you. Have you ever heard the acronym P.U.S.H? Pray Until Something Happens. It is really true, you need to trust that God will give you some kind of guidance.
I don't know what he has in store for you, but maybe if you don't feel like you have an answer he is just waiting until you are ready. The same thing happened to me when I was younger, and because I felt so strongly about my friend I tried to ignore what God was saying to me.
God has an answer for you, I hope you are able to wait for it. I'll pray for you too.
2006-07-20 18:20:09 · answer #2 · answered by guest 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel bad 'cause this is a natural human feeling, but I can tell you as a Christean boy that I don´t recommend you to take the initiative, this cause that us (boys) loose the interest in a girl.
But that is not much important anyway, the main thing is that you first have to care the heart of your Friend and then yours, so continue praying 'cause if you can wait gods will know that you trust(confide) him and he will show you who's the man for U, maybe he could be your Friend and someone better.
If U understand spanish I can send U some material.
Have a good day
2006-07-20 16:16:00 · answer #3 · answered by beginer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congrats Flames!
I believe the best thing in the world has happened to you. Firstly if this thought has crossed your mind it has definitely crossed his as well. Humans are good at mixed messages as they are scared whether to go for it or not, your friend is also in the same position as you are. He kind of also likes you but not sure again, scared whether he might loose you if he gives it a shot. Sadly time if the only answer, give him time and be close to him as to remind him of your existence but not too close as it be obsessed.
In addition to that if you want try creating up a story that A and B are good friends but A is not sure whether she loves B, tell him the acts that makes you think that he likes you as if it was B doing the same to A and also the minuses. Let him decide whether B likes A, then you know his answer for you.
Good luck and keep us posted....
2006-07-20 16:13:22 · answer #4 · answered by Shuggy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WAIT. If you are praying about it let it go until God gives you answer about the situation. Keep praying and God should send you a sign. If you have that good of a friendship with him, he may be confused and not know whether or not to take things further with you for fear of losing your friendship. There are many friends who take it to the next level and when the relationship is over they can't go back to being friends again. He may be confused and trying to weigh those consequences for himself. Keep it in prayer and ask God to show you what his will is for you and your friend and give it time and you will know whether or not to pursue something greater than your friendship. Don't jump without God because you could get hurt in this situation if you are not careful. Wait upon the Lord and he shall renew your strength!!
2006-07-20 16:11:42 · answer #5 · answered by busyliz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, step back from the situation and look at it completely. Once you've determined what YOU want to do about the situation, have an honest discussion with your friend. It may be embarrassing now but it's best to get everything out in the open and decide how to procede either together or not. Good luck.
2006-07-20 16:04:58 · answer #6 · answered by Lex 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about it. The guy is just probably nervous. I mean, giving mixed signals is one of the safest ways to profess your love for someone. He may like you back, but is just too scared to admit it. If the guy won't budge and doesn't seem like he will be making it clearer anytime soon and you feel up to it, then tell him how you feel. If he's your bestfriend, then he will understand. But remember that confessing might break most, if not all, chances of communication between both of you, but if you are someone who believes in the power of love, then do it. Pray to God that He will help you. I hope you and your bestfriend will have a lasting friendship/relationship, which ever one it turns out to be.
2006-07-20 16:06:47 · answer #7 · answered by Mujareh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best thing to do is to let him know how you feel. He might even feel the same way. If not, he will at least know how you feel, and you will work it out otherwise. I have fallen in love with a few of my best friends that were girls. Some I had a lasting relationship with, others (and including those i am no longer dating) are still my friends. Best of Luck. Keep praying and you will figure out how to approach it all.
2006-07-20 16:04:52 · answer #8 · answered by Corey D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well this is a tricky one. I think you're going to have to just sit down with your friend and ask whether they have feelings for you and then you will at least know.
The worst that they can say is no and then you know where you stand and hopefully you can still remain really good friends.
Anything like this always comes with an element of risk, but you seem unhappy and it would appear that you really need to know where you stand.
2006-07-20 16:05:37 · answer #9 · answered by nickyboyzuk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing about prayin... I found out by experience.... that as a christian we have to give our thoughts and emotions over too GOD and ask him what we should do... and trust me he will answer.. especially since he said to acknowledge him in all our ways and he will direct our paths... look if he is the one for you girl GOD will make a way that it works out smoothly... but first fall deeply in LOVE with GOD... And when that right special someone comes along you will know that it was a divine hook-up... but till then don't make any rash decisions.. cuz you could screw up alot that GOD has in store for you... remember you are GOD's chosen and he wants the best for you.... God bless you, and have a blessed and highly favored day... and let God lead ya...
2006-07-20 16:11:14 · answer #10 · answered by JesusIsAlive!!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋