he wants to take a break because he doesn't think i really love him. He thinks that i'm just obsessed with him and "love" him because he took my virginity. [even though i guess that does have a big effect on girls]...he says he's through with dating after me and he wants me to go out and see other people so that i will be less obsessive and perhaps be a little more mature...[I'm 19 and he's 26...he's my first boyfriend]
but i'd feel guilty dating someone else...i can't even bare to think of having sex with anyone else...but that probably just my "virginity" talking...how do i get over my Bf? and what if i don't want to!? : (
need help :(
thanks :)
2006-07-20 08:40:18 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow. That is a crazy situation. Your boyfriend shows an astonishing lack of sensitivity, however, if he says your "obsessed" with him and doesn't think you really love him. He should never doubt your love. No offense, I mean this in the nicest way possible, but I think he's being a dick. He really said that he wants you to go out and see other people so that you'll be less obsessive and more mature?! That makes him an asshole in my eyes.
You shouldn't feel guilty dating someone else. You should move on. Date a little. You may meet someone very special.
Even if you don't want to get seriously involved (yet), that's fine. Just have your share of casual dates.
As for getting over your BF, you DEFINITELY should. Just hang out with the girls, surround yourself with friends, flirt a little, and try and put him out of your mind.
Hope I could help.
2006-07-20 08:47:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he wants to take a break he probably wants to date someone else. Believe me, at 26 he isn't going to stop dating....no way! Maybe YOU need the break...after all, maybe its not love that you feel for him...it really doesn't seem as if it is. You don't have to date anyone else...just take some time for yourself...it will do you the world of good. As for him being your first boyfriend...in time you will find your second boyfriend...and try not to be so obsessed...its not good for you at all. Relax and let him go....honestly, no matter what you do or say, he wants the break and its probably the best thing right now.
2006-07-20 08:48:10 · answer #2 · answered by irishME 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should think about the situation and if you truly love him or if it is the virginity. Weigh out the pros and cons of the relationship. If he loved you and wanted to be with you he wouldn't ask you to go out with other people. He would suggest couples therapy or time apart to think things through, but not to see other people.
2006-07-20 09:01:54 · answer #3 · answered by BbyGrl80 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well your bf is just testing you he wants to see if u really love him or just obsessed so don't fall for it just say your the only one for me and stuff like that and I think it will work.
2006-07-20 08:45:10 · answer #4 · answered by Gaiane t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well gurl if u want to date someone else do it and if he loved you he would have told you to wait to have sex futher in the relationship i have had that happen to me go wid somebody have sex and end up breakin up and maybe if you go with sombody else u might find a better person and not want him back take it from some 1 who knows but ya gotta do what ya gotta do
2006-07-20 08:47:58 · answer #5 · answered by gwen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hate to say it but just try. It might hurt for a long time but will get better. He obviously wants to 'sow his seeds' elsewhere and isn't ready to settle on one woman. I think you should just focus on your life and where you want to be and do in the future. If it is meant to be then you will be together. If not, your knight and shining armor is somewhere waiting.
2006-07-20 08:46:32 · answer #6 · answered by alfiee34 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You REALLY need to read this book:
"He's Just Not That Into You"
http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0007214243/sr=8-6/qid=1153424669/ref=sr_1_6/103-2938665-8481438?ie=UTF8
2006-07-20 08:47:31 · answer #7 · answered by D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's talking about dating, NOT having sex with anyone else, GEEZ! If you dont want anyone else then prove to him his theory isnt accurate, that you really do Love him for who he is, and than you dont want anyone else in your life but him.
2006-07-20 08:46:14 · answer #8 · answered by Katz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
looks to me like he's the one who wants the break if he wants you to see other people then so does he.
2006-07-20 08:44:49 · answer #9 · answered by panda 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you have DDD you should do just fine on your own
2006-07-20 08:47:35 · answer #10 · answered by Baelor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋