When you think of loving someone who do you think of, how does that person make you feel and most important what would your life be like without them.... If your not with someone what type of person would you be likely to fall in love with?
2006-07-20 08:39:19 · 206 answers · asked by Matthew C 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I had my one true ultimate love. He died in a car accident two years ago October.
What does truly loving someone mean to me?
It means that when you have had a hard, bad day at work, it is all forgotten at his smile.
It means never noticing when the nights out on the town give way to quiet nights curled up in his arms, watching some whatever TV show you weren't really interested in anyhow.
It means I rather be standing at the kitchen sink doing dishes togeather than playing out on the sunny beach without him.
It means learning to cook eggplant Parmesan, despite gagging at the site of purple veggies, just because he loves it.
It means learning to agree to disagree, and kissing him just to let him know that we were still good.... even if he couldn't admit that I was right and he was wrong ;0)
It means learning to sleep through his snores, and accepting that, when sick, he's a big baby.
It means rolling my eyes at the puddled foot prints leading from the shower or the finger track left in the peanut butter.
It means risking the pain of losing him simply because life without him, even just the memory of him is not life at all.
My humble P.O.V.
The Chronicler
2006-07-21 00:15:19 · answer #1 · answered by The Chronicler 4 · 54⤊ 2⤋
I just got out of what I thought was a great relationship, the marrying kind. I had loved this man for the better part of seventeen years and we came together again as adults. It can be almost like a death when you lose someone you love for reasons that you do not understand. I learned a lot about myself during the horrible healing process that is of a broken heart. The things, to me, that are important are unconditional love, face to face honesty, trust, credibility, faith in one another, patience and belief in one another. Everyone has their own ideal for the 'one' but I have learned that these ideals should be a little flexible in some ways and not flexible in other ways. The heart is a force to be reckoned with, it is much stronger than the mind. I would and always will tell a person to just go for it, jump in, trust wholly and love with all that you have. Life is too short, there is a person out there that will give back to you what you give to them.
2006-07-21 00:58:01 · answer #2 · answered by Leigh 2 · 5⤊ 3⤋
Truly loving someone to me is being at all times unconditional. I've only felt that way about my daughter, parents, sisters and close friends. I think if I didn't have my daughter (even though she is a teenager ~ ugh!) my life would be so different - definitely not fulfilled. She is the sunshine in my day and the moonlight in my night.
If I were to fall in love, he would have to be my friend first. He would also have a good sense of humor and would have to know how to make me laugh along with a kind, generous heart. He would also be nice to look at and have a well built body (no offense but no short or skinny guys). He would have to be intelligent but not a nerd. He would also have to be able to give big hugs, hold hands and (this is important) know how to kiss!
2006-07-21 12:33:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Love for your child, love for your spouse or significant other, love for a dear friend and love for your parents. I think the highest & purest form of love is love for a child. The only way I can explain this is if you are a parent yourself. When you truly love your children, nothing comes before them, not even yourself. Everything you do & every decision you make is a non-selfish one. I used to buy $2800 Chanel handbags & $1500 Prada shoes, now not only that this NEVER crosses my mind anymore, but I would rather spend my last dollar on my sons without a thought of me feeling that I am sacraficing. Now that I've become a recent mom, I know what the word "love" truly means. I believe to aquire true love for a significant other is really hard because no matter what, even if you feel you want the "best" for that person it almost always comes with some form of selfishness. I hope you find your true love in someone, with me it's with my two boys. God bless you in your journey to love....
2014-10-01 08:01:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Loving someone means respecting that person, listening to what they have to say and really hearing them when they do. It means giving everything you have, so that they will be happy. Loving someone is the touch of a hand, a hug, a I am so glad your home at the end of a long day. The feeling of love ebbs and flows, but loving someone means sticking around in the ebbs and enjoying the flows. Loving someone can also mean: opening a door for a stranger, helping an elderly woman with her groceries, making sure that you called your parents even when you didn't want to, that form of love is God's love. We have Eros love which is the physical form of love in a relationship and then we have Agape love which is God's love in purest form for us. Doesn't it feel wonderful to know that we are loved even when we don't deserve it. Love someone today, show them that you care. Sometimes just taking 5 seconds to smile and say hello can turn someones day around.. Think about it don't you have that much time to love someone today?
2006-07-21 01:54:06 · answer #5 · answered by babydoll9796 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think there are different levels of love. Love for your child, love for your spouse or significant other, love for a dear friend and love for your parents. I think the highest & purest form of love is love for a child. The only way I can explain this is if you are a parent yourself. When you truly love your children, nothing comes before them, not even yourself. Everything you do & every decision you make is a non-selfish one. I used to buy $2800 Chanel handbags & $1500 Prada shoes, now not only that this NEVER crosses my mind anymore, but I would rather spend my last dollar on my sons without a thought of me feeling that I am sacraficing. Now that I've become a recent mom, I know what the word "love" truly means. I believe to aquire true love for a significant other is really hard because no matter what, even if you feel you want the "best" for that person it almost always comes with some form of selfishness. I hope you find your true love in someone, with me it's with my two boys. God bless you in your journey to love....
2006-07-20 22:44:56 · answer #6 · answered by phatsinglemom2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is actually several separate questions.
Your inital question of "truly loving someone" means that you put their needs/wants above yours. You don't worry about how YOU feel or what your life would be like without them. Or what qualities you want in someone else. you can truly love parents, friends and a significant other. All in different ways, all have different personality traits, etc.
Basically there's no set answer to your question(s).
2006-07-21 14:04:44 · answer #7 · answered by kyravon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Truly loving someone... hummm... depends if you mean a child, a parent, a friend, but I think you mean a lover...
True love?.. That would be comming back on planet Earth just to
be together again, to feel human feelings, to share kindness, and
to wait for one an other on the other side after death, and God willing, to become a better person because of that loved one.
True love is eternal...
Falling in love is simply to make space and have the desire to be close to the treasures you found and feel in another person...
Living without your loved one(s) is like never seing the sky, or
never walking again, or be simply thirsty for the rest of your life.
You can live a lifetime, but something is always missing....
2006-07-20 18:59:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why i think of it that way maybe because i am only a teenager but i feel thats a proof of truly loving someone...I would probably not ever fall TRULY TRULY in love because i feel that they're really isn't such a thing. Anyone can make themseleves LOVE another person and suddenly fall out of it. I would probably "love" a guy who's like me in many ways, who can put up with a cynical me. Oh n he has to be able to take my non-sarcastic comments that should really sound saracastic and understand them.
2014-06-24 10:15:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Through my life, I have kissed many frogs & toads, but, happily, I am in love now for the first time in my life with my boyfriend. He is not perfect (I am not perfect), but I love him for everything that he is because he has a good heart and really cares for other people (and me). I see it in his eyes and in his actions, and he makes me want to be a better person just by seeing how he lives his life. I trust him and I feel so safe with him in his arms, it's like no other feeling I've ever had. And I feel like we can move forward together in this life and continue growing, learning and living a life that is full and ever-changing.
I am not sure how my life would be without him. I think I'd be a bitter, love-less, single woman walking around aimlessly looking down at the ground wondering if I'd ever find love. That's a bit dramatic but true at least to some degree.
I met him by pure chance on vacation, and we discovered we have the same birthday, we bonded immediately after that. We are of different ethnic backgrounds and different 1st-languages, but we kept in touch via email and translation websites. He's better at speaking English now and I am going to take Spanish classes. In a few months, I will be moving to where he is to continue our love story. I look forward to this new book (rather than chapter) of my life with him. I love him, and he truly fills my heart with joy.
2006-07-21 10:21:40 · answer #10 · answered by Jacinda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a big difference between loving someone and being in love with someone.
Being in love with someone is wonderful. It can involve anything from that crazy feeling you get in your stomach everytime you're near that "special person", to the "I can't imagine what my life would be without them." It also has a tendency not to last very long. Its intensity burns hot and can burn its self out just as quickly as it started.
True love, the unconditional love, often doesn't start out as the exciting "being-in love" experience. It is often slow to kindle, but can last forever, because it does start slowly. My mother once said "it is far better to fall in love with a friend, it'll last longer." I believe she was right. The lasting true love takes time. Time that allows you to learn to accept the differences between the two of you and not feel threatened by those differences. True love isn't controlling in its nature, but allows for you and the person you love to change and grow and still be close. True love doesn't smother anyone with someones agenda or thoughts of what "true love" is . It is patienct and kind, forgiving and eternal.
I'm a 54 yr old widow, and if I should ever find someone to be with again, I would look for someone who isn't perfect, none of us are; and I would know that love, true love, doesn't necessarily exist at the beginning of arelationship, but rather is the culmination of years of working together with compationate understanding towards a common goal.
2006-07-20 14:41:25 · answer #11 · answered by dragonfly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋