This man, who I had planned to marry, just dumped me for another woman. My life has been so horrible since he broke up with me. I can't eat, I can't sleep, I can't funtion normally. My whole life is wrapped up in this guy, I love him more than anything. He made me feel like I was the most special woman on earth. I moved across the country so we could start a new life, I gave up my job, my house and my friends. Then he moved to Michigan. So now I plan to move back to the same city to be with him. I'm very close to the move date. I have talked to him once and he did offer a little bit of hope for us. And I found out his new girlfriend has already cheated on him, they've only been together for a few weeks. Do I go back to Michigan and claim what I want to be mine? I'm sure he'll find out the new girl is seeing someone else. Should I go back and kick her butt? Or should I wait until she's through using him?
2006-07-20 08:25:51 · 24 answers · asked by SuperSexyRedheadedBabe 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have been asked a couple of questions I should answer 1. Where did I get the name Super Sexy Redheaded Babe? The exboyfriend gave it to me. 2. How did I find out the new girlfriend was cheating on him but he doesnt know? I have a friend whos brother is a private I. One of his peers was asked to invistigate my ex. When his last name was mentioned, my friends brothers recognized the name and asked for details. So my friend relayed to me that my ex was being investigated by his new girlfriends other boyfriend.
2006-07-20 17:34:50 · update #1
It's not just the emotional part, feeling very depressed, crying all the time, but it's also physical. I havent been able to eat in the last week. I must have lost 10 pounds in about 8 days. Friends are worried about and have done everything to try to get me to eat, but I just can't do it. I have the shakes all the time. One day I couldnt get off the bed, I was too sick, weak and depressed to move. I've had chest pains too. This thing has ripped me apart inside and out. I feel so lost without this guy. He made me feel special, on top of the world. When I was with him, there wasn't anything I couldn't do. He made me feel like I was the most beautiful woman on earth. We were a team, we were perfect for each other. We shared things we never shared with anyone else. We had passion, fire and heat. We were meant for each other. That's why I can't deal with this, it's like somebody died. I feel like my soul has been ripped out. He was my only true love.
2006-07-21 05:10:35 · update #2
Being dumped is not nice, but it's a fact of life. Virtually everyone gets dumped at some stage, and whilst it hurts, it is a normal part of growing up.
If you are dumped, then first try to understand why you were dumped - did you do anything "wrong" that you can learn to correct, or was it one of those 'drifting apart' things.
The key is not to feel bad about yourself - tell yourself it is their loss not yours and you are a great person.
Try not to let your confidence get knocked. Continue doing all your other activities as before that did not involve that person and stay busy.
Do not be tempted to pine for them or try to get them to change their mind. Use your energy in a positive way to get on with your life.
Hope this helps~ Contact me if you need anything else~
2006-07-24 09:00:56 · answer #1 · answered by Bon Bon 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Just wait honey, this new girl of his will give him the same heartbreak he's given you. What goes around comes around. If you know for a fact she's been cheating on him, then soon it will be his turn to get his heart broken. And on that day he will be very sorry for the way he ever treated you. Life does have a way of coming back at you. This new girlfriend of his sounds like nothing but a cheap whore. He'll find out soon enough what he lost by giving up you. Five years is a long time, he should have had more respect for you than that. Especially if you're close to moving back to the same state. What was his problem that he couldnt wait a little longer? Sorry Dear, but this guy sounds like a real loser, a jerk and a scum.
2006-07-20 08:56:52 · answer #2 · answered by WizeWoman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he could just up and dump you after 5 years of being together, then no, he isn't worth your time or efforts anymore. You deserve so much better than that. I know it's hard, and that you want him back horribly, but obviously he didn't consider your feelings or heart when he decided to go for this new girl, who sounds like a pure skank. Move on with your life. Get involved in things that will help to ease your pain and take your mind off of him. Time will help you to heal. And if he ever comes crawling back to you, don't take him back automatically. Be friendly, but firm. The best thing for you to do is just stay friendly. If there is a chance of you two going back together in the future, then make sure he proves that he loves you and means it. Though I don't believe that it will happen anytime soon.
2006-07-20 08:33:30 · answer #3 · answered by Maico 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if the guy had any brains at all he would dump the s-l-u-t and come running back to you. five years is a long time. he should be more grateful. you did everything for this man. and he has treated you terribly. you stayed by his side for a long time. you outlasted the length of most marriages. he needs to get down on his knees and beg for your forgivenss. he should treat you like a queen. and he should realize he has a woman who loves him so much she would do anything for him. the only thing the new girlfriend is doing for him is using him. she must be after something. most men i know want a woman who is loyal. they dont want some s-l-u-t who runs around. he had the best when he had you and he will never find that again. he had a lady, now hes got the s-l-u-t. this guy must be super stupid to want someone like that over you. he sounds like a scuzz ball. he'll never be able to trust this new woman. he'll always be wondering where she is who she is with and what she is doing with them. he really screwed himself when he left you. the new s-l-u-t will never give him a moments peace. she'll always have him on edge and wondering. she's a user. maybe this is a flash in the pan and he'll come running back. thats if he's smart. if he's dumb, he'll stick with the cheating s-l-u-t. but at least with you he'd have loyality and peace. come date me honey, I'd treat you like a princess!
2006-07-21 05:37:23 · answer #4 · answered by jbearted 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SUPER SEXY REDHEADED BABE!!!! Sounds hot! And he gave you up for some WHORE? As a guy, I feel ashamed. Men should count themselves lucky that a woman is willing to stick around that long. Dont worry, youre a beautiful person and someone wonderful will come along some day. Let him have his WHORE. She'll rip his heart to pieces (been there done that). Focus on yourself at the moment. He should have been grateful for all the stuff you did for him. He should be on his knees BEGGING FOR YOUR FORGIVENESS. He owes you his LIFE. He owes you a lot more than that for all the things you have done. He should have counted himself lucky that he found a woman who is willing to go those lenghts for him. His new girlfriend isnt doing that. She's out sleeping around on him. She isnt tearing up her life to be with him, she isnt making sacrifices. Not too many women will do what you did. That makes you a SPECIAL PERSON and him an asshole! You have a big heart to be able to forgive him for this and still want to be with him. Youre too nice of a person for the likes of him. Maybe you still do love him but he SUCKS!
2006-07-20 12:31:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
MOVE AND RUN AS FAST AS YOU CAN!!! if he did this to you know he will do it to you later he don't value the relationship at all and that's what he get his new girlfriend was probably a physical attraction and nothing more it;s his lost and that's the way the Lord shows us how to treat the next guy and don't ever jump and move for a man let him move for you that's the key he got you out there by yourself and he knew that and took advantage of you now you're hopeless he don't need you .Learn from this and go on with your life some one is waiting for you back home !!!!
2006-07-20 08:36:05 · answer #6 · answered by classy chic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is already cheating on him and they've only been dating a few weeks? Laugh your way into another mans arms. Wait until he looks around and see's what he's lost. He had a lady who stuck with him for five years. Now he's got a whore who's already seeing someone else. He will kick himself one day, you can betcha. He must be the stupidest man on the whole planet, you gave up everything for him and he doenst appreciate it. He'll drift from one useless relationship to another. The guy is a low life. Find yourself a TRUE gentleman. He is a selfish bastard.
2006-07-20 10:46:38 · answer #7 · answered by DKat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, the fact that he dumped you for another woman tells you that hes done with you, but 5 years is a long time to be together. You have history, and you know eachother inside and out. I would try to get a definite answer from him first. If he says "I don't know" or something similar, then he doesn't want you back. If he does, give it a try, but DONT give him any more chances. Be strong.
2006-07-20 08:30:46 · answer #8 · answered by Stacy W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can u be with him after he left YOU -his 5 year relationship for a NEW DUMB GIRL!!!
I know u love him!!!!!!!!!!!!! but u need to love YOURSELF MORE, if u dont love yourself enough then nobody will feel like investing time in being with you..nobody likes to be around someone who is needy, and lack of love for themselves. NO matter how much it hurts, i think u can get him back but by being ALOOF.. DO NOT CHASE HIM..that is the biggest turn off..
a guy who cheats on a girl and a girl who is still wanting to be with him=TURNOFF....it shows that he can cheat on u again, ist his what u want??? You should be happy he hooked up with a bad gf...he will realize what he lost..thats if u stop making yourslef available to him. I KNOW ITS HARD!! look at Jessica sumpson, it must have been hard to dump her first love..who she married but she is so much better off without nick lachey..you dont need a guy who cheats....HE CHEATED, there shoul;d be consequences!!
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2006-07-20 08:35:41 · answer #9 · answered by Kika 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand that you've invested a lot of time into this relationship, but how are you possibly going to trust this man after this?
Also, it's obvious that he is not as into you as you are - after all, he left you for another woman! What makes you think he's not going to do it to you again???
I don't think you should be mad at this girl either - it's him you should be steaming mad with. He's the one who broke his commitment to you, not her.
If you take him back after this, he's going to think it's o.k. to treat you like crap! He's going to think that if he dumps you again and then changes his mind, it's o.k. because you'll come back to him.
Do you want to be his doormat?????? You need to have more respect for yourself! He is the one who should be moving to be with you, not you! He should be on his knees begging for forgiveness for what he's put you through! Do you think he's suffered like you have???? NO!!!!!
I know you love him, but do you want to be his puppet? I hope you love yourself enough to make the right decision, but right now you are in a very vulnerable place and you should think long and hard and not rush into decisions that will possibly make you even more miserable in the future.
2006-07-20 08:38:29 · answer #10 · answered by Celeste 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋