Why do you think WOMEN have become so much more?

Question

Why do you think WOMEN have become so much more superficial in the past 10-15 years?

It used to be that the fairer of the sexes was the good hearted, sweet, soul-searcher who wanted a man with a good heart who was willing to work hard to provide for them both...someone who would be a good father.

In the past 10-15 years it seems that Women have become alarmingly superficial...they're more interested in the guy with six-pack abs and a tan than a guy with a good heart and a good head on his shoulders.

My question is....WHY? Why have looks become so amazingly important to Women all of a sudden?

They always have been for Men--but we're retards. We're just built like that...it's truly innate. Not saying it's all we care about by any means...but we have always been to known to care much more about how a woman looks than vice-versa.

Not sure that's the case any more.

Why do you think that is?? Please try to be honest with your answers, I'm very curious to see what others have to say

Answer 1

It's the dumbing down of America. It used to be, that men and women really needed one and other. However true that still is, we act as if we don't. We (men) don't respect them (gals) like we used to. We objectify them and believe that is okay, and it's not.

With the "Woman's" movement, (60's and 70's and continuing) men to them have now become something less then just a sperm donor.

Guys, we need respect. Gals, they need love. It's how we're built from the beginning. Over the last few decades, here in America, we forgot all about that. That's why, you think that women are only looking for flash flesh. Because we teach them to.

Peace. :)

Answer 2

First of all not all women are materialistic. and for the ones that are, well i have a theory where it all came from: Its a fallout from the battle for equality. I know before you say "this chick is wacko" just read what i have to say before you pass judgement.

Technically women have fought for this right. Men have used and abused women for the longest time. (im not agreeing that it is right btw) and for the longest time women in order to be attractive had be the ultimate "Barbie" with the perfect chest size, the perfect bum, and hips etc. We weren't looked at if we didn't, we were considered plain. We strived to look like Marilyn Monroe, or Christy Brinkly, or any hot super model.Hence why now you can get fake breasts, fake lips, face lifts, tummy tucks etc. Men made us feel self conscious and treated us like meat.
So when we won the equality battle in the work place, in the courts we actually won the right of equilty in dating. Now you see the superficial women who will only date guys with abs, money etc. You will see women, as Carrie says from Sex in the City "Have sex like a man". You see women now treating men the same way men used to treat us.

The funny thing is with the growth of equality in dating, there has been a role reversal with men. Now a days you will see more men go after women with "thier heads on thier shoulders". you will see them staying home on a friday night waiting for thier girl to call them, and getting more and more panicky about their girl cheating on them.

anyways, i have more examples on my blog regarding this subject so if you don't think i have proved a point yet check out the entry Women and roles.

Answer 3

I think it has more to do with women wanting men who take care of themselves than it does with women being superficial. I believe what's on the inside is more important than the outside too, but while I don't need to be with a supermodel who has a tan and 6 pack abs, I also don't want to be with someone who doesnt take care of his body and try to stay healthy and in shape either.

Answer 4

Not all women only see but hair eyes and abs. Some of us see people. Maybe you need not to look at the women for their butt, chest, legs, and Face. You can tell if a girl is stock on herself by sitting back and watching her for a while if she flips her hair no good. if she plays with her nails no good. if she put lip gloss on no good. Find a girl that doesn't do those thing in the first 15 min you are good to go.

Answer 5

You said it yourself- back in the day, they needed a man to support them. They'd take what they could get! Now we can support ourselves, so we have our choice. Just like men are drawn to the physical, so are women. It's human genetics. even babies are drawn to attractive people.

Now that I think of it, there are still plenty of average looking women who date average looking men. YOU just probably don't have an interest in those women! Maybe you just need to lower your standards a little :).

I have plenty of guy friends that say the same thing as you- and all my girl friends laugh because they are always trying to talk to the hottest girls at the bar when they clearly aren't the hottest guys! As high school as it sounds, you'll have better luck if you date within your league!

Answer 6

maybe because after all of these years, men have taught women to be that way because they are.

most women work outside the home so they have more male contact.

there are still lots of good hearted women out there that want those things that are nice looking...but maybe not like, gorgeous

maybe when you stop looking for the supermodel you will find a nice looking woman with a good heart who wants those things

be cool...

Answer 7

Could be because there is a significant decline in the good-hearted, supportive and providing men in the world today. Most often women are taking care of themselves, supporting families, and working just as hard as men.

So that being said, why shouldn't women be looking at qualities that will please them outside of looking for a good heart and ability to provide.

Answer 8

Well I dont feel that is always true, yes some women are this way. I personally could not date a guy with bad hygeine or something to that matter. But I feel no matter who you are someone out there thinks you are the one. Better looking than anyone they have ever seen. So guys and girls dont be discouraged they will come along. ;)

Answer 9

It is due to a lot of factors. Several of which include the media marketing women as coveting material things like diamonds, furs, shoes and wanting more more more. It also goes back to the male dominated view that women need to be taken care of. Little girls grow up usually thinking of themselves, or wanting to be, princesses. They want to be loved, coddled and spoiled and this is all strengthened by our media. So, in that respect, I agree with you. . .a lot of women are superficial, and needy and think me me me. However, I am one of those women who think me me me in different terms. I strive to be a strong, independent, and educated woman that strives to have both a career and a family and to be a contributing member of my household both emotionally, mentally, spiritually and financially. And there are a lot of women like me out there. However, there are a lot of the fake ones too. . .and if you want to find one it's not hard. Just go to the places we like to frequent like bookstores, intellectually stimulating events, college campuses, etc. And if a woman indicates what she wants from you in the first couple of dates RUN. But if she takes care of her own and is not challenging in trying to control or get materialistic objects then give her a chance. I am rooting you find a good one, my husband certainly has. Good luck to you, she is out there.

Answer 10

You partially answered your own question. One of the answers: men. You said so yourself -- men want a physically attractive girl. Add that on to the media portrayal of women, which has been a steady incline from sexy to provocative to leud, and more freedom. The only truly positive thing to come of it is that we do have more freedom, and it's finally okay for us to believe we're sexy, not just a cookie-tray-carryin'-vaccums-in-heels lady.

It's a catch-22.