I admit I have been awful lately and I don't know why... I have some resentment built up towards him he did tell quite a few lies in the beginning and has done things like - left me waiting and shown up over an hour late with no call... now we are having a baby together and he is forcing this relationship to happen.Though I appreciate him stepping up to the plate now I am still a little resentful towards him for some of his past actions... how do I move forward? Should we force this? I am angry with him but then I feel bad about being angry... he is horrible with money and I do not think he comprehends the huge commitment this baby is going to be (he is in his mid thirties, not a teenager FYI)
What can I do? What should I do? Should I work out old problems or move forward?
2006-07-20 08:21:13 · 15 answers · asked by sleepwalkin smith 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I got married to my first wife because she got pregnant and we forced the relationship to work and after six years of trying we weren't compadible and i cheated on her once and then we realized this marriage wasn't going to work. And its sound that he isn't or you might not be ready to go futher and both of you may end up hurting each other just think about what is best for you and your baby.
2006-07-20 08:47:37 · answer #1 · answered by rcpapyp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there is still love in the relationship, then I say you could try to work it out. Sit down with him and talk to him about how you are feeling, and why you have past resentments. Things like this you cannot force, and all it will do is add more resentment and anger for you both. If he actually makes an effort and listens, then I say keep working things over. But if he acts like he doesn't care, or knows everything, then maybe you should consider moving forwards, because I don't think even having a baby will make him open up his eyes. Hope this helped some!
2006-07-20 15:27:33 · answer #2 · answered by Maico 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's willing to step up then if you want to stay together you have to make an effort to put the past in the past and give him the chance to prove he wont do it again. I think the only way you can even begin to chip away at the resentment is to really feel deep down inside that he understands what he did to hurt you, how it made you feel and for you to feel that he is really sorry and will never do it again. Your still angry I think because you dont feel he understands. At the end of the day you knew all this about him and decided to get pregnant anyway. Try to work it out.
2006-07-20 15:29:39 · answer #3 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's going to have to take some freakin resposibility in the relationship. From how you described him on how he is, how are you still with him? Jeeez, girls are suppose to be smarter than that.
Anyway, do things to makle him see that he'll have to stop all this crap he's doing and become mature; now for your situation. Try and let it pass, make sure he won't do those actions again otherwise leave him. Having a baby already? Things aren't smooth and already having a baby? Man you move fast without thinking.
2006-07-20 15:30:27 · answer #4 · answered by in2theSky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow you guys sound just like me and my man i resent him sometimes for the past but lately i have been thinking that it is too hard to let somethings go and I'm about to give up on us although i don't have a baby with him, i cant really give you advise on something i dont know myself
Good luck
2006-07-20 15:28:00 · answer #5 · answered by roonie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest counseling. You cannot cause your child to suffer because of your selfishness. Any father who wants to be a part of his child's life, the mother is doing a real injustice to the child to intervene and have things otherwise. Part of the problem with the world today is we have far too many children growing up in society with no direction. Then we want to condemn them and call them menaces to society, when we have a role to play in the scheme of things. So I would really suggest you find it in your heart to forgive (not forget, to avoid the same mistakes) and make the best of the situation for you and your child.
2006-07-20 15:28:18 · answer #6 · answered by M D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him how are you feeling and tell him that if you catch him in another lie its over and that he has to start being better with money that the baby is a huge finance and he has to be prepared for it rather or not he wants to be just give him sometime after you talk to him.
2006-07-20 15:29:37 · answer #7 · answered by Missy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be better to your man all you have to do is sit him down and strat striping in front of him. And if that dosn`t work then take him to the movies or give hin a nice kiss on his lips.
2006-07-20 15:26:32 · answer #8 · answered by sweet_nyjah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he sound like he doesn't respect you. Get away from him he probably won't care. It's hard to see, but he is very inconsiderate of you and your feelings. You don't need to be treated like that. There is a nice guy out there somewhere that's going to make you the center of his universe and love you and respect you and your feelings.
2006-07-20 15:25:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your always going to have obsticles no matter who your with , so II would just suggest that you work out yopur problems and maybee consider openining a joint acct people arent perfect we do make mistakes hopefully we learn from them
2006-07-21 13:38:54 · answer #10 · answered by .? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋