Can I get some wisdom?

Question

My friends tell me I should stop talking to my old girlfriend. She is dating someone else, but we talk all the time. I want to get back with her. She tells me she is not interested in doing the same. The situation has been difficult for me to handle. But there isn't a day we don't talk either because I call her or she calls me. It doesn't really look like I have much of any chance of repairing the realtionship, but I fear if I cut contact completely it's like saying, 'I give up.' What should I do?'

Answer 1

I AGREE WITH YOUR FRIEND...
MOVE ON MAN...

Answer 2

Well Sweetie U need to ask Urself if U can continue "just" having a friendship with her? If U can go for it.
It has been my experience that to keep talking to or having contact with an ex is just like having a "cushion" so too speak. In other words she's stringing U along in CASE things don't work out with this guy she has U too fall back on. Also by her still talking too U she can still keep tabs on U. Do U see what I'm getting @. If she really cared about U she would do 1 of 2 things, either break all ties with U or get back together with U. I can't help but think that her motives are purely selfish.
If U havent moved on and dated anyone since her, then U NEED to. Nothing serious, I just have a feeling that if she saw U with another girl she would "flip" out. See right now U R following in her footsteps still wanting her. Once she sees that U have moved on I think she will change her tune.
Also, stop talking to her so much. Let her live her life for a few days without having U around. There again she is too dependent on U. When all she's doing is giving U false hope that U 2 will get back together.
It's Ur call, but either choice will not be easy, but honey U need to think about Urself and the pain she's caused U. Eventually U need to do some "self-preservation", Ur worth it!!!!!
U have feelings 2 and she need to consider those. If she does not, U DONT NEED HER.....

Good Luck !!!!
I hope things work out for U one way or another.

Answer 3

She only wants you as a friend. That's complicated by the fact that you once dated and you still want her. It might be best for you to cut contact and move on. I think you're wasting time and energy trying to re-establish an old relationship when she is obviously not interested in anything other than friendship. There are lots of other girls in the world...quit wasting your time and get back out there. I know you'll miss the daily talks, but they are not a good thing for you. Tell the old girlfriend goodbye and get on with your life. Good luck!

Answer 4

She's told you that she doesn't want to get back together. Sounds like she already gave up. Move on.. and stop being a in a glass for her (incase of emergency break glass).

The worse part is once you start seeing someone else, she's going to want to get back together.

My advise, cut all ties from her...you can be friends later, but you need to heal, cause you're not over her...once you are then you can look at having a friendship or maybe even getting back together in the future when you both have grown a little (if it was meant to be it was meant to be)

Answer 5

well, you really pretty much said it all here if ya read what ya wrote...
1. she is dating someone else
2. she is not interested in getting back together

That would tell me that it is over. Why she calls you i have no idea, and if it is over why would you want to call her knowing she does not want to be with you and is seeing somone else?

It is alright to give up when it is a lost cause...and it sounds to me like this one is...just my opinion from what you wrote.

She has moved on with someone else...i would stop contact with her and ask her to do the same as she is with someone else.

Get out there and you just might run into the right person who "does" want to be with you. But hanging on to a lost cause will not help you find love and happiness.

gl

be cool...

Answer 6

I think in your case, completely cutting contact would be best for both of you. You won't be able to move on or maintain a healthy relationship if you can't get over her, and the best way to get over anyone is with time and space. I know that its hard to imagine, but moving actually makes you feel as if a huge weight has been lifted off of your shoulders.

Answer 7

I guess is better if you cut all contact with her, and try getting a new hobie or get involved in a gym, there you will be thinking in other things and meeting new people. , Perhaps she will be interest to know what`s up with you, and suddenly you will be back, or at least you will get a better shaped body and a new girlfriend.
The world is big enough to find somebody else that will adore you, take care and do not give up!!!

Answer 8

Move on. Quit putting yourself through the misery. I used to hook up with my ex for sex, but after a few times I realized I was just hurting myself. I started to feel better when I stopped seeing him, stopped talking to him and stopped going to places where we used to go. I started dated other people and every now and then, my ex would call me and I would simply say "no more." I actually lied and said I had a boyfriend too. That's when he stopped calling for good. You deserve a girl who WANTS YOU, not one that is stringing you along. This ex girl of yours calls you and talks to you because it makes HER FEEL GOOD knowing she can talk to you and not give you anything else (i.e., love, affection, sex, etc.), but it doesn't make YOU FEEL GOOD. You NEED love, affection and maybe sex, so GO GET IT from someone who WANTS YOU. You deserve it.

Answer 9

It doesn't look like much of a chance but there still is. If you think that you love her enough that you want to marry her then talk to her about it. If she says no then move on because you can't wait for her forever.

Answer 10

We all agree, move on.
Never know she may over time, if U don't stay in touch because UR 2 busy out with friends.
She may decide she misses U, get in touch & if UR lucky, might give U 2 another go.
But GIVE UP ON HER 4 NOW.

Answer 11

You're spinning your wheels! There's no traction in that relationship and you're stealing all of this love energy from the girl who really wants it! Get out, have some fun! Quit calling the x and get on with it! Peace. :)