What if your parent.......?

Question

What are signs of mental abuse from a parent unto you?

Answer 1

I assume you mean when a child is mentally abused when they are young...how can you tell that happened?

I would think someone who is shy, scares easily, is very submissive and has a low self esteem. Someone with these tendencies was most likely mentally abused.

People may also turn into a bully and take out their frustration on other people. They may call other people names or have temper problems much like the parent who abused them.

Answer 2

Physical abuse...I am not talking a swat on the behind for being bad. Mental abuse in the form of self devaluing. Constantly telling you that you are no good and will never succeed. If you are wondering if you are abused, then there are probably issues you need to deal with. If your personal safety is in danger, then seek out a teacher, social worker, policeman, someone in authority to help you get to a safe place. If you are a student, you can go to your guidance office for help or to an area mental health or health department. Don't wait, get someone to help you evaluate the situation now.

Answer 3

Mental abuse from a parent to a child can come in many forms they can be as blatant as cursing and calling you names but can also be very subtle like asking you why you did not get an A+ instead of that A, or the parent can be just non caring and letting the child go out an do as they please this is showing the child that there is no structure and that they can always do what they please.

Answer 4

if they are constent on the insults for one, if the insults get very mean rude and just down right cruel, I have gotten use to bein bad mouthed but everyone has a different way to cope and feel what is abuse. if it is all the time no rest in there then a defanatly it is abuse, I hope things get better for you and things change between you and your parents

Answer 5

asking this question is one. You can pretty much bet on some sort of mental abuse. The up side is when you have kids, you will likely do the same.

Answer 6

A parent should never make their child feel "less than, not as good as, or different from" others. Whether or not it is abusive would depend on the degree and severity.

Answer 7

parents make kids do things and say things kids hate and dont understand for years later.
Id say, get over any kind of mental abuse, go to school, and move out. People never stop trying to mentally abuse you.
Lots of times, kids feel like parents are being mean, unfair, and just plain non-understanding.

Abuse, if they neglect you. Wow.. thats a broad subject... can you be more specific?

If a parent never listens to what you have to say.
If they interrupt you in speaking, if they ALWAYS say you cant do this with your life, or that. Which could be good or bad, kids make stupid decisions they think are good, but parents see the folly in. Id say its mental abuse if they just dont Care if you live or die.
Usually parents tell you things that are hard to swallow because they love you, and no one else will care to tell you.
Its hard to tell love from a parent for kids.
If a parent doesnt care if you are sick or healthy would be abuse.
if they dont care about you being beside them or not.
common sense.
If they dont care if you can survive on your own or not.

if they call u names or not is justified by if you knew you were messing up or not.
If you get busted in the middle of the night at a party or stealing something, they have EVERY right to ***** for hours at you calling you everything in the book.
Why? because its teh reality of it. You can be stupid.
Its if they explain why or not that makes the decision there.
If you know stealing is wrong, and you do it anyways, that pretty much qualifies you for being called those things.
Some one needs to do it. Needs to humiliate you,... that is the parents job. Parents get blamed for your mistakes until your an adult. So if I got introuble for my child, and he KNEW he was doing something wrong, and he KNEW it would have bad results, im gonna tell them flat out. Why did you act like a dumbass? So if you messed up, deal with it, when you get on your own, people will be alot meaner and unforgiving than your parents ever thought about bein... If you cant handle your parents calling you things, you cant handle the world.
BUT, you shouldnt have to come home to even more adversity.
You should come home to a comfy place, so you can reenergize for the next events. Even if parents ***** when you get home, they atleast provide food every other day, and a roof over your head. Its just a matter if they hold it over your head and use that as leverage or not. If you dont learn anything when they hold leverage against you would be abuse.
If your learning, thats good.
They call them growing pains for a reason.
Just because some one has leverage against you means its bad.
if they use the leverage for selfish reasons, would bad.
Telling you, I had you so you can take out the trash, or do the dishes for me, doesnt qualify as abuse. Parents joke with their kids and pick at the kids because it builds character.

Point blank, parents are hard on kids because its good for them.
Kids think its abuse, or unfair, because they dont know crap.
I see so many kids call child services on parents now because they dont wanna show humility and deal with the parents.

Signs of abuse would be being defensive in actions for no reason.
If you defend your point of views and self when no one is attacking you.
When you cant trust anyone at all.
When you have decided everyone is out to get you.
Telling you I had you to take out the trash builds work ethic.
It helps with taking orders at work, and not feeling picked on because of duties that are yours. Work has no reason than money and the fact it keeps it is mandatory for living as a productive member of society. It has no reward, it just has to be done because it has to be done.


You can ask a question, So I dont think your parents abused you too much. Your not retarded to the point of being dependant totally upon others for all information. You can ask a question.
It is those who are scared to ask because they fear humility and some one gloating in being superior I pity.

Answer 8

mental abuse could be when they belittle u constanly tell u that u r stupid or nothing.when they make u feel unworthy all the time.if this is the case u should try to talk to them about how u feel and if that doesn't help talk to a counsler or a grown up u feel comfortable with

Answer 9

mental abuse calling you stupid idiot dumb things like that....putting you down saying you will amount to nothing...if that is happening to you say something to a teacher, minister, friend... get help for the both of you..

Answer 10

Talking to you in a derogatory way, telling you that you are useless and will never amount to anything, or telling you lies that cause you to side with them instead of doing the right thing.