I understand the part about getting a hobby or job, etc. But how about the mindset? How do you make yourself think that you're better off without him? Or worth more?
2006-07-20 07:22:51 · 20 answers · asked by dewdropinn 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You shouldn't need to feel you are better off without him, or you are worth more...you should realize you broke up for a reason (either he or you were no longer happy with the other) and that you don't want to be in a relationship where you or your partner are not happy...cherish the memories but know each of you has to make decsions that are best for you, whether the other person likes them or not...
Just accept that you are no longer together, for whatever reasons, but that in time there will be other opportunities with other people, and that whether you are single or part of a couple, your life will be just as wonderful as you allow it to be...
Be glad for the experience you had...learn any lessons that came from it...hold the happy memories in your heart...and move forward on your path...
2006-07-20 07:27:30 · answer #1 · answered by . 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-06 01:38:47 · answer #2 · answered by Lydia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey I have a job and quite a few hobbies and I've been trying to get over my ex for 10 years. I've moved away twice and gotten into other relationships yet my feelings for him are still the same.I am still very much in love him.
But what I had to do was sit down and really think about what my life with him would be like and what i came up with was not pretty. Althought I would be with my one true love he would not be able to be the kind of husband that I deserve nor the kind of father my future kids will deserve.
SOMETIMES LOVE JUST AINT ENOUGH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-07-20 07:33:23 · answer #3 · answered by Phenomenal_Black_Woman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you break up with someone, you go through the same phases that you do when someone in your life has died. That person won't be calling you anymore, you won't hang out at the mall anymore, he won't be yours.
Its not a good idea to get a boyfriend directly after breaking up with a long-term relationship. This hurts you more than helps you.
The only thing that heals a heart is time, and you just have to think about how that person obviously wasn't the one for you, and that you'll find someone knew and better. There's other fish in the sea.
Also, talk about it, write about, get it out like you have in this question. It makes you feel ten times better.
2006-07-20 07:28:42 · answer #4 · answered by POOF 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u r arent u? do u need a man to feel like u are worth something? men dont make a woman a woman makes a man, did yo momma teach u nothing, well i should slap her fo ya. come here let auntie danys educate her, now i dont know why u 2 broke up but u go out with ur friends n shop around u aint got to get into a relationship right now but u can go out n test the waters alil, so oh if u want revenge then flirt with one of his friends, lol anyho.. the end of things takes time to get ova but u just got to know u r better then thinkin u aint nothing.. u just look forward to makin someone otha guy something when u ready
2006-07-20 07:28:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read "He's Just Not That Into You" by Greg Brendht (sp). I was so over my ex before i was even done with the book. Not only was I so over him, but it turned out the man that was so into me was my best friend. And I may have never realized it without that book.
sometimes, we women do need to be knocked over the head with the advice of a man.
and by the way. word of advice woman to woman, never take advice from someone who is not happliy involved. Jadded people are never good therapists
2006-07-20 08:05:54 · answer #6 · answered by Bella 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start taking time for you. Get to know you a little better and what you are looking for in a guy obviously it was not him. It will take some time to get over him, the more you think about him the worser you make yourself feel.
2006-07-20 07:28:30 · answer #7 · answered by xcstbabygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hobby or job , yeah that might help but really the only way is moving out, starting fresh either with someone new or by yourself get rid of all the memories and old stuff get everything new, and youll see, it takes time, but soon as you know it everything is left in the past. trust me i've done it and it has worked,im very happy with someone new.
2006-07-20 07:29:31 · answer #8 · answered by ?????? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way is to always keep yourself busy. If your always doing something the less time you have to think about him. Try to hang out with friends or family and have fun. Just remember you are a better person than him and you don't need him. :)
2006-07-20 07:27:21 · answer #9 · answered by highj760402 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remember the bad moments. Once you find a new bf, you will realize you would never have been with him had you not ended the other relationship. And most importantly, remember that things happen for a reason. It just takes time to see that sometimes, be patient.
2006-07-20 07:27:14 · answer #10 · answered by Lisa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋