i was at the checkout at walmart when i saw my bf checking this other girl out at another register. i mean the whole time i was standing ther i noticed this. then i proceeded to look over at her to see if she seen him doing it and she did. she kept looking back at him. i didnt say anything to him about it cuz he would just deny it like he always do. am i over reacting. i know people are attactive to look at but my bf totally let this girl know he like what he saw right in front of me. i feel good about myself and not a jeaolous person but i feel that was rude. do you? and should i just leave this gut alone. cuz it happens all the time. i really dont want to say anything else to him about it. i just want to keep my didstance when we are in public cause it is embarrassing for me to see other women noiticing my man looking at them cuz they see me with him. should i just explain to him that i just want to be friends cuz i really dont want a disrespectful manlike that. what do you think.
2006-07-20 07:21:55 · 21 answers · asked by eaglestraces123 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dear Embarressed,
Hmm.. tough call. I guess the first thing you want to ask yourself is how much are you worth? How much do you value your own peace of mind. There are several ways to look at this but only one truth. You are a beautiful respectable, deserving person who obviously has alot going for her excpet for the looser boyfriend with the wondering eyes. People can argue that at least he is with you and that you are going home with him, not that other girl . No matter how high your self esteem is, his behavior is unhealthy for you. It will chip away at you bothing you emensly causing you to not want to be around him in public etc...If he is so clueless that he can't understand that this makes you uncomfortable and he is that disrespectful to you now that he is blatently checking out other females right in front of you.. tell him to hit the road. You deserve better. No amount of talking is going to change this . The friendship route is an over-rated cop out to lessening the break-up blow and can backfire on you. Make a clean break and find someone who is totally into you. You deserve that.. don't you? Expect the treatment you give to be returned to you and settle for nothing less or you will just repeat the pattern in some other way by not giving yourself the importance you desire and need. This is your chance to prove to yourself and those around you that you are worth having and being repected!
Good luck.... Let me know how it turns out! Remember: Don't waste the Pretty!!!!!
A
2006-07-20 07:52:29 · answer #1 · answered by Angelisa Smiles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This does not sound like the girl for you, honey. That is totally disrespectful. You shouldn't feel embarrased or uncomfortable around your man ever. If he isn't afraid to do that in front of you, what is he doing behind your back.
It's totally inappropriate. Ditch this guy before he cheats and you get an STD.
2006-07-20 07:25:51 · answer #2 · answered by Sheriff Liz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to leave that jerk, its totally disrespectful. yes i know guys are always gonna check out girls, but at least just glance and dont make it obvious. luckyly my bf is not that type of guy i have never caught him starring but if i did i would not be with him. not only is it rude but it makes you feel like a total a$$, especially hwen the girl notices, why would you want to be with a guy who belittles you like that. when ever guys stare at me when theyre with theyre gf i just give them a dirty look maybe the will learn not to do it. once i was at walmart too (lol) and i was getting im my car and there was a guy in a truck next to me with a baby in the car and he started saying stupid things like damm baby and you look good bull$hit. i ignored it and when i was pulling out i noticed his gf getting in the truck, some men are just straight out doggs. and one last thing if he does that infront of you imagine how he acts when your not around, he will end up cheating with that attitude. good luck and find yourself a new guy!
2006-07-20 07:34:32 · answer #3 · answered by 2_good_2_be_true;) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how u feel. Way before my man and i tied the knot. He was the same. I told him how i felt about it. Because there was actually times he would say, "damn, look at that", he referring to some girl with big knockers or whatever. I let him know that's direspectful to me and that other girl u checkin out because ur suppose to be with me... yah know checkin me out. I don't have much to check out but he understood. Now it's kinda funny because whenever some physically attractive girl comes by he gots all eyes on me! =D
2006-07-20 07:34:22 · answer #4 · answered by Mrs J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong about "window shopping" but there is a respectful way of doing it. He should respect you more by not "googling" at other women in your presence (o.k. maybe on the sly cause he ain't GAY) . Most men you have to literally tell them that it's wrong because he may feel like he's not doing anything wrong. Check em'
2006-07-20 07:29:40 · answer #5 · answered by Tee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because he is in a relationship doesn't make him blind. Although what he did may have been disrespectful, it is also possible that it was by accident, he might not have realized he was staring. If this is the worst thing he does, don't worry about it, he's with you after all.
2006-07-20 07:25:58 · answer #6 · answered by MariaOne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh man i love walmart when collage is in there is so much to look at but any how don't worry about him looking if she does it for him his wiener is going to get puffy you 2 are going to go home and he is going to stuff the ol' dog in ya you should think about strip joints that way also because nothing happens there the guys get all horny and go home to dig around in the girlfriends gold mine for a while
change the way you think and you will have a really good relationship
2006-07-20 07:32:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's one thing to do it every once in a while but in front of you. that is disrespectful and he won't change who knows how far he'll take it. For all those women knoe you could be a friend or a family member.
2006-07-20 07:30:21 · answer #8 · answered by jess_brenda_04 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nicely someone requested on the following once though adult adult males like females organic or with makeup each one stated organic so i'd bypass for the further organic a mild plum is positive with eco-friendly eyes with some eyeliner and mascara mild colored gloss yet no longer too sticky and in case your going out with the ladies i say bypass for the smokey seem
2016-10-15 00:27:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I think it is very rude, and disrespectful to you. This has happened to me, but not over and over like you said has happened to you. I think that it means that maybe the guy is not that into you. Maybe you should dump him. And let him know exactly why!!!!!!!!
2006-07-20 07:27:11 · answer #10 · answered by anonymous 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋