is it normal for a couple to fight 2 or 3 times a week? is she happy with me? we been togather for 3 years.
2006-07-20 07:13:45 · 15 answers · asked by j g 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Do you always make up? I think it is normal to fight. But it is important to remember to compromise with each other.
2006-07-20 07:18:23 · answer #1 · answered by Sarah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow - I'd think you were my boyfriend, except he's more articulate.
Normal isn't really the issue. Most couples argue more after they've been together for a while because they have an increased feeling of security. It's no longer a question of whether they'll get dumped if they yell at your for not taking out the trash. Also, the longer you have been together, the more you begin to notice and nitpick the little faults.
The only time it becomes a problem is when your feeling towards the person is more negative than positive. 3 years is a period of adjustment, and if you are committed and in love, you'll make it through just fine.
2006-07-20 14:19:48 · answer #2 · answered by Kristina S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on why you are fighting and what you are fighting over.Hopefully not little things because if everything was fine until now than that means somethings not right with the relationship, and you both need to talk it out because if your fighting 2 or 3 times a week, someone is not happy so you fuss about about it instead of talking about it. Just say whats really bothering you, just say whats really on your mind dont sugar coat it be honest, dont argue over nothing. If you both say how you feel you'll feel alot better but you'll never know unless you talk instead of making things difficult.
2006-07-20 14:28:15 · answer #3 · answered by unique_scorpi0 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband I have never had an argument and we've known each other 3 years, been married 1. Yes, I think fighting twice a week is not a good sign. What's causing all the stress??
2006-07-20 14:16:48 · answer #4 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Laides need not be the only ones who reply. No man that is not normal. She is definately not happy but it may not be your fault. No matter how long we are with someone, it is our responsibility to make OURSELVES happy! People get mad at their partners for not providing them with happiness on a platter. People's self esteem and confidence needs to come from within, not from their mates. Support your wife and find out what is missing in her life. She may miss her individuality and resent you for feeling "tied down". Let her spend more time alone with her girlfirends and by herself. She needs to do some sole searching. Just love her and support her.
2006-07-20 14:18:08 · answer #5 · answered by Mike Hunt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
shoot thats pretty damn good for 3 years. Me and my bofriend fight more than that and its only been almost 2 years lol and just because you guys fight dont mean shes not happy. You guys are probably just getting bored...once your with someone for so long theres nothing else to do. good luck :)
2006-07-20 14:19:12 · answer #6 · answered by Fearfully & wonderfully made 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what you are fighting about. I would say that you both need to work on communicating w/o fighting, and learn to compromise more. It probably wouldn't hurt for you to both learn to be better listeners too. Go to a counselor if you can afford it. Good luck!
2006-07-20 14:24:04 · answer #7 · answered by Blue_eyed_Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on what you fight about, I have been married for over fifteen years and my husband and i disagree on a daily basis. On whether or not she is happy with you, ask her and explain to her that you feel uncomfortable about all of the squabbling between the both of you, if she is not happy then it is probably best that you go your separate ways. good luck.
2006-07-20 14:18:55 · answer #8 · answered by osu2720@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like neither of you are happy. Is there a pattern in your arguments?
2006-07-20 14:17:10 · answer #9 · answered by Sheriff Liz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is not.I would seek counciling before it ruins you both.Love should be like a summer breeze,warm,light and pleasant.
2006-07-20 14:22:30 · answer #10 · answered by Bubsy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋