or will attraction get in the way? i honestly don't think it is possible, especially if your attracted to them.
what do you think?
2006-07-20 06:42:38 · 41 answers · asked by Jan 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sadly, I agree. If it is not attraction, then it is something else that gets in the way.
2006-07-20 06:45:59 · answer #1 · answered by mjcariati1971 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If there is an attraction to one another it would be difficult to have a platonic friendship. I was a friend to a man that was attracted to me but I just wanted to be friends. I was direct about my feelings and we became good friends. After a while, I think his attraction grew and he stopped hanging out with me. To answer question, I guess it would depend on the two people involved. When there is a deep attraction to one another it is almost impossible to be just friends!
2006-07-20 06:51:11 · answer #2 · answered by latina311204 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I use to say yes, but then recently this guy I was just friends with told me he was in love with me. Now keep in mind we have never been on a date, we never kissed, or anything. I had just told him the night before the reason I haven't dated anyone is because I haven't found anyone to date (I guess he thought that excluded him). Anyways, at a party he started to cry and tell everyone how he was in love with me, and I didn't feel the same way. I've got lot's of guys friends, but now I sit here and wonder how many of them actually are attracted to me.
2006-07-20 06:46:59 · answer #3 · answered by alwyzn2somthn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't have to think about it, I know you are wrong...I've had MANY male friends over the years, and they were just that...FRIENDS.
Even if there is attraction, people needn't act on it...I'd rather have a good friendship, than risk it by chancing romance knowing if that didn't work the chances of us retaining our friendship (at least on the same level) would be slim...
The idea that men and women can't be friends is part of what makes some people so jealous, when their partner has an opposite sex friend...it's rather demeaning to both mean and women, implying that we cannot (or do not) control sexual urges any more than animals... *shakes head*
Cheers to all my guy friends!
2006-07-20 06:47:49 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no its not possible, and i dont care people can lie and say yes all they want. when your friends with a guy either the girl will become attracted to the guy or the guy will be attracted to the girl some where along the road. sure you may not know this as a girl or the guy wont know about it but it happens. i had a guy friend once, well i thought he was anyways, i used to tell him all, about my bf and our problems, and come to find out he ended up telling me that he wished that he was my bf. so not its not possible.
2006-07-20 06:49:35 · answer #5 · answered by 2_good_2_be_true;) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are attracted to him, the answer is no, but if you are not then is yes... it can be many things between you two that makes it easy to get along with each other with out feeling that you are going to fall for him after a while.
2006-07-20 06:47:28 · answer #6 · answered by estela2103 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes they can. I have had a lady friend for 10 years. One thing thow , the more you know someone the nicer they look. You just have to make sure both partys know that it is being friends and that will be all there ever will be to it. Good Luck.
2006-07-20 06:49:14 · answer #7 · answered by ldp999000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, I have several female friends, Just keep the sex out of it, cause unless you have more than attraction, the sex will eventually ruin it, Whereas if you just keep it to mutual admiration, you can remain Friends. Use some self discipline.
2006-07-20 06:48:33 · answer #8 · answered by Big hands Big feet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, they can. And it's a very good idea to have an opposite-sex friend to talk to and get objective advice. Seek them out, even if you have to do it from among people you're not physically attracted to.
2006-07-20 06:46:07 · answer #9 · answered by byama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have never seen it work...and I think the only way it could work is for definite parameters to be in place to ensure everything stays appropriate. like, don't invite them over one-on-one, always have other adults present...and besides, if what you really want is to be married to someone else, investing a lot of time in a relationship that's going nowhere is counter-productive.
stick with your sister-friends, those are the ones which are deeper and truer, and give your whole heart to one wholly-deserving husband-friend.
two cents please :)
aunt cryllie
2006-07-20 17:21:34 · answer #10 · answered by cryllie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋