Ladies - are you offended if a man does not allow you to enter/leave an elevator before he does?

Question

I always allow a lady to go first, one of my co-workers doesn't. I always tell him that he's rude. He says that stuff doesn't matter anymore. Does it?

Answer 1

It's really no big deal, but it's always appreciated if a guy let the lady enter/leave first. Just like some people get in the elevator first and you haven't even gotten out. Now, that's rude!

Answer 2

I don't get offended because I know how confusing it is for men to know anymore how they should treat women. Some women think that if a man shows a little chivalry, he thinks that women are helpless and weak. These men are just being respectful. These women give the rest of us a bad reputation. I love it when my husband, or any man, holds doors for me or lets me enter first. But on the other hand I sometimes do this too. If I'm entering a door or elevator I'll hold the door for the people behind me or if I see someone with their arms full I'll get the door for them (man or woman). It's just being polite, considerate and respectful. My husband is teaching our 10 and 11 yr. old sons to be the same way. It's cute to see our sons holding doors for people or offering to help them with their heavy loads.

Answer 3

I am not offended, but I am always very happy to see a man allow a woman to precede him, especially if he holds the door open. I always make sure to smile at these guys and thank them. I don't think your friend is rude (cuz hey, equality and all - I will even hold the door for men if I am there first and they have their arms full), but he is wrong in saying that it doesn't matter. Manners ALWAY matter.

(I hope he lets seniors off the elevator before him!)

Answer 4

I do think it's rude, but I rarely bring it up to men because they get so defensive. A lot of men feel like since women work now, men don't have to be chivalrous or polite. I don't get upset, but I do think it's common courtesy to hold a door open for a woman or walk on the outside.

The one time I did get upset was last summer when I was on a full bus during evening rush hour. When I looked around, I noticed that the majority of the people sitting were men, and the majority of people standing were women. A pregnant woman got on the bus and not one of the sitting men offered her their seat; they just avoided making eye contact with her or ignored her. Finally, a woman in probably her late 50's got up and gave her seat to the woman. She looked at all the men seated around her with a disgusted look and made a comment to the man seated closest to her. He told her that he was just as tired as the pregnant woman b/c he had just gotten off of work and he didn't see why he should have to get up. That's when I realized that chivalry really is dead!

Answer 5

At work it doesn't matter as much unless the women is a superior.

It shows that he was taught how to be a gentleman by opening doors and allowing women to go through them first.

It also depends on the female. Some of us wait for a man to open the door for us. I know that if I am going on an elevator at work with men, I usually get on first and allow them to push the button for me. But that is the culture that I work in. I also wait for my male family members and friends to open the door (including car) for me. But I also make sure that once I am in the car that I open their car door for them. It's common courtesy and that's how I was raised.

Answer 6

I think it's incredibly rude when men step on or off an elevator before the women who are also waiting. The funny thing is, I only notice this with East Indian men. Not sure if they think women are supposed to be subservient, or are second class citizens, but we're not. :) Most men let me on/off before them, and I always smile and say thank you.

It matters to some, and not to others. Personally, I think it's all the f*cking womens libbers who have screwed up everything and confused men to the point where they wonder, "Should I hold the door open for her and risk getting screamed at because she says she can do it herself, or let it slam in her face and be called a pig?" So sad.

Answer 7

It depends on the situation and how he did it. I get offended when he acts as if it's a race and if his demeanor is rude.
In a casual situation I won't be offended. Common courtesy always make a person feel good but not all people appreciate it so maybe thats why your friend feels the way he does.

Answer 8

I think it's rude if they don't at least pause for a moment and yield to me. Give the woman a chance to leave first and let the woman be the one to indicate whether or not this matters to her.

A lot of work, kinda. It really only takes 1-2 seconds out of every elevator trip you share with a female.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

I let whoever was there first get on first regardless of gender. It is nice if a man opens a door or lets me go ahead of him...but it isn't something that I expect. Equality means just that...all are equal right? Why expect something from a man when you don't do the same for a man in return?