DO u think I am over exagerating...I have a bf of 5yrs now...sometimes he says things that hurt...i was joking around with him and asked on a scale from 1-10 how would u rate me...ok Im no 10..i know this but the fact that he actually answered that..he always says im perfect n stuff...he gave me a 9...but im not perfect enough for him?...i dont get it...and whn i was joking abt him finding a pretteir girl then me..he said well realistly there r prettier girls then u...i havent seen them but there are...ok thats realistic.....BUT WHO SAYS THAT TO UR FUTURE WIFE??? So0o0o we r in a fight now and he's mad b/c was upset that he told me the truth...he doesnt understand that sometimes ur supposed to keep ur mouth shut...i dont get it...do u guys think im wrong?
2006-07-20 06:31:52 · 29 answers · asked by chaand5 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
good god..you set him up and then complain about his answer...grow up!
2006-07-20 06:34:48 · answer #1 · answered by Tek ~aka~Legs! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well especially before u get married u never tell a girl that anyone is prettier than her, but u should never have brought up about finding another girl, cuz guys dont want to go there, and we dont know if u r serious or joking, so we follow our "the truth will set u free" while trying to be sweet at the same time. and a 9 is pretty good, so if u r not a super model, dont take offense to that, cuz chances r that u r a 8 not a 9, so he was lying. but for a guy to learn to keep his mouth shut is like teaching a dog not to eat food. but remember u can curb the dogs appetite. so theres hope. u both r at fault.
2006-07-20 13:39:04 · answer #2 · answered by bobathan229101 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He gave you a very nice compliment saying you were a 9. Dude your not perfect and you never are going to be. I think you were totally in the wrong for going Menopause on him. There will always be prettier, smarter, sexier girls out there. You just have to focus on doing what makes him happy. Not asking him lame questions on how you rate on a scale of 1 to 10. That is of course if you want your relationship to work. If you want to do the whole, I'm the hottest thing on the face of the earth, then ask the mirror on the wall. I bet it is even more Glib than your BF.
2006-07-20 13:38:21 · answer #3 · answered by Baelor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, as far as I am concerned, a nine is excellent!! NO person is ever PERFECT. We all have our flaws. The important thing is that he loves you, and he was honest!!!
This may sound not nice but are you in that time of the month? or have another prob/ insecurity you haven't shared?
Just want to help you. I think you are lucky to have such a guy.
Be honest, how would you rate him? and if you say 10 that's not honest.
My boyfriend just gave me a seven. I'm going to find out where I lost the 3 and work on gaining those points 1 by 1 - if I can.
2006-07-20 13:48:22 · answer #4 · answered by stacy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is an idea.......if you don't want the truth don't ask. First of all as a woman I've learned never to ask those kinds of questions. Second, don't fight over them even if you don't like the answer. You ask for a honest man and then he gives you honesty and you are mad about it. What you need to remember is that there is always going to be someone smarter, prettier, and funnier than you are. You just have to take you for who you are. Obviously he likes you a lot for being with you 5 years. Maybe you should lighten up.
2006-07-20 13:37:23 · answer #5 · answered by alwyzn2somthn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think you are wrong, but I do think you should be glad that he doesnt WANT to lie to you. I sounds like he really does love you. Id rather have the truth, than a lie. Maybe he is a realist, ppl like that always tell the truth, even if it hurts a lil. Just be cool, thank him for not lying, but ask him to watch out when you ask him stuff like that; to be more sensitive about it. Good luck girly.
2006-07-20 13:45:34 · answer #6 · answered by ~jenn~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It has been my experience that if I didnt really want to know the truth I really should ask the question... But he is with you and hasnt left so that has to say something about how he views u and youe relationship... Men are visual creatures and thats just a fact of life... If u werent good enough or pretty enough for him then he would have been gone long ago....sounds to me like someone has some serious self esteem issues to deal with....
2006-07-20 13:38:12 · answer #7 · answered by janet74_2000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so...if he cheats on you and you ask him about it, would you want him to lie to you about it? If you don't want to know the answer, DON'T ASK. You are putting him in a corner...if he doesn't feel that he can be open and honest with you, what kind of relationship will that be...at least he didn't give you a 2 or a 3...(or worse)...if you keep getting mad at him for traps that you set to begin with, you will end up NOT being his future wife.
2006-07-20 13:39:27 · answer #8 · answered by mjboog2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jesus...you guys slay me. You ask us to be honest (Does this look good on me? Is my hair okay? Does this make me look fat?)
Answer.."no...you look fine dear...or No, you look lovely dear" and you get the line that you aren't being honest or you always say that. Say..Yep..makes you look alittle broad in the beam....Holy Moses....what a load of crap we get.
So...what do you want? For him to tell him your perfect for him? To say that there isn't anyone else prettier than you (by your own admission you say you aren't a 10). Noooo....always looking for an argument. Up is Down...Black is White.
Cut it out! Christ no wonder I have dogs. I don't have to walk on eggs around them!
"Doesn't understand sometimes you have to keep your mouth shut". perhaps you should practice more of what you preach little missy.
2006-07-20 13:39:15 · answer #9 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you're not wrong but guys minds think differently than girls. Here's the thing, there are always going to be funnier, better looking, smarter etc. people out there, so my theory is that it's something else that makes two people connect...so even if there are "better" people out there it doesn't mean there is anyone better for him than you...just remember, guys minds are kinda bland and black and white. Probably you shouldn't take what he said too personally...as long as he's good to you and you're both happy together.
2006-07-20 13:37:07 · answer #10 · answered by meeso12002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be glad that he was honest with that means more than him thinking you perfect no one is perfect in this world and yeah maybe he should know better but cut him some slack he was just telling you the truth but if you really feel that badly about it the maybe the problem is deeper that just a silly arguement.
2006-07-20 13:37:51 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋