my mom was sick last weekend and i totally did everything. now, i'm sick and she's being really cold. she even was kinda upset that i couldn't help her with dinner last nite... i wanted to but i was so curled up in pain! am i wrong for hoping that she'd take care of me too???
2006-07-20 06:26:46 · 12 answers · asked by mar 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I f you do good to others, others will do good to you-that is the law of nature[god].But don't expect the good come from the same person, it will come to you from someone else at the appropriate time.Who is that someone and what is the appropriate time depend on so many factors over which we do not have any control.So do good and leave the rest to god.
Your expectation to get assistance from your mom when you are in pain is quite natural, but your mom's unpleasantness in your not helping her last night without considering your state of health is not reasonable.Some people act unreasonably sometimes and we have to put up with it.It is better you clear your position to your mom frankly so that there is no misunderstanding.
2006-07-20 06:50:58 · answer #1 · answered by rama 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I can understand why you want your mother to take care of you now that you're sick. You feel miserable, and just want to curl up into a ball, and have someone baby you. However, did you take care of your mother just so that she would "owe" you in return? Probably not. You took care of her because she was sick and you love her.
She probably doesn't realize how sick you are, and, also, she might not be feeling completely well yet. She probably still feels a bit sick and probably didn't feel like cooking dinner all by herself.
Hopefully you'll feel better soon!
Oh, and to answer your question, Yes, i do hope that any kindness I do for others comes back to me in karma points. But even if it doesn't, I still like doing nice things for others. It makes me feel better about myself to know that I'm a good hearted person.
2006-07-20 06:34:05 · answer #2 · answered by Mama Pastafarian 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not wrong for hoping that but wrong for being disappointed in the behavior of anyone else. You can be compassionate but that doesn't mean another person will be compassionate back. And if you are expecting that, then you are being nice for all the wrong reasons. It should come from selflessness. If it comes back, great and if not, then you still have the satisfaction of knowing you are a good hearted person
2006-07-20 06:37:22 · answer #3 · answered by Tek ~aka~Legs! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are right i know what you are going through. I have chronic migranes that i either wake up with or get in mid after noon. I also have acid reflux and some blood shugar problems, so i know my mom gets frusturated whenever i get sick but she will always take care of you...thats what moms do...if not call child protective services!
2006-07-20 06:37:26 · answer #4 · answered by Yes I Am The Gorgeous One 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you did something nice for your mom doesn't mean she's going to do the same for you.
Sometimes in life we have to do things we really don't feel like doing but you know deep down in your heart it's the "Right" thing to do.
Your kindness will come back to you ... it just might be a different time .... that's all .. !
2006-07-20 06:55:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
since you have asked to be honest, i would be honest we all hope that we get back , if we have done some good, but on the contrary we shouldn't do any good expecting that we get the same, just do . secondly ur mom maybe she is still not well but is back to do the daily duty maybe she must have sensed that you are not well and not to trouble you , so in spite of her not showing her concern she must have re payed it , you may have missed to notice it. since you expected much more,
2006-07-20 06:37:24 · answer #6 · answered by ramesh n 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you are not wrong. you give a little and you get a little. its the same thing with relationships if you give love, gifts time do special things for your boy/girl friend then it nice when they do it for you. same goes with parents or brothers/sisters. its not to much if you do something for then and they return the act. unless its one sided and the one person is always being taken care of and not giving back
2006-07-20 06:32:27 · answer #7 · answered by Antonio 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a hard question. i help people because i want to. i don't expect anything back. some people are takers and some givers. you know your mom better than anybody. she might think thats what your suppose to do since your her child.never expect anything in return and you will be surprised what comes back at ya.
2006-07-20 06:35:02 · answer #8 · answered by maxossa1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you're not wrong, but as you've probably heard before life doesn't always happen the way we want it to.
2006-07-20 06:33:33 · answer #9 · answered by andeegi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU HAVE TWO KINDS OF PEOPLE IN YOUR LIFE DISTRACTORS AND DISAPOINTERS WE ALL STRIVE TO DO NICE THINGS FOR PEOPLE THOSE PEOPLE DO NOT ALWAYS DO FOR US BUT LATER DOWN THE ROAD NICE THINGS DO COME BACK TO US WE SHOULD NEVER EXPECT PAYMENT FOR KINDNESS GIVEN NOR HOLD GRUDGES CAUSE WE THINK WE ARE SLIGHTED
2006-07-20 06:41:46 · answer #10 · answered by jk poet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋