I know i should just dismiss him from mind my altogether but this guy that i dated about 3 and a half months ago was ok in the beginning but he started losing interest, playing games, and stopped calling so i stopped calling 2. I told him i loved him an maybe that made him back away cause i just got outta a bad relationship. I have not made any attempts to call him or visit cause i know that it won't change nothing and to make matters worse he's an ex con!! lol!! I know what some of u r probably thinkin' that i'm crazy and he's not even worth it but from time 2 time i think about him cause i feel so lonely and i probably should start back dating but i'm tired of guys playing games wit me and training them so i feel kinda mixed up about it. My emotional state was already messed up because of what i went thru wit my ex but now its just all screwed up.
2006-07-20 06:15:18 · 15 answers · asked by Caryn B 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Honey, forget about this guy, he is not worth it. I know that you probably do feel lonely but you will find the right person, he is out there. I know how you feel trust me.
every one has to go thru it, that's life?
I think that worst mistake that you did with this ex-con guy is that you told him that you love him, it is to soon to tell a guy that you love him. and in top of that am not trying to sound mean but you know he just got out of jail/prison and men have needs, may be he just got what he wanted from you and he got tired of it and whats to move on the next.
The man is the one that is supposed to say I LOVE YOU first not the girl.
When ever you feel lonely this is what you should do, go exercise, go on the computer, read "nothing romantic", just distract your mind. Trust me you will find some one that will learn how to appreciate you. GOOD LUCK!!!
2006-07-20 06:36:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I just got out of two bad relationships too within a 1 and a half year period, and I'm to the point where I just need to be alone. Yeah I still have the longings to sleep with someone at night, but it's not worth going back to any ex's over, and I'm not ready to move on either, just be patient with yourself, and don't even think about it, just let destiny run it's course. I'm sure you and I will eventually hook up again. But for now, I watch alot of movies, excercise, and do what ever I want with no one to tell me what to do! It is really great, and I think I'm starting to get a little spoiled in that regard. Good luck to you! And keep your chin up, join blockbuster online and get a bunch of free movies and work out while watching them, or something. Have fun!
2006-07-20 06:22:43 · answer #2 · answered by anonymous 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should just move on with your life and focus more on your personal needs and wants to better yourself. In those types of "relationships" if that is what you want to call a relationship. Trust me its not worth wasting your time....Also, taking into consideration that you had just gotten out of a bad relationship that should tell you that you are not ready to move on to another one...why?...becuase you are not emotionally stable and your feelings are mixed up and not sure. I think you should just wait there is no rush trust me....I myself...years ago got out of a bad relationship then I started to date other guys but really that did not help at all in seeking that love, caring,guy it hurt me. Because some guys might take advantage of your situation. I had to figure it the hard way by experiencing it..now I know that I don't need a guy to be good or enjoy life I have my friends, my aspirations in life, goals to accomplish, my family. You need to find yourself and give yourself time to cope with the situation. Next time you know you will look back and laugh about it or say "what was I thinking". Just take time for yourself.....and think about your needs and wants. Not what you might want...but rather what you want in life and in a guy.....hold it off. Because i did and now I have a wonderful relationship with my boyfriend today...There are plenty of guys who are the total opposite of those we had ........
2006-07-20 06:32:37 · answer #3 · answered by girly_gurl1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are obviously not ready to date - him or anyone!
You need to spend some time working on yourself, so you will stop being so dependent on others for love. I mean, are you even listening to yourself? The guy is a loser ex-con..and you still want him just because you're lonely.
Stop being so weak. No self respecting good guy will find that attractive. We like girls who are strong and don't run to bad relationships just to have a guy.
Work on you. Work on school, job, your body, join activities, play sports, etc. Get some confidence and make yourself worth having. Do that, and you will stop feeling the desperate need for affection...plus more people will want to be close to you.
2006-07-20 06:21:45 · answer #4 · answered by Nightwish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is ok to tell him that u love him because you are human and you cannot help your feelings. If that made him back away than that is his lost he is just insecure about himself, and maybe he feels that he does not deserve love because of his past like you said he is an EX-CON right? The best thing for you to do is just keep going and find someone that will appreciate you telling them that u love them and they will say it back to u. you deserve to be loved back and this guy when he is by himself believe me he will think about u and realize that he messed up. I been there done that they always come back, make him miss u. keep your head up. :)
2006-07-20 06:32:20 · answer #5 · answered by butterfly101 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally understand. The only thing I can say (and it's a total cliche but it'll work eventually) is to give it some time, and go hang out with some other guys. Ask someone out that's really not your type (like the sports guy if you usually go for the in-the-band guy).
And there'll still be times when you slip back into feeling like this again, but then one day you'll realize that hey! You haven't even thought about him for a month.
2006-07-20 06:22:57 · answer #6 · answered by Queen Queso 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once you care or cared about someone, you will miss them when they are no longer in your life, that's human. What you need to do is try to move on. You already acknowledge that you are emotionally 'messed up'. My advice is to sort yourself out. Learn to love yourself and then try adding to it.
I do believe that you made a good move by not calling or visiting because a relationship takes two working at it to succeed and not one running after the other.
Do not become emotionally dependent on someone you know will not be there for you.
Miss him, go ahead, but remind yourself you are better off without him!!
2006-07-20 06:26:35 · answer #7 · answered by stacy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know the answer. you've done it so far.
Stay away. but now you are getting weak and you are really looking for reinforcement. here goes....
the truth is you are much better than any of this.
there are guys out there who dont play games and are looking for a real relationship.
you will never find one if you leave up your wall.
let it down for a new guy. never go back to the ex...
2006-07-20 06:21:13 · answer #8 · answered by Storm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u unswer urself ,, u said u feel lonley thats why when r alone u start thinking on the last thing happen to which was ur ex. and u think u miss him but actually u miss being with someone
it was wrong of u to say i love u so soon ,, but that what happen we can't change it so move on
turn the page
and don't be so pushy ... wait .... the one for u 'll find ur way
2006-07-20 06:21:27 · answer #9 · answered by Nicholet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe if you just got out of a bad relationship, you should concentrate on yourself for awhile. He may still be around when you get yourself together. And if he's playing games, forget him. You don't deserve that.
2006-07-20 06:18:14 · answer #10 · answered by KATYA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋