i'm 19 years old my boyfriend is 28 do you think he's too old for me and am i wasting my time?

Answer 1

XXXXXXXXXXXX I think because you are thinking about it your relationship isn't what is should be. If you think you are wasting your time, chances are you are. Otherwise you would not be finding fault. And because of your unsureness you aren't giving him 100% of you. Find someone whom you can give AND GET 100% in return. GOOD LUCK HUN.XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX

Answer 2

There is no right or wrong age. You are of legal age so really it is a matter of maturity and how well you connect. I would guess that not too many 28 year old men have a lot in common with a 19 year old unless they are a mature 19 year old. But every situation is different. As long as you have a healthy relationship with mutual respect then no, he is not too old for you.

I have dated men who were 19 years older than me to men who were 2 years older than me, it's just a matter of finding who you are compatible with.

As for wasting your time, that has nothing to do with age. If you are both on the same page then it's not a waste. Good luck girl! Keep that old man in check ;)

Answer 3

okay i can see the attraction from a 19 yr old to a 28 yr old, but i never could understand how a guy who is almost 30 is dating a teenager.... i mean i see why he's attracted, but it's just kinda weird.... now if he was 38 and you were 29 it would be a whole different story because you are both mature adults, but 19 and 28 is too different.... you should be dating someone closer to your own age.... think about where this relationship is going, if you think it's that serious, then you two should be talking about more serious issues, like children, and religion, and all those sorts of things to make sure you are on the same page.... but if you aren't, then that coupled with the age difference is a big red flag.....

Answer 4

The general rule in most psychology journals says that the best relationships for people between the ages of 16 and 40 are when the guys age, divided by two, plus 7 equals the woman's age. So, in your case, the best age for you to date at 19 would be a guy who is 25. The spread will increase as you get older so he's not too old for you.

Answer 5

When I was 19 I dated a 32 yr old. Now I'm 22 and my boyfriend is 28. The only concern I'd have is the fact that guys that age are starting to think about marriage. The 32 yr old and I ended things after he proposed and I laughed.

Answer 6

Do you think he's too old? Why do you ask? If your asking such a question, you must be having some issues about it. Follow those insticts! Age is nothing but a number, but there are conflicts that can arise because of the age gap. One, in particular, is that he will always look down upon you. It will be just too easy to say, "Well, she's only 19...". He will most likely have different life goals than you will. Good luck, Matt.

Answer 7

Well it depends on how your communication is really. I met my husband when I was 20 and he was 32... we have been married for 7.5 years now... and it's working out great. If you think he's a waste of time or he just wants someone younger, then this is a waste of time. Otherwise, from my experiece I was a little more mature for my age (which I did not like), and he loved that about me when we met......

So Age is not really the only determining factor of a lasting relationship, there's much more than that to it.... Try to look at how well you guys get along, how he treats you, your understanding of one another's needs..... A lot of older guys really are set of what they want, others are more confused; therefore never seem to settle down...

Answer 8

Yes. Not so much cause of age, but because of life experience. He has already lived through his twenties, and you are not even there yet. I am 28, and there is no WAY I would want to have a 19 year old boyfriend. You have a lot to live through in your early-mid twenties, and you should experience all that with someone your own age.

Answer 9

if by 19 you mean a mature adult no hes not too old we reach adulthood we expect to beable to deal with adult realtionships but if you have to ask this is a different age than the one I grew up in and I thank god I didnt have to deal with this mentality when I was a teen.By the age of fourteen I had a job lived in a different city than my parents (with a sibling) and considered myself an adult the Law accepted me as an adult at 18 and from that point on I accepted the responsibilities for the decisons I made. But I realize that in todays world You are children up to the age of 21 incapable of so much as consuming a glass of wine with your meal maybe this is only sad to me but maybe I am old and don't understand the way the world works or something. So perhaps you are a mere child of 19 and much too young to carry on an adult realtionship and you should date only guys that are 19 good luck to you hope you reach adulthood by twenty-one or somewhere in there.

Answer 10

No. As far as I am concerned, once the 2 ppl involved are basically at the same level emotionally and mentally, they can make it work.

You can probably find someone who is closer to your own age, only to realize he's still a 'baby'.

My aunt was 21 when she met my uncle who was 56. That's 35 years apart and they had a wonderful marriage that lasted 29 yrs until he passed away. On the other hand you have my parents who were only 4 yrs apart who had 30 yrs of hell before giving up and going their separate ways.

This is just to illustrate age doesn't make it work or not, only the 2 ppl!!!

If you love each other, then make it happen for you.

Answer 11

its not so much that the 9 years is the problem
its that at 19 and at 28 you are at two different places
in your life. im 25 and when i was 19, i was 100% a different person.