Do you let them go, or fight to keep them?
2006-07-20 05:56:50 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I cheated on someone that I loved very much. People say if you love someone you won't cheat on them, but that is not always true. I had VERY low self esteem at that time and just "knew" he was cheating on me (turned out he wasn't) so I felt like I had to cheat on him for hurting me. It was once of THE worst things I have ever done in my entire life and I will never stop kicking myself in the *** for it. What's worse is we have a child together so we still have some contact, and he does whatever he can to make my life miserable. I apologized to him every day 20 times a day for a year and it did nothing. He lost all respect and love for me. I never stopped loving him though. I realize now we could never be together again and at this point I wouldn't want to be with him ever again because of the way he treats me now, but it took me about 11 years to "fall out of love with him" so to speak. Cheating sucks.
2006-07-20 06:06:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
If they are worth it fight to keep them but of course you have to keep this in mind that you did cheat on them and their trust level will be low for some time. Communication is always the key and you should talk about things. Be true to yourself if this is really what you want? Dont go back or fight just because do it because this is the person you feel will be there for you and make your life better. good luck hope all works out and remeber everyday you learn a new lesson in life
2006-07-20 13:16:41 · answer #2 · answered by Antonio 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, It sounds as if you do not know what you want. I say let him go for now. Work on yourself. Get on with your life, and explore yourself more. You may have cheated to give yourself an out in your relationship. He may be a good guy, but perhaps, You are not ready to settle down in a relationship. If he cares for you, then he will take you back. In the meantime, the only fight you need is the fight to find what you want out of life, and what makes you happy.
2006-07-20 13:23:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they found out that you cheated on them, you may have a hard time keeping them. Maybe you are just in love with the chase. Sometimes, you think you love someone more when you know you can't have them, but if you think it's worth fighting over, you need to do that.
2006-07-20 13:00:31 · answer #4 · answered by anonymous 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are two kinds of cheating physical and emotional. Physical is just human error. It can stem from being immature, drunk, or just plain stupid. Then there is emotional cheating, where in you are trying to establish feelings for the other person. So it depends, if you felt something for the other person, and if you did, it means you are emotionally avalible for someone else and the relationship will sooner or later come to an end. So think about why you cheated and inside this will be your answer. G'luck and be safe:)
2006-07-20 13:09:34 · answer #5 · answered by mieldor76 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, you're an idiot for cheating in the first place. But what's done is done.
John Christian Bovee quote
"A failure establishes only this, that our determination to succeed was not strong enough."
Fight, unless you think she/he would be better off with someone else. If you're going to cheat again, then let them go.
2006-07-20 13:06:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fight to keep them of course. But be prepared - you may well be fighting a losing battle ...
2006-07-20 12:59:37 · answer #7 · answered by Away With The Fairies 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends, you might want to fight to keep them but they may no longer want you to. I think it would take a lot of talking and working things out on both sides.
2006-07-20 13:00:10 · answer #8 · answered by muggle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
fight to keep them, but be prepared for a bumpy ride. once trust is lost it can be very hard to get back
good luck tho and i hope everything works out for you
2006-07-20 13:03:34 · answer #9 · answered by Amanda R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
fight to keep them
2006-07-20 13:03:59 · answer #10 · answered by bonnie3bd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋