I know this sounds like it belongs in jerry springer, but Im serious. I asked this question about 5 days ago or so, But I posted that she was 16, but she is really 15 1/2, and I also left out that she was my cousins daughter! I don't see them much, maybe about twice a year, but it seems that everytime I see her we both feel this connection that is amazing. I can't tell my family about this, so I just wanted to ask again if I should just forget about this girl or If I should wait until she turns 18 - 19 and ask her out. I wonder what the family would say? Also, I would like to add that im not a pervert, I would never ever think of touching her in any way, besides, she is 15 1/2 and smarter and more mature than some girls my age! So before you answer this question and acuse me of child molestation or some weird thing...don't. I would never ever do that. I just happen to meet the person of my dreams, she is almost half my age and my half cousin! This really sucks!
What should I do?
2006-07-20 05:54:58 · 19 answers · asked by sfumato 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well......if your not acting on it, no you are not a perv. Feelings and emotions is a b*. You can't predict how your going to feel about anyone (including relatives). You should let it be until she's older and let her decide if this is something she wants too. If she is as mature as you claim she is, when the time comes, she will totally respond to you but, until then allow her to grow and experience things (she is still growing you know) in life.
2006-07-20 06:04:36 · answer #1 · answered by Tee 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Really?? Look for someone else. Two very bad outcomes could happen and its best to say away.
1. she could get freaked that u actually want to act on this. Every girl at that age think about a distant or friend of the family that way. you just have to be mature to let it pass.
2. u could lose your whole family. this may not seem a bad thing but trust me. it will be end of your relationship with this girl forever.
Let her grow up and then in say 10 years ( cos she really NEEDS to have that time) see if you do still like her but dont do it, i say. i think its infactuation with her and u like that a younger woman (cos she just becoming one and learning the power over men she has) likes you.
Meet someone nearr your age and you may find that this is just a crush as i think it is on her side.
2006-07-20 06:02:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand the situation here but I would like you to think about this.
If a friendship/relationship is causing so many concerns do you really think they will reduce later on. I dont think people will get over it if you decide to get into it.
You are a mature person and she is just a kid. Sooner of later she will make you feel younger but she will grow out of her age without living it.
Also, being a person of anyone dreams means that they are right age and same stage in their lives which is defn not the case here. So, reconsider if she is the one.
This should set you up in right direction and make the right decision.
Take care.
2006-07-20 06:27:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should put thoses thoughts away and try to go out and find someone your age.You are not crazy think you just have a little problem.You lonely and you are looking for love in the wrong places.You need to get out and see if you can find something else.Maybe get on the chat line and pick up some woman that are your age.And think about things and take a good look at yourself.
2006-07-20 06:01:17 · answer #4 · answered by maybe your web cam is no good 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
k first off i agree this is some stuff for jerry. and second you really need to get over her she is a FAMILY MEMBER and she is 15 and ur 35 your old enough to be her dad and that would cause alot of trouble with your famil and yoru cousin so basicly i say FIND SOMEONE YOUR OWN AGE NOT A TEENAGER THAT IS HALF YOUR AGE and besides dating some one in yoru family means that u might do stuff like have s*x and doing that would make u a insest pervert!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-07-20 06:06:54 · answer #5 · answered by heartbreaker 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask Jerry Lee Lewis
2006-07-20 05:59:28 · answer #6 · answered by festus_porkchop 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
even though i dont understand this situation i am going to try and help... your likeing or love for her maybe be true but its not right to want to be with someone you are related too. not only is the age thing a big differance but you say you dont see her that often.. and for only being 15 years old she has no idea what love is even about, u being the more mature adult should consider jut letting this one go.. keep it at a family level and thats it
2006-07-20 06:02:27 · answer #7 · answered by okangeljenny23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget about her and move on. Most likely, it would cause problems in your family. If you're only seeing her once or twice a year, you really don't have the chance to KNOW her well enough to be in love with her anyway... Infatuated, perhaps, but not in love. It's time to start dating and leave this situation alone.
2006-07-20 05:59:49 · answer #8 · answered by Andi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what do you have in common with a 15 year old?
Watching MTV together?
No 15 year old is more mature than a 32 year old woman. Or
smarter.
What should you do? Nothing. Maybe find a woman you own age.
2006-07-20 06:02:00 · answer #9 · answered by Jenster*is*flipping*you*off 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U probably haven't had a relationship in long time.
This causes u to look at other options.
But u should look in another direction.
This is totally wrong. She is still child.
Even though she may be mature.
If u desire to have a mate, look to see if u
meet someone on line or dating svc.
Someone who u won't go to jail for or
hav any family conflicts with.
2006-07-20 06:04:15 · answer #10 · answered by Curious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋