does this make me a bad person?

Question

my cousin told me her deepest darkest secret that one time she tried to commit suiside (she doesn't have much self confidence) and my mom was home and i couldn't believe it and she heard me say OMG and stuff like that and when i hung up the phone she asked what happened and i didn't want to but i told my mom and i told her don't tell but she told her mom and said she was doin it for her own good and now my coisin is mad at me and won't talk to me, she's going for help too but does that make me a bad person for telling

Answer 1

No, you're too young to hold that kind of information to yourself. If she did it once, she might do it again. If she did it once, she obviously has some problems she can't deal with. It's better that her parents know.

Imagine how you'd feel if she did it again and succeeded and you could have stopped it. Just apologize to her for breaking her confidence but explain to her why. You then just have to wait for her to make the next move.

Answer 2

Dont get down on yourself on this you did the right thing now her mom can try to help her with her self confidence just think you did the right thing i mean imagine if she actually did atleast some one would know that she was actually thinking about it so dont get down on your self like that you did the right thing and it isn't your cousins fault and it isn't your fault either but you did do the right thing the only reason your cousin might be mad at you is because she probably got into a lot of trouble for it but it wasnt your fault.

Answer 3

Yes, in a way it does. It was meant to be a secret and you knew that. One reason your cousin might be mad is because of the amount of trouble you've gotten her into. Now she has to take counselling and help and that can be quite traumatic and stressful. You should have discussed it with her before telling your mom. I'm sure you wouldn't like it if someone on the internet spilled your darket secret and now a whole lot of users will be teasing you about it. That's how she must feel.

Answer 4

That doesnt make you a bad person at all. Think about if you didnt tell your mom and your cousin went through with the suicide. You would go on for the rest of your life thinking it was your fault because you knew but didnt tell anyone about it. You may have just saved her life. She'll come around when she realizes that and will kiss the ground you walk on for doing what you did.

Answer 5

It doesn't make you a bad person at all. You have to be act immediately in a situation like that. You can't take any chances. If she's having thoughts like that then she needs professional help or they're only going to get worse. She will probably be mad at you for a while, unfortunately. But once she gets the help she needs and she gets her head on straight, she will thank you for your consideration. She'll realize you only did it because you love her and you care about her. Don't worry. Everything will be ok. I had my friend get help and she was really mad at me but she called me one day crying, thanking me for my help. We've been so much closer ever since. I hope everything works out and your cousin gets the help she needs. Don't feel guilty for trying to help.

Answer 6

No that was the right thing to do I once had to break it to my best friends mom that she was bounceing thousands of dollars worth or bad checks that was hard to and she was mad at me for a long time but in the end she was greatful. This is about the same thing. Certain things can't be kept secret. If she were to hurt herself again and suceeded you would feel twice as bad.

Answer 7

Your cousin trusted you and you broke her trust. That makes you a bad person supreme

Yet at the same time anyone who tries to commit suicide needs help. Everyone thinks about suicide every once in a while (for me maybe once a year when I'm really pissed), but whoever is depressed to the point that they tried it.. thats different

I suggest you just not think about it. She'll forgive you in time

edit: and yes, I would have told my mom too. Suicide is serious business and the fact that she tried.. she needs help

Answer 8

no its not your fault. you said OMG and your mother was worried incase something happend. so she asked what happend. and you as her child had to tell her. if not then your mother would of thought that you were hiding something and she wouldnt trust you anymore. so you did not do anything wrong. your mother should not of spoken with your cousins mother, at least not yet. she should of talked with you and your cousin together and you two should of kept an eye on your cousin and in case something went wrong then that would be the best time to tell her mother. but dont worry. you didnt do anything wrong. you tell your cousin that its your mothers fault. she pushed you into telling her and your mother opened her mouth. but in some ways im glad your mother talked with your cousins mom. everyone shoudl keep an eye out on your cousin. she needs support and love at this time in her life. make her happy and make her forget about the stress in life.

Answer 9

In a way it's makes you a bad person for telling her *Deepest darkest secret* but in another way it makes you a good person for saving her life. Or did you? But anyways, I think she will get over it someday, and if not. Pray for her. =)

Answer 10

there is no such thing as a bad person in nature.

Sounds like you broke ur word girl! So are you someone who OUTRIGHT broke her word? Yes Damn right you are!

And i think what you did was appropriate and i would have done the same. You used your head.

Bad person. No freaking way.