2006-07-20 05:47:27 · 10 answers · asked by mury902 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I was telling my friend all about how I was going to have firm but kind rules, use postive reinforcement, etc. And she couldn't stop laughing. She it's never how you plan it to, but you do your best, and trust your kid will ok.
2006-07-20 06:41:43 · update #1
I vowed as a child that I'd be more understanding & more patient when I'm a mom myself & see everything from a child's point of view before I react.Well,needless to say,I have failed.I have not been able to make good of my vow and I'm not sure it's a total mistake.Sometimes,we all have to do what is best/safest in a situation,regardless of anything else.I'm sure I have over reacted for silly things & I have lost patience numerous times,everything that I was certain I will never do,when my time came.But being an adult does that to you sometimes.You have so many things going on in your life & you are pulled in so many directions that keeping your focus on being that "ideal" parent is not top of the priority,I guess.Atleast,I'm trying my level best in molding my children into the best individuals they can be,JUST LIKE MY MOM DID.And I'm proud abt myself for that.
2006-07-20 06:08:13 · answer #1 · answered by S S 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yep, I thought I was a good parent at one time I was always with my children, put them in sports, was involved in everything from PTA meetings to going to church even when my daughter got a boyfriend and seemed serious and mature at least for her age then I took precautions for her not to get pregnant, I was very open and honest with them, let them know that there are reprocusions for doing some of the things they shouldn't I thought I had it going on then Dec 31, 2005 (my birthday) my daughter and her boyfriend told me that they thought she was pregnant (16 yrs old) my world fell apart at that moment!! I was angry, mad, sad, disappointed, all at the same time, I couldn't even breath for a few seconds. Of course she is gonna have a babygirl next month (august 21st) and of course her and the boyfriend (that I don't approve of) are still together. My 15 yr old daughter likes a 20 yr old boy that I don't approve of and has one time or another ran away from home 'cause I told her she couldn't see him. My son which is 12 has watched all this happen around him and I only hope he has learned a few things. So then I have to take a look back and wonder just where the heck all this drama came from, I want to ask myself where did I go wrong? But then is/was it me or just them being typical teenagers? Only time will tell how all this unfolds, all I can do is hope for the best! I still love my children the same but it makes me realize why some females eat their young...lol! just kidding! Good luck in being parents!! Lord knows how hard we try!
2006-07-20 14:58:48 · answer #2 · answered by mslo25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Excellent question.
My answer is yes. and no.
I swore I'd never allow my children to throw temper tantrums in the store. I swore I'd never deprive them of everything their little hearts desire. I swore I'd never stand idly by while they scream at the top of their lungs.
But guess what???
I do.
Kids need to scream sometimes. Children need to know their boundries, and if that means they can't have the m&m's, so be it. Temper tantrums in the store are often inevitable.
I love my children to the ends of the earth and back. I tell them everyday how special they are. And how much I love them.
I think really, I am MORE than what I hoped I'd be. I never knew that being a mother was so fulfilling, and so challenging, and so much exactly what was missing from my life.
2006-07-20 12:59:27 · answer #3 · answered by Halo Rayn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you kidding?!!? I thought I would be a pro, My parents were foster parents, for years, as we were going up we constantly had babies in and out of the house, My first job was babysitting then I was a nanny while I was going to college...for what, Early Childhood Education. When I found out I was pregnant I was smug, unbearable, and over-confidant. I had my son by Cesarean and when they pulled him from my womb I swear every bit of knowledge I had acquired in my lifetime was pulled out with Him. I learned the golden rule that day: Nothing in this world is more humbling than, staring into the face of your newborn child. There I was thinking I was going to be one of those Super-Moms you see in Magazines, reality is June Cleaver I am Not. I consider it a good day when I only suffer one major aneurysm and four urges to drink!!!!
2006-07-20 13:09:36 · answer #4 · answered by Erin O. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a good question, besides the fact before I had children I'd say "my child will never do that" lol I think I am. I love being a mom and I love the unconditional love my child gives, and for the most part I think I am the best mom I can be.
2006-07-20 12:51:56 · answer #5 · answered by momie_2bee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Me and my husband both are. We both had kind of tough upbringings and knew when we had kids that we wanted to be great parents to the children and we are.
2006-07-20 12:50:39 · answer #6 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think I am , i think i need a little more patience but who doesn't . I love my kids as much as possible, i teach them right and wrong and tell them i love my beautiful babies multiple times a day
2006-07-20 12:56:22 · answer #7 · answered by manda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really I thought I wouldn't be able to do it, but I love being a mommy.
2006-07-20 13:14:55 · answer #8 · answered by Tara S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not really sometimes i get really upset at my son and over react and then after i feel guilty about it
2006-07-20 12:57:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no im just like my mother something i said i would never be
2006-07-20 12:50:39 · answer #10 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋