hey i am thirteen i like this girl but i dont know if she likes me back what do i do to test if she likes me?the girl i like is really good at soccer and so am i if that helps i know her from my cottage but i always need a third person to be with us so we can have some convorsation> she if pretty in my eyes but not in everyones shes seems to have alot of friends also im not the most sttractive guy but ide say im about average>also i only get to see her about three days a week but i can see her anytime during the day she hangs out with other people what do i do? i mean i dont hang out with her all that much i try to though im kinda shy to go by her and its not really like i can ask her on a date cause theres really no where to go and i know her parents dont really like me that much so there not gonna let here go with me i want to make her make the first move so her parents dont get freaked about me wanting to take there daughter somwhere and i cant get rejected cause i see her to much.
2006-07-20 05:42:38 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I need to know like when im sitting at a table with her like what to do to kinda give her hints that i like her and like i said i cant just ask her out cause if i egt turned down i see her to much. so that could be a problem and i cant really go on a date cause there is no where to go i can take her to get somthing to eat but i dont want her parents to know im taking her in a romantic kida way...also i cant ask any of her freinds anything cause its a cottage and she only has like 1 freind her age there cause theres only a few kids theres only like three kids my age there.. JUST ASKING HER OUT ISNT A OPTION!!!
2006-07-20 05:43:27 · update #1
u REALY need a life
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2006-07-20 05:46:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, "just ask her out" is the directest and more reliable
way of finding out what is going on here.
Of course, you can make it VERY subtle that you are asking
her out. This ranges from "Is this seat taken?" to "Want to
count the girders in the Eifle tower?"
Ultimately, what you really need to learn here is how to flirt.
It is a skill - and when you're 13, you are unlikely to have.
You acquire it by making mistakes - so that's OK. Just know
you're going to make a fool out of yourself. Believe me, women
appreciate it because they (by and large) don't think they could
do it.
So, go ask her if if she knows of any good movies playing.
Ask her what she likes about them.
Pay attention to her.
Eventually, you'll find it gets easier to actually ask her to
see one. And if you are subtle and don't make a big thing
about it, it won't hurt so badly when you occasionally get
turned down.
Remember: Nothing ventured, nothing gained.
The big trick here is to figure out what the difference between
being persistant (good) and being a pest (bad). If she makes
it clear that she would never ever want to see a movie with you,
you're better off assuming she knows what she wants.
Oh yeah, one more thing: You're 13. You have plenty of time!
2006-07-20 05:54:03 · answer #2 · answered by Elana 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-10 11:04:49 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, 1st of all, CALM DOWN. I want to address one issue you touch on slightly in your question, & then I'll move on to what you think is more important.
When I look back to when I was your age, my biggest regret is that I let myself be influenced by the approval of others in my choices over who to ask out on a date. ie: "she is pretty in my eyes but not in everyones" . I missed out on a lot of relationships that maybe could have been different if I had just gone with my own feelings instead of worrying what everyone else thought.
Nuff said on that. Is there a way you can test her to find out if she likes you without you having to take any risk, or put yourself out there? Sorry man, you have to take a chance or two, or you're going to wake up one day shaking her husbands hand at their wedding putting on a brave face while deep inside you are wondering "Gee, I could have been the guy marying her today, instead of this guy. If only I had gotten the nerve to ask her out somewhere back when I was 13". Try not to think of a date as a great big deal with a dinner, movie, limo & stuff like that. Try to ask her to go for a walk with you in the park, & talk about your common interests, like soccer, or the cottage, or something like that. After she has agreed to be alone with you a couple of times & it seemes like she was OK with that & not bored or scared, or anxious to go somewhere else, then it is very likely that she would agree to go on a simple date with you. Again, don't make a big deal out of it, just make it a movie or concert, or school dance. If her parents want to chapperone, go for it. After they start to trust you guys together, then you'll be able to consider a more formal kind of date. Whatever you do, don't wait for her to make the 1st move. While you are waiting for that to happen, some other guy with a little more nerve will step in front of you & ask her out, & that won't help you at all. You say that you are not the most attractive guy, but you won't know how she sees you until you make the 1st move. Go for it man, now not later. Do you feel some hands on your back? It's me pushing you out the door, go on, why are you still here reading this, get busy & go find her. Now she's out there waiting, & asking herself "Is he ever going to get up the nerve"? Go Now. Times a wastin.
2006-07-20 06:20:11 · answer #4 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, just kind of play with her. Like when you guys are playing soccer or whatever, always focus on being open so she can pass to you. If you're on opposite teams, try to get it from her constantly. Or if you're just messing around with the ball, play with her, using that as an excuse. Don't act too macho (turn off for girls at age 13) and maybe invite her to go out to dinner with you and a few of your friends and tell her she can invite anyone she wants. Smile at her a lot, and DON'T act like a jerk. If she likes you, she might get discouraged. You can email me for more ideas if you want. stupid_midgets_123@yahoo.com
2006-07-20 05:51:54 · answer #5 · answered by Confuzed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, I didn't bother reading the whole thing.
I used to be shy when I was your age too. If you are good friends with any of her friends try getting one of them to ask her. That's probably the only good way to do it.
If you like her, just ask her out!! Girls like guys who have confidence not ones that are afraid, if she finds that you are trying to find out if she likes you, she won't think that you are worth her time. Trust me, just swallow your fear and ask her nicely and honestly - no games no lines.
if she says no, then oh well, you will get that alot in life and you will have to deal with the no's. But the yes's are so worth it.
But you can't get a yes unless you go for it.
2006-07-20 05:52:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok hi!
man that sounds as if u have a really bad crush!
great! enjoy. Now to ur question..
yeah, just askin her on a date is not a question.
well, u should somehow find a way to make friends with her. thats the best way to get close to somebody- u just try to be urself , be fun and always respecting and charmin. u have a great chance to get to know her and everything else just happens by itself! Theres a good chance she gets to really LIKE U!
im a woman and believe me it works!
2006-07-20 05:53:19 · answer #7 · answered by veve 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem slightly OCD. Calm down. If you are observant you should be able to tell if a girl likes you or not. When you speak with her does she make and maintain eye contact? Lean slightly towards you? smile alot.? What's her body language? Does she have her arms crossed and her body turned away from you? That is not good. When you meet is it "Oh! fill in name here, hi!" Or is it "oh. hi." She is telling you if she likes you, you have to be able to interpret what she is saying
2006-07-20 05:52:01 · answer #8 · answered by horsinround2do 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm you're in a rough situation. your best bet is to become friends. as a friend her parents may realize the respect that you HOPEFULLY have. as you get closer to each other, she may come to like you.
2006-07-20 05:48:38 · answer #9 · answered by Drew P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋