I have a question and I hope you can give me honest straight forward answers. When YOU have sex with your lady what do you think about? Do you think about her or someone else? Do you ever think about other women when you are doing her? The reason I ask is I want to know..........Do men who watch porn think about the girls in the porn movies when they are making love to their lady? Please give me honest answers? I want to try and watch porn with my man but Im a little nervous that he will be thinking about the hot chick in the porn video and not me when we have sex.
2006-07-20 05:40:01 · 11 answers · asked by *♥* Igotorbs*♥* 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Very good point and question you bring up. Thank you very much. It has never crossed my mind to think of anyone other than my lady during sex. I have tried, largely unsuccessfully, to think of something other than how good she felt to delay ejaculation but never anyone else. We have watched porn together and the images are just ---well, images, that get me aroused and arouse her even more than me. To me porn is a tool to get us cranked up--it works on her better than on me but she is VERY reluctant to watch it. I suspect because of shame from childhood--perhaps connected to her inability to enjoy cunnilingus.
Having said all that, it is also true that human brains are wired in an incredibly large number of different ways and your guy MAY fixate on the porn images and leave you out. That will be impossible for me to believe unless he swears it to me on a stack of bibles, cross-his-heart-hope-to-die-if-he-lies, and passes a lie detector test. And THEN, I'll be a little suspicious.
Thnk about a picture with a live woman with all the equipment next to me? No way in h---.
Have you asked him? Unless he's got a heavy charge on it, he'll tell you true. Good luck. Hope you enjoy big time.
2006-07-20 06:07:18 · answer #1 · answered by DelK 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best sexual relations between a man and women is when both are in the correct mindset... There needs to be some form of connection
What I mean is, both individuals need to be looking not just for pleasure, but in what way to best give pleasure to the other. Unfortunately too many people go into sex just looking for that quick pleasure and trying to make it last as long as possible while they can. What they don't understand is that they need to "feel" what they other wants... try to sense it... and then do it!
And in doing so, not only will you give amazing pleasure to the other person, but you will find that you just had the most amazing time as well. If both people can do this at the same time and feel that connection... then it will be the greatest time of your life
2006-07-20 12:51:04 · answer #2 · answered by benh316 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think so...at least not that i can remember. when i'm with a girl i'm thinking about her all the way.
when ur having sex act out the scenes from the movie...he won't be able to think about anyone else but you!
or why don't you make ur own porn movies and watch them with him. that way you don't have to worry about him thinking about the girls in the porn movie that you just saw.
2006-07-20 12:47:52 · answer #3 · answered by murfeezlaw 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe me, it really depends on his own character . To me if I have sex with the woman I love I won't think someone else but if I have sex with someone I am not really love still I won't because it would be more scary when you open your eyes and found that she is not the one that you imagine!
2006-07-20 12:53:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've often thought the same thing about my man. But he is in bed with you, who cares what he is thinking about. Hey, why don't you think about someone else, then when you think that he is doing it you won't feel so bad. You will never know his thoughts, or any else's for that matter.
2006-07-20 12:44:58 · answer #5 · answered by fluff_ball 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In all honesty I don't really think about one single thing for too long. It's just a collage of many things.
2006-07-20 12:44:14 · answer #6 · answered by "THE BEAST" 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I only think about her - how am I pleasing her and her reactions to what I am doing to her.
2006-07-20 13:15:03 · answer #7 · answered by Wolf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I think about is pleasing my wife.
2006-07-20 12:44:53 · answer #8 · answered by benninb 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i dont, i think of ma gurl and how much im enjoying the moment
2006-07-20 12:44:36 · answer #9 · answered by Ladies Pleaser 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i foucus on the task at hand
2006-07-20 12:46:45 · answer #10 · answered by MARK C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋