i love my boyfriend very much we have been together a long time 3 years. now he wants to have a baby, at first i thought he was just kidding but he's 4 real . were so young what should i do im only 15
2006-07-20 05:25:51 · 18 answers · asked by lilmoka22 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he's 17 and he has a job but enery time i tell him were not ready he threatens me and says he will put a hole in the condom
2006-07-20 05:36:47 · update #1
Ok here are a few questions:
1. Do you have a job to pay for the medical bills? (it can cost up to $75,000.00 in medical bills)
2. Do you have a job to support a baby? it can cost up to $200.00 to $300.00 dollars a week in formula, diapers, medicine, etc. for a baby)
3. Do you have your own apartment? (rent can cost about $ 1,000.00 a month)
4. Do you have health insurance in case your baby gets really sick and needs major surgery?
5. Do you have at the very least a high school diploma so that you don't end up working at McDonalds the rest of your life so that you kid has a good example of how important education is. You do want your kid to proud of you don't you?
6. Do you really think this guy is going to be around for the rest of your life? Couples who are a lot more mature, and who have lived a lot more, and who have been with other people have had children and gotten married because they thought it would last and they end up getting divorced. Once this kid gets a whiff of some other girls little koochy he will cheat on you and maybe even leave you whether you have a baby or not!
7. If he really loves you he would not be asking you to have a baby at 15 years old.
8. Kick him in the balls.
9. Think about it honey. Don't screw up your whole life at 15 over some boy. Think about what you really want to do in life and try to imagine trying to reach your goals while you have a baby permanently attached to your hip. It won't be easy and chances are you'll end up with a kid that's all screwed up because nothing went according to plan. Take care of your self and what you want out of life first. If this boy really loves you he'll back you up on this.
10. Please grow up to be a strong woman who doesn't need a man in her life to complete her. Be a woman who has a man in her life to enhance her.
I'm 36 with an education and a great paying job and I'm still struggling to suport my daughter.
Good luck.
2006-07-20 05:49:12 · answer #1 · answered by zmebme 2 · 12⤊ 1⤋
No way girl don't do it you are soooo young! I mean take it from me that I got married at 17 and had a baby at 18, I know im no the one to advice you but really dont do it. We both wished we waited a few more years before me getting pregnant because its a really big responsibility and everything changes. Youre boyfriend doesnt know it right now but he will regret it later on. Even if you plan to stay with this guy, live a little longer, enjoy beeing with him. You both still have a lot to live.
2006-07-20 05:38:19 · answer #2 · answered by deva 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you crazy?? No, I would not have a child at this point in your life. What sort of financial resources do you have to care for the kid? It's also incredibly difficult to advance your career professionally while raising a child. If you go to college (which I highly recommend), you would be completely outside the normal social circle--you can't go out to dinner or clubs or anything like that as often when you are raising a 4 year old. Plus, what kind of life would your baby have at this point? Two parents who are both in high school, struggling to make good careers for themselves. My parents were in college when I was born (actually, I was about 6 by the time they graduated from college) and believe me, it stressed them out and me out. They were always so worried about money, and subsequently, I was (and still am) worried about money. There will be long-lasting consequences on your child that may not be all positive if you were to have a kid at this point in your life.
2006-07-20 05:33:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, you are considering ruining your life!!! You have a whole life ahead of you, your 15!!! He won't even be ther to raise a baby, and what then? Get yourself into counseling immediatly, if not sooner. I have three kids, there is nothing more wonderful in the world....when your ready. You have no clue yet, it will not be so wonderful for you if you do it. You are unprepared, rightfully so. Enjoy your life, you have plenty of time to be tied down.
2006-07-20 05:32:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that a 15-year-old's body is not ready to have children, even though it happens all the time. The babies aren't as healthy as they could be if you waited.
If he is older, he might be ready to start a family, but you are too young.
2006-07-20 05:29:58 · answer #5 · answered by Nosy Parker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHAT!! you're only 15! Wow sweetie, you have your whole life ahead of you and you need to tell him the same dont let him pressure you!!! Sit down and have a long talk with this guy!
2006-07-20 05:29:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him u r too young and don't want to rush and be tied down caring for the baby now and u have a future to think about
2006-07-20 05:30:14 · answer #7 · answered by Bill C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's probably just a scam for him to get into your pants....tell him to give you $4000.00 upfront (roughly the cost of a kid the first year for formula, diapers, etc.), then see how eager he is?
2006-07-20 05:29:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are way to young for a baby . And how old is he ?
2006-07-20 05:30:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey wait please you guys are not ready to make that decison yet. you are not even old enough to work without a permit, or drive for that matter. it will be best to wait until you are mature enough to have a home and be able to support yourselves as well as a baby
2006-07-20 05:30:09 · answer #10 · answered by sexybeeotch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋