We have only dated for a short time and last night he said he was ready and I just totally chickened out. I got all nervous and flustered. I know I'm good in bed but man I'm really nervous. I want him so bad but when I had the chance my nerves took over. Maybe I just want to make sure he is ready. I'm not sure. I'm thinking about doing a romantic night tonight, to lead up to an awesome night! I just want it to be memorable for him and I'm scared. Help!!
2006-07-20 05:20:15 · 23 answers · asked by browneyegirl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we are both over 21 although i am older then him.....
2006-07-20 05:28:04 · update #1
If you are nervous and scared, do not do it. You have to be ready and so does he. You have only been dating for a short time? Relationships can change after sex. Make sure your relationship is ready too.
2006-07-20 05:24:32 · answer #1 · answered by k-mac 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do it and the relationship is over. why am i so certain? you said you've only been dating a short time. what this says is the two of you have not deveoloped an ability to communicate yet. communication takes time. it doesn't happen over a 2 or 3 month period. your body and mind are telling you SLOW IT DOWN, CHICA!
sex is different when it's with someone you truly care about and when it's with someone you know isn't the long term answer to your hapiness (ie. someone you can marry). perhaps you chickened out because you know this isn't the guy for you and you don't want to be the one to take his first away. these are all things that need to be talked about and communicated to each other. if you can't do that, talk about sex with out giggling or feeling weird, then the two of you aren't mature enough in your relationship to be having sex either.
2006-07-20 05:28:32 · answer #2 · answered by Choose Life 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-02 00:04:55 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you just weren't ready, to be his first. I know that when I decided I was ready, my fiance said 'no', for about a week or two, before he said yes, because he wanted to make sure I was absolutely sure about it. He didn't want to go along with something, that I would later regret.
Date him for a little bit longer, since you've said it's only been a short time. I think it should be atleast 6 months into a relationship before sex occurs, anyways.
2006-07-20 05:24:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That means your a good person, and you think about other's before you think about yourself. You know you want to make sure the night he loses his virginity is special for him, because when that happens he'll remember it forever.
Just a note, when guys lose their virginity to a girl, it's hard to get them away. We think it's love automatically, maybe that's what your scared of.
2006-07-20 05:24:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats nice of you to make it "Memorable" for him. I think you have a good idea, making a nice night for him. Just make sure that YOUR ready first and then him. After that...have fun *wink*
and protection is your best friend
hope it helps
2006-07-20 05:26:17 · answer #6 · answered by xrequiemofdeathx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh come on....just ride his brains already! if you take charge that is all that is needed to make it a memorable one for him. A romance night is a nice idea, but not really a guys thing...its more for yourself..but if thats whats needed to keep your nerves down...then by all means girlfriend...romance him..but for goodness sake, don't keep him waiting any longer.
2006-07-20 05:27:01 · answer #7 · answered by Crazy Bch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you really like this guy and want it to be special..and that's all good..
but make sure your ready to commit to that part in a relationship..
have fun getting to know each other in every parts of a relationship before bringing sex into it..make sure it's gonna last..
and then all that will come naturally.
2006-07-20 05:23:18 · answer #8 · answered by joschaos 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How OLD are you anyway? If you're old enough to be having sex, then I say don't worry about it, as long as he's comfortable. If you're under 16, I'm gonna have to say that you're setting yourself up for a life of possible failure with your promiscuous ways. Casual sex is a danger. Be careful.
2006-07-20 05:24:36 · answer #9 · answered by Confuzed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex for the first time is scary, specially if you really feel like you care about that person cause you want it to be perfect!! Dont rush it, it will be ok!
2006-07-20 05:24:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋