Okay, I'm a college student & I was at the bus stop yesterday, and some guy (he was ur typical Guy-at-the-bus-stop, probably has a part-time job, and didn't go to college) just came up to me and said
"Mm. Mm. Mm. Damn!"
"How old are you?"
"You have a boyfriend?"
I answered all his questions but wondered how come a guy in college/ a successful guy wouldn't have the courage to just step up 2 a girl like that. That was the forth time that happened at the bus stop, and it was the same type of guy.
2006-07-20 05:19:15 · 10 answers · asked by AfroSistah 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Im a 20 year old college fraternity guy so what I say here... counts doublely for me...
A lot of successful and nice, smart, college guys are simply not used to a lot of rejection. We can't stand it because we always want to succeed. The fear of failure in any way, shape, or form completely drives us mad. This makes us great guys for relationships because we will do anything to be the best guy you've ever dated. We really will work hard to keep you if you give us the chance.
The college girls who get us college guys like you speak about are the ones who initiate first... Don't be flustered by your intimidating looks and appearance... use it to your advantage and make the first move. After that, Im sure things will be easy going from there. Women really have nothing to worry about when approaching us college guys. It's the guys who are scared to death, ironically.
So just go out there and initiate girl! And pass this information on to your friends and their friends! Us college guys need a break!
2006-07-20 05:45:51 · answer #1 · answered by benh316 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
As a college student myself, I know that it has nothing to do with being in college. The "typical bus-stop guys" are probably desparate. Guys like myself are either very shy or simply realize that if you're in college and successful like ourselves then you probably don't have the time to pursue a relationship. Most of the time I figure why bother...sure there's an attractive girl out there but why break her heart and mess with my own. Yet another possibility, is maybe you aren't sending the right signal or you are sending mixed signals. Guys may need a hint that you're interested, no one wants to walk blind on a limb. Hope this helps....
2006-07-20 05:27:12 · answer #2 · answered by Loveisajoke 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because guys in college are on the education tip and can't be bothered by women. Yes I know dumb right but it is true they are so focused on the work or the whole scene they become more timed and shy away from women during their studies. And guys that are in college are not there just to meet women unless he comes from a rich family than can support him even if he fails.All and all guys that are not in college spend most of their free time chasing women and that's why they are not at all afraid to approach you
2006-07-20 05:32:26 · answer #3 · answered by omenus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys in college are use to being around the typical college woman, i.e., feminist, sarchastic, entitled (in short, intimidating). Please note, im NOT talking about City College here, the women there are different, more "normal". College women are pretty scary, and it only takes being shot down once or twice by a sarchastic bag of douche to learn to never do that again. If you're a "normal" woman in college, Im sorry, but get use to dudes p*ssy-footing around with you until they find out more about you. Its funny... college is alot like high school like that. Anyway, you have to decide what kind of guy you want, but college pussifies most men. Alternately, you can do what I did... Both my wife and I are college educated, but we met in church. Hope this helped
2006-07-20 05:33:23 · answer #4 · answered by darthhk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe its the way your dressed that makes the college/successful guy look the other way. I don't know, but if its something that happens on a consistent basis, it has to be something with you! Maybe you can start a study group on campus or get with a discussion group and talk about it. Good luck!
2006-07-20 05:24:41 · answer #5 · answered by City slicker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because they're too shy and fear rejection. I'm 16 and never had a gf, for the aforementioned reason. I'm also ranked third in my class of 1100 and could probably be successful in almost any career
2006-07-20 05:27:19 · answer #6 · answered by Josh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's anything like me he's really nervous.Girls don't talk to me, so I get nervous around them.
2006-07-20 05:23:58 · answer #7 · answered by DJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mayb ur breath smell
2006-07-20 05:28:33 · answer #8 · answered by kzzxguy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
same reason women don't do the same...why can't YOU do some asking, princess?
2006-07-20 05:23:59 · answer #9 · answered by R J 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Fear of rejection and hearing you say "no".
2006-07-20 05:24:41 · answer #10 · answered by sandberg42 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋