My best friend has a cousin that wants to go with me and she gave him my number when I told her not 2. He is very fat and is very dark skinned. He calls me everyday and asks me if we go together and i always respond "I don't know yet". He has a great personality but I just cant stop thinking about how unattractive his. When I try 2 ignore his calls he always calls from someone else number. If I tell him I don't wanna go with him he is going 2 wanna know y. How do I tell him he is unattractive without hurting his feelings?
2006-07-20 05:15:43 · 40 answers · asked by Dancin♥Qu33n 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Like someone else said by saying, I don't know yet, you're giving him hope, when you know you're going to say no. If you like his personality, then go out with him once, and if you enjoy it, and he asks you out again, then go out with him. but if you don't have a good time, the next time he asks you out, just tell him no. It is hard to tell someone, that likes you, that you don't like him, but you're going to have to do it a lot. So you have to be able to let him down easy. Don't tell him you think he's ugly, it will just hurt him, a lot. I hope i helped! : )
2006-07-20 05:39:26 · answer #1 · answered by Sweetie Pie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be upfront with this guy but not in a way that will make him feel like he's nothing. Tell him that you think he is very sweet but right now he's just not what you're looking for . Do also let him know that you wouldn't mind being just a good friend that he can confide in when he has issues. If he doesn't except any of this and continues still trying to want to be with you then im sorry to say but baby it looks like you have a stalker on your hands. You really need to let him know that you dont appreciate the fact that he's calling you from different numbers either. Do what i do, just dont answer the phone if it's just a number and no name. If the phone call is important then that person will leave you a message letting you know who they are and you can decide whether to call that person back or not. GOOD LUCK!
2006-07-20 05:24:54 · answer #2 · answered by TASHA T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello. Well to answer ur question, i might be a little harsh but....
First thing first, u are to soft hearted when dealing with this kind of ppl. Don u think its best to tell him off that u are not interested in him??
U should not even be bothered how he feels as by using other ppl phone to call u, unintentional lots of ppl will have ur number and might start disturbing u as and when they feel like it.
The best thing i can advise u to do is to change ur phone number and strongly advise ur friend not to pass around without permission. U are a kind hearted person by nature(don ask me how i know) Don let it be ur weak point.
If u don't have the heart to do that, i really donno how to advise u on it. U can't keep running the will be a day u will have nowhere to run. Gd luck.
2006-07-20 05:27:35 · answer #3 · answered by Headache 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can do two things here.
1) Just try a single date with him. From there you can either
A) If you liked it purse him
B) Use that as the reason he will look for as to why you wont
date him
2)Just flat out tell him. "Im sorry,[insert name] you're really kind but I just dont think it will work out between us. Your a good guy but we arnt ment for each other." From there improvise. If you want to be friends add that or even suggest that you will find a girl to hook him up with
If you dont want to talk to him again ask him to no longer call you. If he continues record the numbers he's using using caller ID and file a police report.
Also to your best friend i think she needs a long talking to about giving out your phone number to guys that you say no too.
hope it helps
2006-07-20 05:22:46 · answer #4 · answered by xrequiemofdeathx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him you don't feel the chemistry between the two of you. Don't be mean!
Something I will always think if funny is that I went to my 15 year class reunion last year and all the girls in high school that thought they were all that are all overweight and dumpy looking now, and all the guys that were complete nerds are totally hot now so try not to judge to harshly you never know what he'll be 15 years from now! Good luck to you :-)
2006-07-20 05:27:14 · answer #5 · answered by Karen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try being his friend. Go places on a friendly level. If after being his friend you still aren't romantically attracted to him you will still have a friend. If he keeps sweating you about romance let him know you feel pressured by him and that is not the type of guy you are looking for. I would tell him you want to be friends and if something else happens later fine but if not you would love to be his friend but you like someone else.
2006-07-20 05:25:08 · answer #6 · answered by Suesan W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that you aren't interested in a love relationship, tell him you want to be friends. Don't lead him on with "I don't know yet" just be as honest as you can and maybe he'll quit calling you so much, and if you do become JUST friends then you won't ever have to feel guilty about anything. Just tell him you aren't attracted to him in that way.. Honesty is the best policy, as if you've never heard that before.
2006-07-20 05:21:51 · answer #7 · answered by shannkitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely do not mention he is unattractive. You don't need to lower his self esteem in the process of letting him know you aren't interested in a relationship with him.
You can tell him that you are not looking for a relationship right now, or that you'd rather just be friends.
Either way, he'll be a little hurt, but he'll get through it.
2006-07-20 05:18:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be up-front with him...tell him you aren't looking for a relationship nor do you want to date at this point in time.
Ask him to please stop calling so often, or you will not even be able to remain friends, (if you are friends). Tell him that you need time for yourself and not have to worry about someone else in your life right now. You want and need to concentrate on yourself.
NOW for the best friend...she certainly would get a major tongue-lashing from me and I would seriously re-consider her 'best friend' status in my life. If you cannot trust your best friend, then you need to travel down a different road without her.
2006-07-20 05:44:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you don't need to tell him he's unattravtive at all....I would just say you know Johnny - I'm really not wanting to be in a relationship right now and to be totally honest you are calling a bit too much which is making me feel pressured. I'd liek to keep our relationship as friends only.
As for your friend I'd put that heiffer in check and don't talk to her for a while until she apologizes on her knees. good luck
2006-07-20 05:19:31 · answer #10 · answered by Mary 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋