I am just so tired of dating guys who do nothing but take take take. They are stingy with their time and money. I don't see anything wrong with having a man who buys his woman gifts and stuff. I really want to find a guy who is generous in all ways and makes me feel special instead of used. I have met guys who should be making good money with their jobs and they have no dependents and are long divorced but they don't seem to live lilke it. Why would a guy who makes 100K live in a small apartment instead of having a house, and especially in his 50's already? And saving on electric, the people I have met that make good money usually run theirs all the time and don't worry about it. If a guy lives below his means, is he cheap or is he lying about his income?
2006-07-20 05:09:56 · 4 answers · asked by reallyfedup 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, i used to date cheap stingy ******* too. In my opinion, you have to insist that a man must take you out-whether he makes 30000 or 500000. You don't have to verbalize this, but you have to turn down those guys that just want to hang out. If he says, let's get together, you have to ask, "Where, and what do you want to do?" This sets up the situation that you are expecting him to open his wallet, when it comes to taking you out. It's not about emptying his banking account, it's about him understanding that you could stay at home and watch television, and you don't need someone for that sort of stuff. You also must not sleep with a man, until he proves that he isn't think that he's getting a bargain. He may not say it, but he wants a challenge. He wants to woo you, and impress you, if you let him. You can't go to his home, unless it's for ten minutes or less, nor can he come over to your home. He has to work up to the priviledge of your company. My boyfriend always tries to get me to sit in his house on a date night. Never--even if we just end up at the movies, I'm not letting him think that he's got me to bend backwards. Maybe in a few months, when it's knocked into his head how good a woman he has, I will settle for a Blockbuster night. I'm not condoning being a gold digger, but I do feel men are getting bargains on women that are worth so much more than they're shelling out. With my own change in attitude, men have offered me vacations, tuition, a new car, jewelry. I didn't take any of it, nor did I take them, because they didn't get the point, but men realize they have to work to prove their loyalty and adoration. Overall, the goal is tobe with a man that values me, and that is loyal and dedicated. You really can't give it all up, and expect them to still want to pay for what they already got for free.
2006-07-20 05:45:13 · answer #1 · answered by Sasha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say see how he spends when he is out with you. Not just in quantity but quality. Does he treat you to nice places or and things just over all interest in making your time with him memorable. Also if he does not talk constantly about money like he his showing off. That does not mean anything. Let him show you what you mean to him. Key thing he could start off slow with flowers and move on to greater things. Look for real interest that means price is no problem just your happiness
2006-07-20 05:21:58 · answer #2 · answered by omenus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mayebe he wants to save or he is just cheap
you're probably falling for the guy to quickly and they think of you as someone not worth spending money on
Its all how a person puts theirself out there in life
U need to find u a good man that doesn't mind spending a little and don't be in a rush
2006-07-20 05:15:05 · answer #3 · answered by sweetcherry4u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you focus on superficial things a lot.
No one can TAKE what you don't GIVE.
Maybe this cheapo is tired of women who "take, take, take"
2006-07-20 05:18:09 · answer #4 · answered by R J 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋