My sister is 22. She has 6 kids already. All from the same father. The kids are 7,6,5,4,3,2. She was 15 when she gave birth to her one. None of them were planned. If you know any one or are a person in this situation what was it like. Each time she was pregnant my parents wanted to kill her. She lives in a 3 bedroom apt. She works 2 jobs and her bf works 3.
2006-07-20 04:58:10 · 10 answers · asked by Kelly M. 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
She was never on bc. She graduated high school. But never even made it to college. Her bf dropped out of school in 11th grade.
When the first was born she was 15 and her bf was 18.
2006-07-20 05:01:38 · update #1
If she is living on her own and taking on her responsibilities herself instead of sitting at home and getting welfare, more power to her.
2006-07-20 05:01:44 · answer #1 · answered by gEt In ThE cAr [DaRnIt] 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow thats a lot of kids and there only a year apart. I thought I was bad. I have a step son who is 4 1/2 that I've raised since he was 6 months. I gace birth to my daughter 2 months before his 2nd b-day. And now I'm having another in the next couple weeks. My kids are 2 years apart and thats hard enough as it is. I feel for your sister. But has she honestly ever tried birth control. Cuz from experience. I'm done for a while. I just hope I don't change my mind and want another baby in a couple years. There so damn expensive and I like my money.
2006-07-20 12:03:17 · answer #2 · answered by lillady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whew! I feel bad for her! Everyone wanted to kill me for having 3 kids all 2 years apart beginning when I was 17. It is really hard at 22 to have 3 kids let alone 6! If she loves her kids and she is good to hem and provides for them, then I think it is okay. Hopefully she is getting government assistance such as WIC and stuff. Working so much to support them HAS to suck. I know it would be almost impossible to find the time, but with that many kids maybe she could get enough assistance to go to school or take some courses on-line to get a higher paying job so she won't have to work so many hours. With my grants I was getting enough I could cut back on work hours while going to school. She has a tough road ahead of her, but with the love and support of her family she and her kids should be just fine!
2006-07-20 12:07:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 20 I had 4 kids, ages 3,2 and newborn twins. It wasn't easy. I was married to their father for 10 years, but I would consider myself a single mother since he never worked much to help support them. They are now all teenagers and are very close to each other. I couldn't have done it without the support of my family.
You should be thankful that your sister's boyfriend is helping to support them. I understand your concern for your sister and can tell you that the best thing you can do is volunteer to help with the kids as much as possible. Offer to help get some chores done for them. What they need now is support and lots of it.
Talk to them about a permanent form of birth control. Children are a blessing from God, but He also provided us with common sense and having that many children at such a young age takes a toll on a woman physically, emotionally and socially. Let them know your concerns, but do it with love and kindness.
Support, Support, Support - I don't think I can say it enough!
2006-07-20 12:53:45 · answer #4 · answered by lady left the tramp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has anyone ever spoken to this woman about conscientious birth control options??? Besides the effort of trying to support SIX children under the age of 10, what about the greater impact of all these kids on the world?! (not just hers but ALL the people who have a gob of kids!!!)
There are a BUNCH of BC options, the pill, the shot, sterilization... and a new type of sterilization for women that is non-surgical even! Encourage her to look into it, will you??? If not for her & her partner's sake, or the kids' sake, then for your parents' sake - they're likely to have a heart attack somewhere along the way!!!
2006-07-20 12:02:50 · answer #5 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's on her own and taking care of her responsibilities more power to her. But 6 kids are alot especially so close together. I am 21 married and have 2 girls about 1 year 4 months apart and my goodness it is a handful. But like i said if she's handling hers then it really isn't any of your parents business.
2006-07-20 16:46:27 · answer #6 · answered by mysteriouskisses12 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 19 and i will have two girls that are 12months apart. Oh yeah, and I'm single. I'm still pregnant with her sister, and my daughter just turned a year old on Tuesday, so I don't know what it will be like, but I know it's gonna be hard for the first couple years, then it will all go smoothly.
2006-07-20 12:14:01 · answer #7 · answered by AuroraBorealis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To have that many children at 22 and not married is crazy. I guess they are trying to support them but geeze...that is a lot of kids! Maybe she should think about birth control or getting her tubes tied!!!
2006-07-20 12:02:09 · answer #8 · answered by itsjustme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thegirl i babysit for is 22 and her kids are 3-2-1 she has her hand full because the kids dad does not live with her
2006-07-21 09:42:40 · answer #9 · answered by mamawdebbie45 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as long as they are providing for the children they brought into the world then i think its ok...my cousin has twins and triplets about 14-15 months apart....but she didnt have the twins untill she was 22 and married to a REALLY RICH guy...so I wouldnt know how it would be if it was me!
2006-07-20 12:23:53 · answer #10 · answered by sjeboyce 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋