It seems like I take the role in being a girlfriend part-time or something. I'm only in a relationship whenever my boyfriend has time for me. He doesn't work, he has no children, yet, and nothing else to do. He can go for days without talking to me, and then just pop up out of no where and act like everything is fine. He says i'm asking too much out of him. But, if there is one thing I can't stand, it is to be "sort of" dating , or just not really knowing what my relationship is all about. I would just break up with him, but I am pregnant with his baby, and I would like to try to work things out. I want it all or nothing at all, does anyone agree with me?
2006-07-20 04:51:47 · 13 answers · asked by Littlemissy 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm six months pregnant, and he thinks my hormones are all screwed up because I want him around all the time. BUT....I have 2 children from a previous marriage plus I go to school everyday, and I have responsibilities that I tend to everyday. I don't need him around......but it would be nice to know if he will be or not. Probably just a waste of my time, I know, I know!
2006-07-20 05:03:07 · update #1
Wow! Your story sounds so much like what I was going thru about 11yrs. ago when I had my daughter... I won't get into all the gruesome details, I'll just tell you that it sounds like he's no where near ready for a "serious" relationship. He wants to have you when HE wants to, but not full time. I know from experience that that's a tough road to follow!!!
I chose to tell my then boyfriend that I understood he wasn't ready to settle down and I had no intention of "trapping" him, so I was breaking up with him. I told him I wanted to have nothing to do with him, although if he wanted to be involved with the baby that was his decision to make... I wouldn't stand in his way or force him to do anything.
I know it's hard, especially since you're having a baby... but if you let him walk all over you now, it will never stop! I wish you the best of luck and hope this somehow helps!
2006-07-20 05:01:26 · answer #1 · answered by Brandi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm in a part-time relationship, and I see him everyday!!!
Back to you, he's probably nervous for what's to come with the new baby and all. He could just be getting all the partying out of his system before he has to settle down for good. If he calls you his boyfriend and he seems to have a problem spending time with you, other than on 'his time,' you should probably not waste your time with this one. Just cause you're pregnant with his baby, doesn't mean you guys have to be together if you're not happy. There is no 'sort of' dating...either you're a couple or he's just your baby's daddy. You're going through enough emotions being pregnant and all. If he's not going to be there for you and be supportive of ya'll's baby, he shouldn't be a part of your life at all. Is he gonna be a part-time daddy too??? Love yourself and don't worry about anything else but that precious baby blessing you're going to bring into this world. I'll pray for you and your family..God Bless!
2006-07-20 05:07:52 · answer #2 · answered by Shining Ray of Light 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is obvious he is not serious about this relationship.
Instead of confronting him try one of these followings.
If there is a common friend whom you both trust & respect, let him/her speak to your boyfriend to know exactly his mind on the future of this relationship.If he does not give a clear answer and tries to buy time,It is not a good sign.Ignore him and move on with your life.
Write to him about your true feelings and expectations from him. Insist on a quick response.Let him read it in your absence.If the response is positive and immidiate feel good about it and try to sort out the differences,if it is otherwise,you must ignore and move on.
This way you will be making yourself clear to him while allowing him to react independently.This will also relieve you from future guilt that you never gave him a chance to amend.
2006-07-20 05:15:38 · answer #3 · answered by baba 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear! That's not good. If you're pregnant with his child he needs to be there for you and the baby. If he's not man enough to do that, then you need to let him go now and get on with your life instead of waiting around for him because he probably won't be there. Talk to him and tell him that he's either going to be there, or not, it's his choice.
2006-07-20 04:54:59 · answer #4 · answered by Justsyd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I agree with you completely, but all guys act different when the weather is good, so maybe its just a thing he is going through. No matter what it is I hope things get better.
2006-07-20 04:57:05 · answer #5 · answered by ronce_1118 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah u took a good disission but i dont know how much happy u will be with that man...who does care abt ur feelings and has no resposibility but still u can try to make him understand that what u want from him...nways ...good luck.
2006-07-20 04:57:47 · answer #6 · answered by Stary 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit him down and let him know exactly how you feel. Then if he doesn't straighten up and do you right move on and turn him into the state for child support.
2006-07-20 05:00:23 · answer #7 · answered by J P 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me understand. You feel like you are sort-of dating but you can't stand sort-of dating? You've answered your question exactly the way I'd answer it. What about your own judgment do you not trust?
2006-07-20 04:57:38 · answer #8 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure he has no other girlfriend? It looks like you are a spare tire.
Tell him you are pregnant and ask himwhere does he plan to go from here.
2006-07-20 04:58:18 · answer #9 · answered by Street Smart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me,like your not the only girlfriend he has!if he is not giving you what you need ,move on and find someone that will!
2006-07-20 04:55:35 · answer #10 · answered by cyndi b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋